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No surprises here: that profile’s already blocked.
Cry me a river. If I weren’t on here a year and had the experiences I have, I’d wonder if he actually has a point.
We want strong men, not victims. Disingenuous, “victimized” guilt trips like that are EXACTLY how Western Society’s greatest virtues (like tolerance and consideration for others) have been turned into our greatest weaknesses and we’ve LET them become our undoing, worldwide.
Nope. No more. We want our strong men. Men that stand up for what’s right, not for what’s wrong, like so people do today.
Nope.
Frank….Pathetic human being??? Because I chose to NOT call someone I don’t know a friend???? Really? You said it yourself…”someday you will be just as sexy and feminine as me; a soon to be 60 year old man. Eeeeeeeew. ”
Oh… and Frank…I’m soon to be 61, so it must be just YOU!!!!!
Thank you Michael, you can start with the above perv! That’s your choice, of course. I do appreciate your support. Greatly!
Frank, unfortunately I can’t set up a system where members can choose to opt out of receiving PMs or friends-requests. It’s technically possible, but as things stand can’t be done. I will get round to it, though.
You are definitely entitled to your views. Yep, 9 out of 10 guys will find it difficult to find someone on a website. But out there in the real-world it’s a one in a million chance of randomly meeting an ABF-oriented woman. Much worse odds.
You can continue to send friends-requests, PMs to anyone you like. This is a dating site, a place to contact others, to have at least a CHANCE of finding someone. All I want is for people to read others’ profiles, and if they CLEARLY ask NOT to be contacted then that should be respected.
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For what it’s worth, my personal view of the “friends” thing is that it’s pointless, pretty much. But some like it, some don’t. It’s a standard feature of sites like this.
We all need to accept that people use sites like this for different reasons. Some for fun, flirting, fantasy, boredom. Some are absolutely serious about finding a partner. All are welcome.
Michael, can you change my profile name to “Weak-Pervy-Frank?” I’ll wear it like a badge of honor. Then all the “say-her-name” crowd can block me as soon as they see me coming.
How funny that the whiny persons who started this post / piled on in this post accuse me of weakness.
Re; “Western Society’s greatest virtues (like tolerance and consideration for others)” I nominate for best script-flip EVER.
(Drops the mic)
Anitfa/victim just dropped the mic? 🙂
That’s adorable.
I make it my personal business not to accept anyone with a Friend List. Because I am seriously looking for a significant other leading towards marriage. I made the same case as you Last Summer; about friend request I tend to find, out of experience; that people with many friends aren’t seriously looking for a committed monogamous relatioship leading towwards marriage and children as am I.
Honestly; I like alot of the people I spoke to briefly on this site; but I gave up on this site about 8 to 6 months ago. I just don’t think there is enough serious people on here. Now that may change in the near future. But I Dont have time to waste and bank on this site alone.
I am now more proactive than reactive.
Now I am hoping to meet someone while I take my morning jog at the Park or I am waiting for the christian Churches to open back up and meet my mate there. Even though I do not want to mix the good word of the lord and going to church with the sole purpose of finding a mate…. But I gotta do what I have to do; and i’m sure the Lord will understand.
It seems kind of draconian that anyone would want to place a person on report just because they sent you a friend request, it seems the issue is more you just don’t want to be bothered taking the time having to not accept it.
Friend request don’t cause any actual harm to anyone, and if you’re a woman on this site you’re going to get them, guys just do it because it’s easier to find you later to talk if you’re listed as a friend, and some people just like to collect friends which in itself is harmless.
Now if you keep getting request from the same person and don’t want to be bother just block them, that will totally take care of the issue. and wanting to have someone removed from the site because they make too many friend request, well there should be a way to limit the total number of request a person can make in a day, but there is nothing saying you have a limit to how many friend requests you can make at any one time.
It’s a internet site – No vetting no proof of ID required – So yes we’re all anonymous as pics can be faked or of others- There’s going to be a mixed bag on here some serious some not some interested some fake wind up merchants be they Male or female.
What’s the harm big deal in a friend request as long as it’s not abusive / insulting, Take it as a compliment & either add or ignore + there’s the block option,or report to Michael. Simple. I’m interested & serious though at 60 I’m not looking to marry & have children, we all have different wants & needs. Accept/or not or Block move on it’s not really a big problem is it. Good luck to all & May we all find what we’re looking for. 👍🏻Well, isn’t this all just so special. Started off as a post suggesting COMMON CURTISY, that you MIGHT BE BETTER RECEIVED if you were to introduce yourself first. As far as a certain individual thinking he needed to go on the attack is just ridiculous, indicating to me along with what he wrote, that he must be one of the parties that thinks everyone on here should be his friend.
I’m backing out of the childishness, and yes, I called him a perv…enough is enough though.
Just put yourselves in our shoes gentlemen…. we get bombarded daily. No idea who is messaging, requesting, or anything else. Be courteous enough to introduce yourselves is the point of ALL OF THIS!
Oh how rich. The hypocrisy. The irony just keeps growing the more I think about it.
One of us is the Queen of shallow. She’ll let you know when you can send a “dick-pic” (POSSIBLY after you send pics of your Adonis body and chiseled jawline.) But she can’t be bothered by unsolicited friend requests. She only wants strong men! I am judged, along with all the other pic collectors and spankers / wankers, by her. In another time she and her fabulously hunky beau in their fabulously healthy, open marriage would have been called perverted and possibly been ostracized. (Please block me now so that I never accidentally end upon your page again.)
My point is not that anyone should feel sorry for me but that you shouldn’t expect anyone to feel sorry for you in your righteous indignation. Press the damn “decline” or “ignore” button when you get a friend request you don’t want.
For an example of how NOT to be a prima dona check out this profile.https://abfheaven.com/members/38dddchocolatte/
What a woman!!!P.S. Mia culpa. I re-read my original post and I can see how one of you thought I accused you of being a pathetic human being, but for the record I was referring to my self in sarcasm, as in; “What a pathetic human being I am. How superior YOU are.”
For that, and that alone. I do apologize.@Mooncake. You’re pretty cool too!!!!
Frank
…and some wonder why females don’t stay on internet dating sites, right?
A lot of girls delete their accounts here crying, having hoped so high, emotionally invested as girls often do… all to find out the internet’s a clown world where nothing means anything, including them.
Imagine some random guy walks up to a woman in the store and bluntly proposes to be friends right there and then. How do you think that’s going to go over in reality? That’s not how it works, but hey… the girls don’t know they’ve entered a clown world that has a blase attitude (at best) towards socially acceptable behavior yet, do they? “Common courtesy” indeed.
Oh, they clue in. They do …and many leave just as quickly. This blase surreality is generally why.
Ok, I’m closing this topic for further comments. Lots of heat and very little light being generated. Insults being thrown around. It is not what this site is about, not at all.
Takeaway:
Women: if you are receiving lots of unwanted friends requests/messages then STATE CLEARLY on your profile who can/cannot contact you. If the unwanted messages continue, contact me and I will look into it.
Men: please read profiles before messaging anyone, if they don’t want to be contacted by you then please respect that.
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