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Besides looks, what character qualities do you look for in a potential partner.
For me, warm and nurturing, emotionally mature, fun loving, ability to communicate, and confident that the ANR lifestyle is what she wants.Looks, for me is almost last for presence or characteristics.. it’s shallow to me.
I prefer someone with great ongoing communication skills. I do not bother with the guys who respond with “Hey, what’s up”. Those requests will get an automatic ignore as ANR for me, is TRUST. It’s accepting vulnerability with your partner. It’s BEING kind, RESPECTFUL and caring.
Anr isn’t a matter of convenience.. you can’t expect me to want to nurse you if you never kept up communication with me. It may not need to be everyday, but ongoing open communication is what BUILDS the trust until we meet, and hopefully if nursing takes place, AFTER.
I feel so many here are so eager to nurse, that when they finally get the opportunity too, they treat you like a conquest and not so much like a person with feelings. And eventually ghost.
That is my biggest pet peeve and the #1 quality I seek.
I agree with you. So many want to jump into nursing right away. To me it’s the end goal, not the starting place. There is no way I would want to nurse from someone with out developing a relationship first. Nursing is way to intimate for it to be a casual thing in my opinion.
I felt that I had to put the “besides looks” piece in because if I didn’t that’s where it was going to stay. I wanted the answers to be more thought provoking than that.
I would say someone that is protective and assertive but not controlling and that is very hard to find, also the intelligence and at least some common values or I would feel I missed my standards for a physical experience which is something I am not willing to do.
For me it is not easy to generalise but I would start with kindness, respect, trust, love, sense of humour and build from there.
Not in any particular order, but honesty, integrity, sense of humour, good communication skills – listening and not just hearing, the willingness to take the time to get to know each other and not wanting just to jump in with both feet, and reliability – following through and communicating when they say they will and showing up
I’m really enjoying reading everyone’s responses so far! I appreciate everyone’s openness.
I’d like to add a slight caveat to the point on looks that absolutely nobody asked for.
I don’t think looks as a quality is entirely superficial. I feel there has to be a degree of physical attraction when you’re with a partner. I can’t imagine pursuing an individual you didn’t find in some way attractive even on a superficial level.
That being said, I’m very much on btrfly’s level in thinking it’s perhaps the very last thing I look for, because physical attraction does not build and nurture a happy and healthy relationship. Attraction to a person will ALWAYS supersede attraction to their looks. There are 11/10 women I wouldn’t touch with a yardstick because their personality is so abhorrent, and I’ve fallen hopelessly in love with at least one person who wasn’t the most physically attractive to me because she was otherwise an angel.
That being said, to ACTUALLY answer the question 😂
The most attractive qualities a woman can have for me is gentleness and kindness/selflessness. If a woman shows some sort of care or concern nature for the wellbeing of those around her, ESPECIALLY if she would gain nothing from showing such concern, I’m putty in her hands. (When I think about it, I think this might be why I’m so receptive to ANRs. A nurturing nature is built upon these two things, after all.)
To me, it’s a sign that she would do anything she can to relieve my life stresses or comfort me in times of stress and struggle if we were ever involved in the long term. She wants to make my life easier and as stress free as possible, and that in turn makes me want to do all I can to care for and protect her.
There are other qualities that of course contribute to my attraction. Things we share like interests, senses of humour, and values such as honesty and humility are of course important to me and are things I consider in a partner. But in my eyes, kindness and gentleness are paramount.
Jake, I agree with you 100%. Even as a blind guy there are certain physical characteristics that I am attracted too. For example, blond hair and blue eyes.. as we all know looks are skin deep and can change. I agree with you about the more important emphasis being placed on personality, and having similar values and sense of humour, as they’re the characteristics that make a relationship work. Thanks for sharing.
It amazes me the number of guys that have the suckle and run mentality. It’s like they either didn’t know or are too immature for the relationship component of ANR.
If that’s the kind of agreement between the feeder and the suckler established beforehand, I can accept that. I think it totally defeats the purpose of ANR and its essence, but if it makes both parties happy, I’ve very little to comment on.
But I think it’s foul for a person to take advantage of the intimacy and closeness a woman desires from nursing simply to fulfil their one-time fantasy with no desire to make it a meaningful thing, especially when the woman makes it very clear that’s what she wants/needs. (The same criticism applies if the roles are reversed, but I doubt there are many women who take advantage of people who want that intimacy, just so they can get their tits sucked. I could be wrong about how uncommon it is, though.)
@Jake. I wished there was a love button for comments. I would love on it a million times on your first comment ! That’s exactly how I think and feel! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
That’s so validating to hear, thank you so much @btrfly! I was worried I was gonna ruffle at least one feather on this thread (especially the first part), but it feels nice knowing someone feels so similarly. 🥰
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