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And so it begins…
This is an adult breastfeeding site. A site for dating and relationships. Quite a bit different than a restaurant.
It seems only natural for breasts to be exposed. It is just one method of attracting a partner.
If someone wants to share an image of themselves in chat I say right on! Most likely I will give them a compliment.
If I don’t want to see Grey’s moob, I don’t click on the sliver. Sorry Grey.Folks should just get over being uptight. They are just boobs.
Clearly you missed the point of my restaurant analogy, then. But… No surprise there.
And clearly, this place isn’t like Star Trek, where “the needs (or wishes) of the many outweigh the needs of the few.” It’s plain to see that the will of the 10 or so chat “regulars” and the 4 or 5 females who post their breasts constantly, over and over, (ad infinitum) in chat are more important than the thoughts and feelings of the MANY who have expressed their concerns, and have been harassed and mocked and even deleted for expressing them.
With that, I have said my last. Feel free to applaud my future silence.
For some reason this made me think of this company picnic we had at a local amusement park and daughter walking around nursing her son with absolutely not a care in the world, full breast out. Not one person said anything and I don’t even recall anyone gawking. Maybe it’s a Portland thing that people here aren’t that phased by breasts or breastfeeding. Maybe that’s why there are so many women from Oregon on here 🤷♀️
@anrlover.. I hear you. I applaud you. I thank you for what you’ve said and that you speak for the majority of us.
Seriously… some of the ridiculous reasons a few people are grasping at 🙄 all because we don’t want to see your boobs in our faces daily 🤦🏻♀️
Is that seriously all you can offer people to talk about? I mean really? JUST YOUR BOOBS!?! What a sad state of affairs that is! This is a dating site not a soliciting site.
Don’t make out we are shaming you.. we are not. If you feel a certain way because the majority of people are asking you to behave decently then that’s on you. We are part of an online community who want relationships involving adult breastfeeding so don’t twist the narrative..
No one has dissed people breastfeeding their children.. in fact the whole notion of using THAT as an argument is disgusting! Posting videos of your breasts jiggling or squirting milk is sexual and we all know it. Do not make out like you’re being shunned or shamed for simply popping a breast out on occasion. There is a MAJOR difference between breastfeeding a child and a partner and having your boobs out constantly in public.
Some of you are not even chatting, yet others are mid conversation and you’ll post a pic of boobs.. no context.. no conversation.. just flashing. If that’s not for attention then what else would you say it is?
Posting pics of tandem/group nursing sessions with other couples and talking about how much fun you could all have together is way too much information for the public chat. That’s NOT encouraging us.. That amounts to exhibitionism which is sexualisation of breasts.. that’s a public display that is better off kept on your own page.
I am horrified to hear that you equate this as the same as breastfeeding an infant! Women have been campaigning for years to desexualise feeding an infant in public and the comparison between that beautiful moment and nursing an adult is not remotely the same thing. It would be frowned on as a whole in a public arena as this is most definitely seen as a sexual act. If you cannot see the difference between the two that’s rather disturbing.
Look at nude beaches… everyone is welcome to have their bodies FULLY exposed but there is a line for their behaviour. There is NO engaging in sexual activity etc or you will be removed, fined, arrested etc.
Michael has made the decision to offer no boob days for those of us so that would prefer that and to make it FAIRER for all. Please respect this and allow those of us that would like to enjoy those days to do so without harassment and ridicule. I know for one I will respect the days you are posting your boobs and not attend the chat.
@tuehlykv I have a few questions in regard to how this will work.What Timezone are we going by?
Can we differentiate between the non boob days and boob days by the colour of the banner perhaps so we know when it’s comfortable to come in?
Can we have rules around people coming in to the chat to be respectful and have consequences for their actions? For example: Coming in to post male nipples etc as a joke, or make snide comments about there being ‘no boobs in the chat’ should be seen as unacceptable behaviour.Thanks for giving us this opportunity Michael to have a safe space for those that have requested it and the silent people that have hoped for this but haven’t felt empowered enough to request it.
For those that have wanted the boob free chat then please join us when we are in the chat, know you are welcome and we would love to get to know you. If we want to make the most of this opportunity and keep this then we need to get involved as much as possible. Hopefully meaningful connections can be made for you to find what you’re looking for.
Kazzie ♥️
I have had many wonderful conversations in chat. In fact the majority of the chat is filled with conversation and not breasts. You choose to see what you want. Apparently that is my breasts.
The real issue doesn’t lay with the breast pictures, it’s about me and issues people have with me that don’t even know me and rely on rumors for information.
The real majority of people on this site could care less either way with the breast pictures. They don’t care about stupid drama and have no interest in participating in it. I personally would like nothing to do with bickering and drama. Unfortunately, because I am kind to others and choose to be friendly and participate in the community, it has made me a target for drama. So, I have not been given a choice in it.I would dare say 90% of the chat isn’t about breast at all…those who actually stay and chat would know that…the others with attitude think the world revolves around themselves and think they are right no matter what…instead of making songs about their sex toys maybe stay in the chat and actually chat with those you disagree with…just saying…look in the mirror
Please don’t make this about you. This is about others wanting meaningful connections. We are being respectful to you and how you want to portray yourself.
We shall see which is the more healthy promotion of ANR/ABF by the quality of the engagement in the chat.
@kazzie your hypocrisy is shining bright.. upon your return to the site, you posted your asinine video to the chat. Additionally, a week or so ago you addressed the tasteless comments some men made to pics that were posted and how this should be a
place where women should feel comfortable sharing. In the last few days you began chastising those women who shared pictures. I am interested to see what your reason for complaint is next week.❤️ JandRH
You are the one that made personal attacks against me in your comment. Is that your version of quality engagement? Spreading rumors that you heard 3rd hand and attacking me? I’ve never made any comments against you as a person in the chat or in this forum. Yet you find it OK to do that to me.
@asomua49 – let’s disemminate your statement to reveal its truth.
First off if, as you assert, that 90% of the chat doesn’t even mention breasts, how is that promoting meaningful connections to be made on a breast centric dating site?
You mention ‘those with attitude’ think the world revolves around them. From what I can see there has been respectful requests for a differentiated space in chat. The solution proposed by Michael gives fair allowance for ‘Boob posting’ days, so how is this unfair or inequitable?
I’m afraid you show yourself as an unevolved jerk by trying once again to single out one specific person and mock her with your insults. Grow up.
As for looking in the mirror, the glaring hypocrisy with which you conduct yourself would crack your mirror and you’ll unlikely ever be able to see your own unevolved character. What a shame. Please keep us posted on how well your quest goes to actually find a woman prepared to honour you with the privilege of suckling her.
I have not posted any videos to the chat. I have posted to my profile and Michael shared it to the VIDEO section, I have NEVER agreed to post it in the chat. Michael posted the link to chat and I was unaware of that until just now.
I have also not attacked any of you personally yet you all seem to think this is ok to do to me. This is the exact reason why most people do not feel comfortable going into the chat whilst you are all there.
I have chosen not to engage with you all as I do not like what you stand for and I will continue to do that moving forward.
Take care and have fun on your boob days
Where? Please identify where I singled you out as an individual?
And I will not be hiding from the chat on non “boob days”. I will respect Michael’s rules, but this isn’t a US vs them drama site and I’m not playing these stupid games. I enjoy the having conversations with the wonderful people I’ve met on here, even when they don’t meet others standards of high brow conversation
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