For ladies only

[Anonymous]

I posted this in the chat, and another user suggested I post here.
I think it’s time like minded ladies discuss the people they’ve talked to and met in person from this and/or similar sites. I’ve met some truly great, sincere guys here and some…. truly unhealthy ones. I imagine this would follow along the lines of FB’s Are We Dating the Same Guy, but I hope less toxic, more about sisterhood.
If interested, please DM me with a date and time that would work best for you, and what messaging platform you prefer. I generally prefer WhatsApp but am open. Thank you ladies!

[Sparkie]

We could audio chat here rather than go on another platform. The audio room here is helpful to get together etc and doesn’t need you to share personal information with others when you’re not really sure who they are.,

[Lola 💋]

I actually think there could be real value in this. Safety is something I don’t think we talk about nearly enough here, particularly from the women’s perspective.

There’s a pretty significant leap between chatting with someone safely behind a screen and deciding to meet them in real life, and I suspect safety concerns are one of the reasons some women never take that next step at all. We’re being asked to make ourselves physically vulnerable with someone we may know primarily through a username and private conversations. That deserves more discussion than it gets.

So the idea of women looking out for one another and being able to share genuine experiences really appeals to me. I also like that you said less toxic, more sisterhood, because I’d want there to be some nuance and open communication built into it too. There’s a difference between someone presenting a legitimate safety concern and two people simply having a bad interaction, misunderstanding one another, or not being compatible. When it’s appropriate and safe, I’m a big believer in giving people the opportunity to communicate directly rather than only talking about one another.

But when there is a genuine safety concern? Absolutely. Women need a way to share that information, and I’d honestly love to see us having more conversations in general about how women can navigate this safely.

I’m curious what you’re envisioning and how you’d like it to work. 🩷

[Yogi]

I think this is a great idea.

[Anonymous]

I like that. I’m new here and would like guidance on which guys to avoid.

[Anonymous]

I like that idea. I’m not sure how multiple people could join at the same time. I’m all ears for any suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. I hope you can join and share your perspective.

[Sparkie]

So basically we set a time and place and we all get together in the main chat room and start an audio chat there. We just say ladies only and get the guys out if they venture inside. But this has been done for the ladies only lactation round table so it can be done that way with Michaels help. He’s the admin.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. I agree there should be a strong distinction between simple incompatibility vs genuinely creepy behavior.

I would also like this to be a supportive space where we can commiserate over the difficulties in finding a partner who’s sincere. It feels like searching for a unicorn!

I think we can help avoid toxicity by sticking to facts when talking about the potential partner’s behavior and being careful to appreciate that we have different viewpoints.

I’m open to suggestions as far as which platform to use, etc. While I dislike the UI of WordPress, I do appreciate that voice verification is done to ensure there aren’t any cis men trying to creep in.

[Anonymous]

One of my goals is to keep newcomers safe. I truly believe that if women felt safer in these spaces, there would be higher female engagement.

[Gigi]

Hello
Thank you to for creating this platform for women on this website
I am still new to the site.
All the men I have met are not here to seek a relationship that includes us nursing them, but a lot of other types if relationships: breeding, mommy, and extra marital sex. They then flake out and imply something is wrong with you if you do not want too reciprocate.
On top of it all there is just a much lower population of women compared to men it would seem as if they would be much nicer, truthful, and respectful of what all a woman needs to go through.
Now I do realize there are some women that maybe off or suspicious, but I don’t know because I am not trying to find a female partner..but to be called a sexist is challenging

[Jen (North Carolina)]

@browngirlsugar this is an interesting idea. 😊

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