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I have been reading a few bios and have to say that they sound fantastic .. all of the plus points. I would like to say that sounds dreamy but is that you really? I know I can be very imperfect and that’s what I try to be a little bit of myself whatever that may be on that particular day and moment.
My abf journey is a daily thing. I try to be genuine as much as possible. Just to clarify something.. I used the Ms. Spicy name before the chat came along… a few people have asked so I am just clarifying. At that time, I was only thinking of myself as being honest and genuine.
Again this post isn’t about me so just be yourself ladies and gentlemen! I truly appreciate that! That’s what keeps one grounded when the world shifts. Be able to laugh at your imperfections and take each moment as it comes..
There’s something really grounding in what you’ve written. You’re right, so many profiles read like highlight reels, all the polished edges and none of the real texture underneath. It’s refreshing to hear someone say out loud that they’re imperfect and that they show up differently depending on the day. That’s human. That’s honest.
I like the way you describe your journey as something lived daily rather than performed. It makes your presence feel genuine, not curated and the fact that you’re encouraging others to be themselves including flaws, quirks, shifting moods and all, which says a lot about the kind of space you want to be in.
Your reminder to laugh at our imperfections and stay grounded when the world tilts is something I need to remind myself of. It’s easy to forget that being real is far more compelling than trying to be impressive.
You come across as someone who values sincerity over spectacle and that’s rare in places where people often feel they have to present a perfect version of themselves, so Thank you.
No Jessica, your profile is straightforward and clear. It establishes boundaries and presents what you’re looking for. Nicely concise.
@daydreamer 😜😂🤣
Good thing I didn’t read it.😋🤗😘I don’t think it’s working Jessica, did you look at your number of friends? Is this reverse psychology by any chance ?
Thanks Milky, your post deserves a few bows (Japanese style meaning thanks) and hugs 🤗🤗🤗
Do not know what to make of this post, so i’ ll just ask some questions.
Since this post stated its not about anybody in particular, my questions are meant to give food for thought. Thats enough for a disclaimer.
!. Are we all liars in our profiles? Are we human? Do we all some pisitives? Do we all clean up before visitors come over? Isnt that exactly what a profile does?
Just thinking how fun it would be for a change to have everybody write the profile that would leave you no chance of ever meeting anyone. Would that be being honest?2. More importantly: communication is a two way street. If someone repeatedly meets people who don’t show their good character is it A. Because this site is full of bastards and bitches? Then why be on here? B.You just are blessed with poor judgement great naivity, so you really can’t help it and are a victim of cruel people in this world? C. One lacks self reflection, which makes things keep happening the same way because nothing is learned? D. We are back to A because maybe we ourselves were not on our best behaviour either?
Of course the answer doesn’t always have to be the same. Maybe there are some fun possibilities I did not thi k of yet. Just saying, because I have met some wonderful people on here.
Oh thanks ! I appreciate your questions a whole lot 😘🥰🤗🌼❤️😍😋
It is easy for anyone to be anything on the internet. So to ask someone to be real is unfortunately pointless. We all wish that everyone’s intent is clear, but based on so many environmental, vocational, (capabilities) and psychological factors, it will never happen. Everyone who comes to work doesn’t want to work. Everyone who goes to church isn’t the best practitioner of the religion. So everybody here does not see ABF/ANR the same way. Is there frustration in this? Yes. Perhaps everyone is just somewhere in their journey where they are just safe being whatever they want to be at that time. And in the process, the equal and opposite reactions play out in our interactions with them. And so me miss out on the “potential” of who they really are. And/or they miss out on what they could “potentially” have with someone here. So I personally live by a few principles: (1) Be as authentic as I can be, (2) Considering I am on a open yet invisible platform, I set my expectations by what people do; not necessarily what they say, (3) Related to 2.:There is a level of inconsistency, foolishness, laziness, cluelessness, overzealousness, half/non-truths, and fantasy I just have to accept across the board (4) Don’t forget to self-assess, and (5) Always be kind and as patient as possible. And hopefully, amongst the fog, I find what I am looking for, but without some level of difficulty and positive interactions along the way.
The short version of a reply is be as authentic as possible given all you cited as reasons to be wary. We are all ready of course to move it along to the next step whatever that maybe.. there are many ways to assess the genuineness of a person.. however if you oversell in your bio then you possibly/sometimes can’t deliver.. because of all of things you cited. I see a lot of people romanticize different aspects of themselves and present a rosy front. Abf/ANR involves a depth of intimacy that needs realness . That’s all I was asking
Sometimes the stars aren’t aligned for the match..at the same time you can be good friends as long as the other person treats one with respect and you do the same..
Hey!
@Jessica
Can you explain to me the Friends to Puzzle ratio?? For most it’s infinity!Giggles…. you rock, gurrrl!
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