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July 1, 2025 at 5:08 pm #601726
Happy Tuesday, I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend and that your week has kicked off with a great start.
I wanted to share my two cents and leave you with some food for your thoughts to ponder.I can only speak from personal experience when I say that it’s creepy when you choose to lead your messages by stating how quickly you can reach someone’s general location.
It’s creepy when you lead your message with an assumption and say that you “Thought to stop by and see if I could host”.
It’s creepy when you lead your message with “I’m going to be near (insert general location) on (insert general dates) can I stop by?”
It’s creepy when you repeatedly send the same message inquiry over and over after I ignored you, then asked you to leave me alone, and then had to send screenshots to you as a warning to stop before I report you to the admin.I’m not here to point fingers or name any names. I’m not here to embarrass or call anyone out.
I’d just like to highlight how predatory, creepy, and inappropriate this behavior is.
I understand that we’re all here for the same mutual love of Adult Breastfeeding.
But we must conduct ourselves with the same level of respect that you would execute in real life.Many of the women on this website are mothers, and it’s alarming to receive messages assuming that we can host or express intentions to drop by unannounced.
Even if that wasn’t what you meant; It’s what you said. You need to say what you mean and mean what you say so that it’s not taken out of context.
I’m not sure if this needs to be clarified, but
there is no scenario where it’s ever ok to message a stranger and tell them you plan to stop by and see if they can host.
Consent is imperative and perhaps it might be wiser to strike up a proper conversation to establish if there was even mutual interest or desire.This is not a website for hookups or prostitution, so I’m sure we’d all appreciate it if you didn’t conduct yourself as if it were.
Even if you are seeking casual nursing sessions on demand and whenever you can. It’s important to understand that this is not a universal desire and other women might not want to be propositioned like this.
It might seem like a far-fetched concept, but the women on this site are people too. People with independent thoughts and feelings.
What works for one woman, will not work for another. This is not a one-size-fits-all scenario.It’s important to treat other people how you would like to be treated.
I think if we elected to take on a less presumptuous and overzealous approach, then we might be able to find more results in our favor.
You catch more bees with honey!
All I ask is that we do a little self-reflection and ponder how the words we use might come across to a stranger.
If this doesn’t apply, let it fly because only a hit dog will holler.
I’m merely here to give my two cents because navigating online relationships can be terrifying, and some people might not know that coming on too strong or leading with an assumption can be perceived as scary or creepy.
Anyway, I’d love for any other women to chime in and share some of their experiences so we can bring awareness to this long-standing issue.
July 1, 2025 at 5:31 pm #601732Anonymous
InactiveSorry you’ve been dealing with that, and thank you for posting. 🙏🏼
July 1, 2025 at 6:15 pm #601745Sorry you had to deal with that, that’s absolutely wrong. I don’t understand why guys think they have the right to communicate that way. It’s inappropriate in real life, so why do guys feel it’s OK here.
July 1, 2025 at 6:23 pm #601747I would also like to add that when a woman says no asking her if she knows of other women who would say yes is also creepy.
July 1, 2025 at 7:12 pm #601767I would just report them in all honesty. Like I’m not perfect myself but if they can’t get the hint after a warning or they are that clueless to even have the thought to ask “do you have any friends into anr?” It’s already a lost cause. Bad users will ruin for rest of us and I’m so beyond tired waiting for someone in my area lol. Sorry to hear that you are experiencing that.
July 1, 2025 at 7:42 pm #601778This!! It IS CREEPY.
I don’t care if you’re gonna be in Corpus this weekend, my guy. Congrats!? You are a stranger and I don’t feel safe. Have we not seen any episode of SVU or watched the news like ever?? WTF is going on ffs!
It’s creepy to keep pestering.
It’s creepy telling explicit details of previous encounters (write erotica or something I don’t need to know everything).
It’s creepy when you interview me about ABF and sex. I’m a human, I like abf but like… You don’t even know my name or if I’m attracted to you dude.Some men seem to feel entitled to a response or for me to give them my kindness too, yet all they offer are empty conversations or sexually motivated questions. Fact or the matter is, I don’t own you a thing. Especially,if you’re being creepy. It’s 2025 and everyone from the looks of it is 25+ years of age on the website. Meaning your prefrontal cortex is fully developed and you are just lacking common sense and people skills. I don’t have kids but I plan to in the future. However, I sure as hell don’t want to be raising a grown man though. Your lack of evolving into a civilized person is not my fault or problem.
Let the higher power(s) be with them, because I cannot.
I’m glad you are voicing this issue. Its something that can be addressed and a general expectation of respect is not a crazy concept. It also provides safe place for other women and men to voice concerns!
Thank you,
MGJuly 1, 2025 at 9:05 pm #601807Whenever I hear such stories, I can no longer confidently say I’m surprised at this point, yet I continue to be disappointed every time.
All the examples that you ladies give makes me wonder if the people you’ve been communicating are actually real life men, or in fact extraterrestrials wearing the skin of a man and attempting to pass themselves off as men.
It really doesn’t take much effort (to me, at least) to want to approach a women with an attempt to form SOME sort of positive relationship before asking to be intimate with them, or even to not assume that every woman on this forum (or every woman, period) is just ready and waiting to give up their bodies to the next man that asks.
I regularly find myself second-guessing every word I say to someone here, whether in private messages or the public chat, for fear of sending the wrong message or making them even slightly uncomfortable with my words (because I’m an anxious worrywart at the best of times). It seems, however, that there are plenty of men who won’t even first-guess themselves before saying what they think every woman wants to hear.
I don’t have any answers, and I don’t really have anything to add to the conversation. Just, thanks for bringing these things to everyone’s attention, and you all have my sympathies.
July 1, 2025 at 9:40 pm #601840I absolutely agree with everyone so far, it is heartbreaking and spoils it for everyone.
I know that ad-hoc complaints can be made directly to Michael, but perhaps this could be formalised into a “Report” function, followed by a warning and removal system for anyone who doesn’t see basic civility and respect as an essential part of communication.July 2, 2025 at 3:37 am #602009A lot of men, regardless of what we write here, want to use us as vacation spots or prostitution for their curiosity and need to get so called sessions, Great if one wants that but they do not seem to listen when wet say that is not what we want. To us is a bonding process to them often just a short instrument of pleasure. Are you going to be in my town accidentally when I clearly said I wanted something more lasting that is not possible as a tourist spot?
Thank you for saying this, or the persistence of people who think that what we needed and wrote means nothing over their wish to get body parts.July 2, 2025 at 10:17 pm #602291This is unfortunately an all too frequent occurrence that I’ve seen on BDSM sites as well. When someone says no, some people just don’t get it. Respect should be the watchword for anyone on this or any other site.
July 3, 2025 at 3:48 am #602394Another creepy/cringe worthy addition from today:
“I want to become completely dependent on your milk.”
July 3, 2025 at 7:33 am #602405This pic sufficiently explains my feelings on that last comment
July 3, 2025 at 11:10 am #602431I wonder if it is the same person who told you who told me the same thing , I love when they start telling me how I should bake with it or make things like that, more than one. Yes, that makes me feel so damn special, like something that came from a bottle. I mean they do realize cows needed to be selected for that quantity of milk.
July 5, 2025 at 1:27 am #603032@roseknows @moonlightriver @blueberrykiwi3
Over the past few days, I’ve gotten a handful of creeps in my Dm.
No introduction; No Hi, Hello, or How are you.
Instead they opted to go with “ Love to taste your milk” and “ How are your breasts real”
Another one that really makes my skin crawl is when they ask how my family is doing, then immediately mention how I’m producing a lot of milk and if I can nurse them.
I actually get a lot of messages of men who think it’s ok to ask if I’d be willing to nurse them if they show up where I live.
There is never any attempt to make conversation or get to know me. Sometimes it’s a long winded paragraph where they talk about their “abundance of experience” and it ends with them stating their intentions to drop by to nurse. Assuming that I’m going to agree and give my address?!
Most of the time I get messages with men just telling me they’re available and want to be nursed between the dates they’re viable. Never any proper greeting. But then they’ll repeatedly message me until I threaten to report them to The admin for pestering and harassment. Sometimes I send them screenshots of the rules and regulations of conduct for this site.
And they always get defensive and say “ I was just asking politely” or “There is no harm in asking”.
But I feel like this is an incredibly facetious cop-out. It’s alarming how they pretend not to see how insensitive and harmful it is to ask for something so deeply personal without any relationship that would entitle them to ask such a question.Last year I had a move because a stranger literally drove to my town based off the general city I had displayed on my profile. They figured that there “wasn’t any harm in asking”, but proceeded to try to gaslight and pressure me to meet them since they drove four hours to get to my county. I reported and blocked their account and they were eventually banned (Different website).
July 5, 2025 at 1:38 am #603037I think a large majority of men choose to be facetious so they can use their ignorance as an excuse. The second you call them out on their shit, they say that they didn’t know or didn’t see the harm. They say that they were just asking and that it’s not disrespectful to ask.
But I think some men honestly don’t care as long as they get their needs met.
On two separate occasions I had a man try to force themselves onto me because they couldn’t control themselves during ABF. But the second I called them out on it and put a label on what they tried to do, they tried to downplay their behavior.
For that reason alone I refuse to participate in casual or platonic nursing.
So many things can go wrong when you choose to meet with someone you don’t know very well.But I guess men don’t have to think about these things because they’re usually not the ones who are being swindled or taking advantage of.
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