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A number of ppl want to know their partner is a certain height, or taller/shorter than they are. How about adding these as questions for the profile? It would increase the chance that ppl would fill them out, and prevent unnecessary communications if someone doesn’t meet the other person’s requirement.
That’s a great idea! I know it may be controversial but I’m also attracted to certain ethnicities.
Hello. I am a new member here, and I would like to say that I like the over all feel of the community here. I am glad that you brought this up because the idea really made me think.
One thing I enjoy about this website is the simplicity. The nature of it gives an honest feel that truly sets abfheaven apart from any other site that I know of. Without a stats and body type section to fill out, a person is in the position to really talk about who and what they are looking for, though I do find a large amount of profiles with one or two sentences that are not very informative past the very basics. So while some people have needs that require a more specific type of person, others have needs that are less specific when it comes to body type or ethnicity. I believe that if it is important to you, you should communicate that in the space provided in the profile, creating dialog from the start, and thus, making us all a bit more human in an age that communication has been replaced by mouse clicks.
While I may not be the guy for everyone, I, for one, still enjoy seeing people be thoughtful and honest about what they want. I also don’t believe that there will ever be a fix for stopping the average ass hat from trying to engage with someone that clearly has no interest in them, sad as it is to say.There was a gentleman that posed a question the other day about if it was okay to ask about cup size. Having a more detailed questionaire might alleviate some questions of that nature.
I kind of like it as it is. You put out the information that you choose to, not check the boxes.
Btw I’m a BBG. 😜I am very specific in my space provided but that doesn’t make any difference. It’s not compulsory to tick boxes on the other sites but it is very helpful to the people who are looking for someone in particular. I don’t mind being asked my size because I know if it were the other way round I would be interested. There needs to be attraction.
Both arguments have merit . I wish I could “dial-in” my search to find my exact, specific, ideal partner who would rush to me and whip out her big, heavy, milky boobs but that’s not likely. By being too specific I would have missed out on conversations with some really cool women. One can use words like “slender,” “busty,” or “voluptuous” in the profile. Searching by these terms will yield results for some members you are looking for. Good luck to all of you!
Considering how hard it is find a willing partner for ANR or ABF in general, I’m a bit surprised people have limits on the size, weight, shape, race, cup size, hair color, or whatever. It’s already like looking for a unicorn or a needle in a pin factory.
I can understand why some people would prefer a partner of a certain age or build. They may seek a person who’s physically similar to themselves, or at least want to make it clear what type of people they’re not interested in. For example, a mature woman may enjoy nursing a younger man, whilst a slender man in his 20s may not wish to suckle from a large busty woman in her 50s or 60s.
Everyone is unique, so it’s good to be open-minded in some respects, and not be too specific about what you want your partner to be physically, as you’ll never find your ‘dream’ partner. What matters most is the connection between the two of you – the mental chemistry that plays out when you meet in person, talk face to face, share your desires and experiences, and maybe try suckling together.
If the connection is there, then it doesn’t really matter what physique either of you has. Your true partner will accept you exactly the way you are, physically and mentally.
@divadnarr I think you’re being unfair on yourself and any future partners if you ‘settle’ for someone you might normally find unattractive.
I would rather people be upfront. I don’t mind if they don’t have this in their profile but at least have a pic or include their body shape in an opening message. It’s frustrating when people are very hush about themselves then get upset when you tell them they’re not your type. It’s better to establish this early on rather than after dozens of messages.
This question about adding various items to th Profile pages has come up before (eg. single/married ….. casual/committed …. slim/curvy …. etc) and I still feel the same about it:
– There are pros & cons.
– I want to keep the Search box as simple as possible.
– Most people do not have a choice of hundreds of potential partners who live anywhere near them. They have a handful at most. As things stand, it’s easy to find that handful, read through their profiles. If they are tall/short/fat/thin, and they want you to know about it, then they can state it on their profile already.
– Divad Narr sums it up pretty well above .All that being said, I just tried fetlife for a week. I permanently deleted my account, partly because of their purposeful INABILITY TO SEARCH for anyone that you might find common ground with. There’s ZERO search and they’re even proud of it. You’ll waste endless amounts of time sifting through the evil filth in that dark, disgusting online dumpster. It’s depressing for many reasons, but the NON-search is one of the final things that makes that website one of the worst on the entire internet.
Besides that, it’s mostly full of sick, evil, SJW-type, spiteful, commie, satanic, weak creeps that have serious unresolved issues -both male & female. I am just on the opposite end of almost every spectrum from where they’ve chosen in life, so not for me anyway.
I NOPED right out of there! -Beyond worthless.
Fetlife is a social website, not a dating website. The fact that you cannot search by age or location is why people like it. The whole point of fet is to contribute in the groups and build rapport with everyone. This stops people simply joining just to message others.
It’s a fetish website that attracts sexually liberated people. It goes without saying most on there will be left-leaning politically.
Many of the ANR groups have a personals thread where people can state where they are from and what they are looking for.
Fetlife has a lot of groups that really don’t have anything to do with being sexually liberated, and they had to remove a lot of them several years ago when they purged the site because they were extremely perverse, (bestiality, blood groups, ETC.)
About Fetlife ANR Groups.
There are many ANR groups on Fetlife, some are only for induction help, some you can’t post personals while others are only for personals, some are just milkmaids, Hucows Farms, Breeding and some are just for purchasing breast milk products the list goes on, with a whole lot of people wanting you to go to their Onlyfans page or looking for pay pigs.The search on Fetlife is not for finding people in a specific location or physical attributes, unless someone created a group with that country or city name in the group title, you can search by country, city name but you won’t find much, most people that have their location in their profile is not their real location, (whole lot of people in Antarctica)
For your average person Fetlife may not be the best alternative because of the site content, some stuff may be disturbing, but if you can get pass that.
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