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I can only speak for myself. There’s no creeper vibe here. I think I posed a legit question to a group of men and women who explicitly, per their voluntary membership here, wish to engage at various degrees in ‘breast worship.’ The question, if you missed it, was secondary to comfort is it common or uncommon for a woman to signal this desire by moving through the public sans-bra?
Your response (notably a person without breasts) appears at face value and upon repeated readings to be the screed of a roid-raging, twice-rejected, walking red flag.
I see from your anger and frustration that my presence here threatens you in some way, but I assure you that is not the case. I apologize for triggering you and will attempt to correct the error of my ways. Please understand that this type of criticism is best dealt with in an adult tone, in private, not a public forum. Good day to you, sir.Obviously I can only share my own perspective and everyone will justify their own point of view, but I have to agree largely with Baker, although you do seem a little intense in your delivery, I identify with what you’re saying.
Jake, I’m afraid I do find that your arguments sound like a sex offender making excuses for why the victim was asking for it. I’m not suggesting you’re a criminal, but you are giving of creepy vibes by suggesting that women dress in a certain way because they want men to leer at them. There’s a difference between an admiring glance and lecherous ogling and your description suggests the latter.
Keep in mind that I’m quite outspoken compared to many of the women on here, so while I don’t represent them all, I’m probably saying what a lot of other women are thinking before they hit the block button.
It’s ok. I have found many of your responses in the forums to be generally acerbic and off-putting. But I guess I am just opinionated that way. Go ahead and pound that block button. But for the record, 1) I offered evidence that some women actually do ask for attention by going bra-less. If you need further evidence, I suggest you peruse any of the profiles on this site and the attached uploaded media. 2) there is no blame to be assigned as I don’t see anything wrong with it. Everyone asks for attention on some level. Everyone needs validation and acceptance. I don’t know anyone who has NOT dressed or acted provocatively at one point in their lives or another. (see #1) 3) at no point was the woman in my story shamed, blamed, or made to feel uncomfortable. She was never in any danger and no outward expression of attention, short of a passing glance, was ever given. If you misunderstood that not to be the case, that was your own misinterpretation. But if a glance and heartfelt appreciation of a woman on the street is all that is required to convict me as a sexual offender, then I am guilty as charged.
You literally asked if you were supposed to ignore it. You got answers from 2 people telling you that you should indeed ignore it. You didn’t like the responses, which explains your comment about the need for validation.
Your perception of the world around you is a reflection of yourself. So is mine, which would explain why my responses to you may be “acerbic and off-putting”.
Not everyone is looking for validation. Some of us are looking for connection.
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