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I have not met anyone on here that is in my area that seriously wants ANR. I have been told that I am too brash because some not anywhere near me wants to CHAT. I am not here to find someone to chat with. I have plenty of friends that I chat with. I want a real live skin on skin ANR. I am sorry if tjis offends anyone, I am just disappointed. I know it is very hard to find people that are in our world and understand it that arent grossed out or disgusted. (BIG SIGH)
Bee, you are in Montana which (I’m no expert) has a small population relative to other US states, I assume. So unfortunately that’s going to affect your chances on a website like this too. I don’t think there’s any way of changing this situation, it’s the way of the world.
Remember though: some random guy in Montana, not a member of ABFheaven, browsing this site, can NOT see your profile and can NOT find you using the Search. He’ll have no idea you are here. But he can read the Forums & Personal Ads. So try placing a Personal Ad and keep doing it from time to time.
It is always hard to find someone close. I find it hard for big city like NYC. I can imagine how hard frustrating it might be for smaller towns.
There is always a possibility if you can feel connection with someone. Then it’s just about communication and finding a way to overcome distance.
Good luck to all searchers.It is difficult for a woman to find a suitable partner. What’s needed is patience and lots and lots of it. Perseverance is also the hand maiden to patience. It took years for me to get even nibbles let alone a relationship.
I still seek a suitable partner. Life does get in the way a lot. People work and have families and friends and duties. All of this can be obstacles to finding a suitable partner. I’m both patient and will persevere because I have met with some wonderful women and have had breastfeeding bliss with them. To me the rewards of ANR are worth the effort.I’m convinced that there is a natural algorithm: The more compatible two people are, the farther they are from each other. Hang in there Bee! -Steve
I think Steve N is right. Unfortunately. And agree with Nick(cool name by the way) I’m finding it very Difficult to find someone in NYC, where you think there’d be a FEW women out of 9 mil on here, let alone click. Everyone I click with is in another state. Luckily I seem to be connecting with someone in a nearby state and we have plans to meet next wknd.
It can be really disappointing no matter where in the world a person is. Sometimes to keep balance, a person may want to press pause on the search for awhile. Spend that time doing things that don’t leave you feeling frustrated. Maybe that’s being involved in forums or chat here, maybe it’s not coming to the site at all. Whatever it is, when you feel ready and refreshed press play again with less frustration.
Sorry you’re not finding anyone but you live in Montana. It’s going to take longer and be harder to find someone but don’t give up. I’ve seen people from Montana and Idaho on here.
Tis the nature of the internet, unfortunately.
Logistical issues are one thing, but there’s another element; people that are deceiving themselves.
People might have the sincere desire to meet and have convinced themselves of that, only to flake out, drop communication, etc.
Whilst you’re anonymous it’s much easier to a) convince yourself b) speak much more boldly then you might in real life.
I used to be surprised when women complained that men were no shows, etc, even when I’ve been guilty of that in the past!
Just the way things often are.
Jason it’s true there’s so many reasons it’s challenging.
Many view this as a fantasy and simply want to chat about it and explore the idea virtually, which is certainly valid. The person they are talking to might think they are investing time and energy in a connection that will transition to offline. So there works be quite a disconnect at some point.
A lot of patience is needed and determining and articulating clearly why we want this kind of relationship, so we can communicate that clearly to a potential partner.
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