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Corey, you talk about women like you think we all have the same opinion. You then proceed to speak on our behalf. I’m sure you mean well but we’re not that simple. Or defenceless.
I was just happy to see a man tell other men to behave respectfully. 🤷♀️
Quite ironic with all the exemplary and respectful dissension and descension among women going on in the last couple of weeks..
Wow. All of you ladies getting your panties in a twist over photos of breasts and lactation and calling it porn are pulling a shame card which has kept this “kink” (for lack of a better term) stigmatized so long. Get over yourselves. This site has no restrictions on showing breasts. It’s the reason we are all here! If you want that romance and nothing to do with anything physical, go to a “regular” dating site, but good luck even finding that there.
Just because someone else’s interest doesn’t align with yours doesn’t make it any less valid. You are here because you chose to come to this site and that is consent. You signed up for what is allowed here so don’t come in and suddenly act all high and mighty because others are not ashamed of their bodies but chose to celebrate them. You can leave just as easily as you joined but you may not come in here and start telling others what this site is, is not, should or should not be. Michael is the only person with that right.
Poor behavior is unacceptable but that has nothing to do with showing breasts, but rather the character of the person behaving thus, so stop trying to shame women for men’s behavior and set women back a century.
And I will say it again – breasts are not porn. Do I need to repeat it? Breasts are not porn.
How dare you define what ANR/ABF should mean to me!? Or to any other on this site. No one is trying to limit your version, do not try to limit anyone else’s. We are complex organisms with complex feelings and responses. This shared love of ours means different things to different people and can even mean different things to the same person at different times. There is room here for all. If you don’t like what someone is doing just look away.
Michael has given every person here the autonomy to decide how they intersect with others and you can shut down anything you don’t like if that doesn’t work, or someone was that inappropriate, Michael can be contacted to determine if a removal is needed. Or you can chose to leave. But do not cone in here and tell Michael and others what they need to do to have this merry your version of acceptable.
Corey you sound like a nice smart guy, but you’re giving into a form of temptation (see below) and engaging in a pattern of behvior that doesn’t work well for anyone. This kinda stuff goes hand in hand with love-bombing women, it over-extends your potential (as you yourself have documented and admitted) and ultimately wastes everyone’s time, which is, in the end, counter to the motives of a “gentleman.” Playing to the gallery is for cons, shills, and shallow people with no talent, tact or taste.
Corey your post is well intentioned and correct in that men (and women) are expected to be respectful and not harass others. But you went too far, as well, in stating who is and is not “welcome here” just because it doesnt fit into your prescribed definition of ANR/ABF. Again, there is room for all aspects here – intimiate AND sexual.
@grogman Puritanical bent? As your friend, that’s out of line and inappropriate. This site has never been remotely puritanical. It has, however, taken great pains to very clearly not be a porn site, though lately some activities have caused it to drift that way.
The site needs to remain safe and comfortable for women; most are on here and interacting because it is NOT a porn site. It is a dating and relationship site; if you choose to use it as a hookup site, that’s your choice, but don’t let those desires make it less accessible and welcoming to women. There are other sites available for that.
“The site needs to remain safe and comfortable for women; most are on here and interacting because it is NOT a porn site. It is a dating and relationship site; if you choose to use it as a hookup site, that’s your choice, but don’t let those desires make it less accessible and welcoming to women. There are other sites available for that.”
Exactly – this site needs to remain safe for all women. Even those who subscribe to a different reason for being here than you. YOU are actually making it a less inclusive site at the moment. Do you even see that? By judging other points of view as “less” than yours (savory? moral? At your (high?) standards?) you are making it an unsafe space for them. This site IS welcoming and acceptable to women as Michael has created it. All the controls we needs to limit the access of and contact with others on this site is in place. It’s users who are ruining it with this ridiculous discourse. Stop pointing fingers at others and look at your own role in this.
@nngerl You’re reading a whole lot into the words I used. Stop. The only assertion is that this has never been and should not become a porn site.
Nothing else was asserted. It appears you’re misreading a lot of the posts.
No one has issues with personal photos or what happens in personal interactions. There are other things on site that recently occurred that are lending it to the porn site. Michael took action to stop that and am grateful he did. THAT is what this discourse is about. Not pictures or personal interactions.
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Kelly, I don’t think anyone has a problem with breast photos or suckling photos and videos.
It’s other things, that have happened that are disconcerting. Things better suited to a private type of only fans site.@nngerl & @rachyj
You are both that we are all unique and individual and so is what we are looking for.
I am not saying I agree one way or another with any one person here.
I do have a bit of a query, if a woman wants to share an image or vidoe of herself, I am fairly certain Michael has created was to do so- does she not have the ability to do so in the media section of her profile, can she not provide it and have it posted in let’s say the puzzle, video, or featured post section vs posting it to a live group chat?
I simply as because you brought up consent and in order for me to see those images in those places I’d have to go look for them ie, go to the profile, go to the puzzle section, got to the video section, go to the featured post section, vs the Chat which is an on going live forum that is automatically on the home page when a member logs in and they may not want to see those images, but are just trying to get to their inbox but they see it and then the corresponding conversation regardless of being part of the chat.
Again, I ask because consent is different than implied consent.
Just because an image or video doesn’t offend, concern, bother, etc, you individually doesn’t exclude it from doing it to another member.
Again I don’t agree or disagree, I just think there should be a baseline level of respect when member interact with others and an understanding that we are all different and unique but should be respectful if someons says they are uncomfortable or triggered even if we don’t share their view as there are ways to accomplish sharing the image/video in a sapce other than the live chat.
I think Michael does a lot for everyone one on this site to provide balance and he does a good job.
Maybe the point should be that if a person on this site sees something in a public place that they find concerning/uncomfortable they should ask Michael if it meets the standards he has set forth.You are both right that we are* (sorry for the typo) we need an edit button.
@flowrgardn I am not misreading anything and don’t try to walk back what you’ve said.
@bibreasts that is a matter for Michael. If he’s going to allow photographs and not place restrictions oh when what and where, then again, by coming onto this website and using the website, you use it knowing that that’s a possibility. Consent or implied consent would be splitting hairs when you are the consumer accepting a product. If that’s how he set this up then that’s how it is..
@natasha Photos are exactly what people are taking offense to. And there is no only fans selling going on here. That goes against the rules. And it’s not what’s happening.
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