Looking For Your Happy Ending? 😏

[Sparkling 💎]

Happy ending is just being happy.

In terms of some of the previous comments I just want to add a little bluntly:

A chat room is a chat room and anyone can have a say in it no matter what the previous topic was/is.

I was once lambasted via DM about just wanting to engage with the room by joining in on an ongoing conversation by saying they had had a shitty day and did not need “me” to make it even worse by adding in my 2 cents in the chat room. They had been having a great conversation until I joined in apparently.

When I understood that they were upset with me I apologized and said it wasn’t my intention to ruin their day and apologized again if that was the case then I was told it isn’t a real apology because I said “that wasn’t my intention”. My apology wasn’t accepted that day. I still do not know what I did that required such a show down….it just was such a difficult time for me as I was dealing with grief as well…in addition to all this and the user knew that as I had said it in the chat room..

Ah well it’s old history anyway it’s better to stay in one’s lane. I checked with Michael the next day about this and he said it’s a chat room anyone can chime in at any time and nobody has to wait for others to finish what they are talking about etc.

I was encouraged by his advice because that helped me a lot that I had not done anything wrong by joining an existing conversation. Therefore I always encourage anyone joining and am ready to be what I am meant to be no matter what other people have said to me in the past. I try to stand up for myself and make changes still keeping together my values of being kind but I sometimes have to stand up for myself especially if something like that happens again. So I try to help others find their voice too and not suffer in silence..

Michael has been a great support to know what the rules are and that has helped ease me through each transition. As have other wonderful people here but it is difficult because we don’t really expect that kind of behavior out of the blue coming at us and we aren’t really prepared to handle it. It is quite traumatic tbh.

But standing up to it helps one feel less powerless. So I am all for self expression and finding your power. As Lola said long back in another forum post, this behavior has to be called out and can’t be swept under the rugs.

Best to all,
Sin

[Lola]

Exactly, Gih! 😂 Brazil isn’t exactly a surprise destination. If someone isn’t willing to travel, why pretend otherwise? There’s nothing wrong with wanting a few pictures or some naughty conversation, but don’t dangle the possibility of a relationship just to get them. I don’t blame you one bit for hitting that block button! ❤️

[Lola]

Henrique, a Catfish ABF Edition could be quite entertaining! I do hate that you’ve formed such a disappointing impression in just 48 hours, though. There are some genuinely lovely people here, and I hope you’ll get to know them. I agree that calling out bad behavior and helping people navigate the site matters, but I wouldn’t want the worst examples to define the whole community. And no need to apologize on behalf of all men. Everyone is responsible for their own behavior. 🫶🏻

[Lola]

Bill, I think you’ve touched on something important. Sometimes people genuinely don’t know what they want until they’re faced with the reality of it, and that’s very different from deliberately misleading someone. I also think it’s unfortunate that people who are sincere can end up paying the price for those who aren’t. I appreciate you sharing your perspective, especially that you’re open to different possibilities without pretending to promise something you can’t guarantee. ❤️

[Lola]

Sparkling, I’m sorry that happened, especially when you were already going through a difficult time. I appreciate you sharing your experience, and I’m glad you found some reassurance and encouragement along the way. I think we all want this to be a place where people feel comfortable joining in, expressing themselves, and enjoying one another’s company. A little kindness and understanding can make all the difference. 🩷

[B♾️b Willis]

I agree with what you speak of Lola. As far reality goes I would like to say there are some variables that should be serious considerations on an individual basis. If I was in my younger years I would be 100% LTR however, I am not, so a LTF (friend) is probably a real thing for me. I was buying a tool the other day and the CSR said “It comes with a lifetime guarantee “ my response was “ At my age everything comes with a lifetime guarantee “

[Lola]

Bob, you gave me a good laugh with that lifetime guarantee! 😂 I love that you can look at where you are in life with such humor and perspective. And I think there’s something lovely about knowing that a lasting friendship might be just as meaningful as a romantic relationship. Sometimes what we’re looking for changes over the years, and that’s perfectly fine. ❤️

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