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Hi all,
I am at a phase of my life where I have been thinking about a few things especially my years on this site, the people who have come and gone and what it all means..
Every person that has entered my life on this site, has left deep memories I cherish. In the past, I was always very crushed by a relationship or friendship that didn’t work or missed talking to friends who became very close to me. In terms of abf chats that didn’t work out, I wrote poems, cried copious tears and kept waiting for the friend to reach out to me. Many times I myself reached out to them without knowing if I was being a pest. That’s the bigger question isn’t it….when does texting someone, because you miss talking to them, go from being a nice gesture to a something that is a bother to the other person?
How does one navigate the situation when conversations that flowed wonderfully suddenly stop and wither away. Are both sides thinking the other person doesn’t want to hear from me?
The thing is that nowadays everyone has limited bandwidth and it’s true that we can’t practically continue a conversation with a friend sometimes because of that or because it seems like the time lapsed since last chat has been too great. At the same time, I thoroughly value and cherish those people who do make that extra effort to say hello even though I didn’t get a chance to chat with them or the timing was off or they had to run etc. In most situations I realize I don’t reach out to them because I am afraid of rejection or because of my inability to face the fact that those sweet memories for me were the opposite and they really didn’t miss me at all :-). That I am not that special 🙂 and they have truly moved on….
Inspite of the silence, these wonderful people do hold a special place in my heart but how does one navigate this scenario of what to do when the conversations between 2 friends have gone silent or seem to stutter and not start up again? It just seems that time moves on like a flowing river and one can’t bring back that special moment in time when we crossed paths like we can never step foot in the same river twice because the water that was there a second ago is not the same as that running through it in the current time.
Thanks for reading my post!
When you make friends and start chatting and over time it gets deeper. At some point, we may question the closeness. I usually ask if I am bothering or being a pest. Some may like small talks some don’t. So I keep my conversations the way other person likes.
I have made few wonderful friends here. We have never met but feel like we have become part of each other’s life.
It is always nice to make friends, specially those with whom we can share and talk about ANR, as most won’t understand it.I find when I start a conversation with someone and we click, There’s an emptiness no matter how short the timeframe when the person abruptly stops messaging. My confusion increases when I see they’ve been online.
Awww, I have always enjoyed every conversation I’ve had with you.
People just come and go in your life and sometimes it is sad when they go, but it happens. I get what you are saying though.I think some people in the site see women as disposable body parts that can be exchanged when a bigger one comes along, or they have something else and one is just a fantasy on the side. Sometimes people are just not clear what they want and they want to use one as an excuse to get off, which is fine with people who want that. After that a woman just becomes the playtoy they are done with. You seem to have a lot of depth and may be you idealize the connections with people who used you for a one day or a few weeks fantasy. Is hard to tell with some people here. Also some men in the site, do not seem to be talking with one but at one, going on with their fantasies without even realizing one is into it or if it is appropriate to what one was saying.
I feel the same way Brian it’s very disorienting and frustrating for sure. I have learned that you need to keep your community close by.
There is quite a lot of that for sure unfortunately it ruins the chances for the true lovers of ANR.
I hear you Nick, thanks for being such a wonderful person on here. ❤️
Hi, sorry to hear that, Brian. But I noticed the same. Its most likelt to happen when conversation is only about breasts and sizes and fanfasy. If connection doesnt deepen with more contact and theres no reaction to questions other than the sensual ones. No real interest in the person connected to the tis, so to speak.
Thanks MS.spicy and DairyDaisy! I’ve even had it happen when not talking about breast size and fantasy things. In my experience it seems to happen when conversation goes deep. In my experience people seem to be afraid to say that’s too deep, so they disappear. If someone is unable to work things out because of a simple misunderstanding online how are they going to work things out in real life. Or did I mis something. Not trying to hijack the thread.
That’s a great point. I have been dealing with a lot of things in the past few years starting with the passing of my mom. It started even before that because she’s always been a silent, loving and caring person in my life. But she didn’t prepare me on how to live life without her being there. I have got some support from people on here that have helped me navigate those tough times. It’s taken a lot of work and trying to understand the meaning of it all (life). In the end I realized that love is the secret elixir that keeps the universe together. She came to me during 11 days of deep silent meditation (10 hours a day) as a very raspy voice in the middle of the night that completely startled me but guided me in resolving a burning question I had going into the meditation retreat.
The other question I had about the meaning of life/death, I have to interpret from a vision I had of her standing waiting in front of a mountain. It was like she was waiting for someone …I don’t completely understand the significance of that particular vision but I have learned to trust that love will be the ultimate guide and that she will find a way to communicate to me in her own gentle and silent way.
absolutely true, those conversations are boring and do not feel like one has to be there since they are just going off on themselves, the discussions about size and volume or seeing one as an experiment or small porn reel is something I don’t feel i have to really answer.
@ Ms.Spicy, sorry to hear about your mom. Those silent meditation retreats are powerful and very awakening. Practicing it daily helps to stay grounded and live meaningfully.
Because of my own life situations, I have read a lot about life and death. It all boils down to living life meaningfully, with compassion and kindness matters most. Death is just a passing to next phase of our life. There are many different opinions about death experiences and what is behind death.
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