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Hi im looking of an advise how to convince my gf for breastfeeding. We tried it once for 5 min and she thought it was long. But she liked it and want to try again. Yet she thinks its a kink and related to childhood or mommy thing. Idk how to proceed.
Isn’t convincing someone akin to convincing someone to be gay or not be gay?
Challenging, if she already has those preconceptions. told her how you got interested, and how much would mean to you for your relationship.
You can’t convince anyone to do anything. And you shouldn’t want too. As a partner, What you should want to do, Is provide reassurance.
Nursing is intimate. it’s loving and it’s bonding. This is whe tree e commnication is important. Opening yourself up to your own volverabilty and Explaining why this is important to you. And of course why you enjoy it.
Also, what you do behind closed doors is nobody’s business.. so their wouldn’t be any judgements from anyone “why” she liked it.
This is a delicate balance, of love , trust, and open communication.
You have to communicate. Otherwise she may shut down on the idea. And your opportunity for open discussion will be lost.
You said she liked it. In that reference, I’ll suggest that you make it part of your foreplay and gradually increase time. She may get used to it and may want more.
Good luck.Please read my blog…it isn’t about convincing…I address this here and on my Patreon. I suggest you read my first blog post and watch the video. I will do a future talk/presentation just on this topic. The problem isn’t convincing her of what you want, there is a deeper problem, a deep wound in the feminine and a lack of understanding and communication at all levels in relationships which I am trying to address. Without this, forget it.
I agree with the others that communication is crucial. Along with that is respecting the answer that is given. If it’s no, that is what it is. You can’t convince someone to do something that they don’t want to do, nor should you even try. If I’m understanding the issue its that your girlfriend likes having her breasts suckled but associates nursing with feeding babys, she is not wrong. The both of you need to research Adult nursing together, you both need to be on the same page especially when it comes to something as extremely intimate as nursing. You could read articles that explain the premise behind it. You might want to focus on the intimacy and bonding. Make sure you give her time to take it all in, trying to go quickly will more than likely turn her off. The lactation wiki has a lot of solid testimonies from other couples who practice Adult nursing. They may help alleviate her fears . As for you go and reasearch proper suckling technique and practice it like your life depends on it. If your girlfriend gives you the opportunity to suckle she might find it more comfortable and enjoyable.
Communiceren cation is key. Patience, trust and respect. You cannot convince het to do anything. She will feel pressures into something she didn’t want to do. You can educate her. Show her the two of you are not alone. Ask her to read about it. Let her find her own and nformation. Give space! Do not bring the subject up too often.
In the meantime: let her know how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her. Good luck!
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