I Had My First Ever ANR Experience! Let Me Tell You About It.

[Jake]

Just under a week ago, I had my first ever ABF experience. Considering I’ve been seriously pursuing an ANR of some sort for approximately 3 weeks, a part of me is shocked that it happened so quickly considering how difficult it’s been for me to get in contact with anyone, let alone anyone local, at all.

I wanna talk about it! My thoughts before, during and after; my expectations as I continue; and a request for some advice from more experienced feeders/sucklers. I apologise in advance for the length!

My sole ABF experience prior to now was with my ex-girlfriend. I used to help myself to her breasts whenever we were relaxing in bed together. However, there was never anything substantial behind those times. She never got anything out of it; no comfort, no feeling of care, no nurturing: she saw me as acting a little goofy. I loved suckling on her, but that was because I loved her breasts; it wasn’t negative, but without the nurturing aspect of it, it was a somewhat hollow experience.

Reddit was where I learned that ABF could be much deeper than I thought. With people not only putting more weight on the emotional side of things, but also encouraging themselves to lactate too, it was absolutely the motivation I needed to pursue it seriously.

I’ll skip (most of) the preamble. Within two days of signing up for ABF Heaven, I connected with an individual (don’t worry if you’re reading this; I shan’t reveal your identity!) and made plans for her to nurse me the next day.

I was certainly nervous; this was someone who took ABF seriously, while my entire experience with feeding boiled down to sometimes sucking a booby during or after sex. Still, gotta start from somewhere, right?

She was nice! She was treating the whole thing with a relaxed attitude from the moment we met, which did well for my nerves. After a bit of small talk/getting to know each other, we pretty much just got to it. We put on some TV, she took off her shirt, and she let me get comfortable on her lap before feeding me her nipple. It took maybe 90 seconds tops to latch optimally. That’s it. From then onwards, it was plain sailing. (Keynote: it is virtually impossible to watch TV suckle at the same time if you’re on a sofa. I was resigned to simply listening to our show. I didn’t think of the logistics! Maybe next time we should try feeding on a bed?)

One thing that genuinely shocked me was just how *good* it felt. After getting past the giddy childish excitement of seeing a naked booby for the first time in three years, I just kinda lost myself in it. I was JUST. SO. RELAXED.

I don’t know how to accurately describe it. I just felt at peace, lying in her lap receiving the nipple she was guiding to my mouth. One thing I didn’t know I’d LOVE until I received it was the gentle touching we did with each other. My partner spent most of it lightly stroking my arm, my head, and even my lips while I was suckling. It was so soothing. It was SO NICE.

I didn’t go all “porn flick” and suck the shit out of her. I just took it easy, sucked rhythmically, slower and softer when I felt more relaxed, slightly more forceful when the mood struck me. Based on her expression and reaction, it seemed to me as though she was really enjoying herself, which just made me feel even better. (I mean, it also helped when she TOLD me that she was enjoying herself…)

We were there for approximately 2 hours in total. We took a short break after about 80 minutes, where we chatted a little more; she showed me the tools and medication she was using to induce lactation (which was a great little bonus for me). Before that point, I didn’t know I could feel so comfortable chatting to a topless stranger I’d met less than two hours ago.

That was an enormous revelation for me: breastfeeding WASN’T a sexual act. I mean, that’s a given, considering it’s supposed to be done with babies and infants! But I’ve been conditioned to see boobs as purely sexual objects (blame the internet). Yet there I was, having a normal (is adult breastfeeding normal?) conversation with what I consider to be a *very* attractive, half-naked woman, and the atmosphere was absolutely non-sexual. I was attracted to her, yes, and my body reacted predictably (which I’m embarrassed to admit), but it didn’t get in the way of the experience. I didn’t let it. Heck, the knowledge that I HAD that power to even do so was *huge*.

The suckling after the break was shorter because her nipples were getting kinda sore. Understandable; it was nearly 2 hours of constant nursing. But even then, we wound down by just relaxing and shooting the shit, lightly cuddling and touching as we chatted about the session and whatever else was on our mind. It still catches me off guard how casual and friendly the whole atmosphere was.

One thing I was hung up on was how SHE felt. I was receiving plenty of feedback whenever I asked, and all of it was positive. She noted the way I gently kneaded her breast while I suckled, the way I lightly moaned occasionally, and the light strokes on her arm when I got comfortable, all of which was met with 3 thumbs up. But I do wonder what more I could do for her, especially without constantly asking her what she wanted me to do. Did she want me to be more vocal? Should I have also taken off my shirt to make things more intimate with skin-to-skin contact? Should I have offered to massage her breasts when we finished suckling? Yes yes, I know simple communication could have provided me answers to all these questions. Yes yes yes, hindsight is 20/20. Chalk it up to nerves.

All in all, it was an extremely positive experience from start to finish. I feel so much better having gone through it. I thank her for making my first time so pleasant. (Golly, I sound like a highschooler losing his virginity through pity sex or something…) I hope it was as enjoyable for her as she told me it was.

Our schedules are a little too hectic for us to plan future meetups with any regularity, but I do look forward to the next time we can meet. What this session has surely done, though, is redouble my resolve to finding a real, serious ANR in the near future. I’ve decided I want any future relationship I may enter to ABSOLUTELY have a nursing element to it. Seriously. I don’t think it’s a stretch to say it changed how I fundamentally view closeness and intimacy.

That’s it. Hope you more experienced individuals enjoy the ramblings of a complete newbie!

[Grogman 🚀💙]

Congratulations! Sounds like the two of your had a great time. Don’t worry about watching tv. In fact, ignore it. Your attention should be focused on her. She will appreciate that. Don’t worry about looking stupid for asking questions. We are men. It goes with the territory.😜

[Brian]

Your experience sounds exactly like mine. I was in an ANR for about six months. Of course in the beginning communication is key, but as you get to know one another you’ll figure out what she likes and what she doesn’t. Either way it sounds like you’re off to a great start. Welcome to the club.

[Jessica 🍓🥛]

What a wonderful experience! Thank you for sharing!

[Nick]

Jake, that’s wonderful. Hope more sessions follows.

[Milko]

Dear Jake,

Thank you for sharing your first experience with all of us. And I’m sure there will be others, or even the possibility for you to find the loved one for a LTR like you dream of. Here, in all of France, there are only 3 women who have created an ANR profile on another site and in three years there has been no way to contact them. As if they were ghost profiles. I have definitely stopped my search in France because of this. There are more opportunities elsewhere. I can’t wait to experience this too with the right person.

[Will]

Wow Jake, that sounds a perfect experience. Thank you for sharing
Will

[Rob]

Hello Jake,

I know how you feel, because I felt exactly the same bubbling of mixed emotions after my first experience! In my case, it was after around ten long years of searching for someone to physically share it with. Although, during all that time, I’d gained some invaluable insight by corresponding with many other ladies. So I already had a little mental preparation – a guide of how to get a good latch, for example – but in the moment, things really do feel so much different to whatever you may have expected!

Like you, I came away from that experience with a sensation of having found the ‘missing element’ – something I long for in a relationship, because it might feel incomplete or hollow without this magical bond. Also, in both that experience and subsequent ones, my body often reacts in a predictable way to the sight or presence of a beautiful woman with bare breasts. But I too ignore that physical reaction, since I see breasts not as anything sexual, but more as a natural power to comfort and relax me.

Long story short, you and I are much alike. So welcome to the realms of ABF/ANRs. You’re in good company!

[Ethan]

Hey Jake,

I definitely appreciate the length with you sharing your experience! You gave us every aspect to fully understand and the enjoyment you can receive. I’m genuinely happy for both of you.

[Ed Rest]

Long may it continue Jake.

[Jake]

Thanks all for enjoying my directionless monologue and for your words of encouragement! 🙂

I’ve currently been thrust into that liminal space that exists between “evaluating the experience, figuring out what went well and what can be improved, and how to apply what I’ve learned in the future,” and “just go with the flow, have a good time, and whatever will happen will happen”.

I’d very much like to be the latter, and I know for a fact I’ll get there as I get more comfortable with ABF. But I’ve got ADHD, so self-doubt and intrusive thinking are part and parcel of my personality. 😂

I was going to use this post to ask some FAQs and advice, but honestly, I know that adult nursing isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience for everyone. Anyone I may partner with has their own tastes and particulars. Part of the fun is discovering what nuances make your partner the happiest or feeling the best, and of course freaking ASKING them what they’d like is a valid thing to do!

I know it’s not much, but I didn’t expect the thread to get the attention it got, and your comments and the couple of private messages I’ve got have been nothing but heartwarming and encouraging. I really appreciate it. 🙂

[Wyatt]

Thanks for sharing, man! I’m so glad you got to experience the true beauty that ANR offers. I can attest from firsthand account- it’s a life changer. Its so simple, but that act of vulnerability and comfort is a balm to a wounded soul. I’m happy you got to feel that glow…

All the best to you!

Wyatt

[Gih]

It was great to read about your experience, Jake!
I hope you continue the sessions!
I hope I’m lucky, I’m looking for the Man in my life… who loves it as much as I do and wants to make it work. My big challenge is to live in Brazil, that’s a distance from potential partners. This is taboo. I would move to country for the right person.

I was happy to read your account and felt how special this moment was. 🥰

[Lala]

Would love to know which medications

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