“Can we continue our conversation on Telegram?” … Suspicious?

[Ste]

Once I have established a messaging relationship here I always ask if the person uses another messaging platform
The reason being I have lost count of the friendships I have lost on here due to the person leaving the site, absolutely nothing sinister my end

[Douglas]

In my personal opinion, from having been involved in this community in one way or another for the past 6 years or so…

Absolute refusal to leave the site, has in my opinion proven to almost be a dead ringer for a scam/fake.

I’ve made contacts with people that send nudes pictures and videos on the site. And text about all manner of intimate things.

This can go on for days and days.
And then you have the audacity to ask them if they are open to having communications off the site. And you get a lot of the same old tired answers:

*I hate that app.

*I don’t feel comfortable.

*I want to feel safe…..

Etc etc etc.

Asking very pointed questions is a good way to root out scammers and people that are just generally full of shit.

Like once I said:

So let me get this straight. You are sending us (me and my sweetheart, that is) naked pictures etc of yourself, including your face… But asking if we could move our conversations to another app is absolutely out of the question?

What I’ve learned from being involved in this kink and in this community is to be VERY DIRECT. Because there is so much to wade through.

[Douglas]

I don’t want to make light out of people needing to feel safe and comfortable. I hope my previous message did not come across in that way.

Safety, comfort, and trust are absolutely essential.

But an experienced scammer knows how to use these words against you to keep you on the line.

[Author]

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