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Hmm… very interesting comments.
I’m not opposed to sharing pictures in chat. I’ve done it myself. Complimenting a friend on her picture is not worship. It is possible not to open the picture sliver. Just don’t click on it.
As far as conversation goes, join in if you like. Lurk to see if your friends are chatting. I
join in, say hi, whatever. I tend to avoid those that think certain requirements must be met to join chat.
In ending a “Booby ban” is portent to doom. Doom I say!Take care y’all. Be nice to each other.
@JandRH I’d hazard a guess that many if not most approach ANR from a position of mutual respect, shared intimacy, and hopefully relationship commitment. Those who see it as a “kink”primarily might find Fet more in line with their expectations. 😐
When breast aren’t posted on the chat for days…no one still talks…so I’m just wondering where’s the so called engagement when the rooms aren’t being filled with pics ?
I did not refer to our ANR as a kink.. the core of ours is the intimacy, we hope that in sharing our story we could help provide guidance/answer questions of those who are seeking what we are so fortunate to have.
The cattiness of the chat and how cliquey it comes across is why I don’t care to participate (no offense- I’m just not here for that), but I definitely have stopped logging in to the site as often because I was tired of seeing so many bare tits on the homepage between the ones in the chat and the user pics 🤷♀️
You want to put your titties out there to whoever for whatever reason, you go right ahead, sis! Get your life! I genuinely support you.
But consent is a very important concept to remember here.
It’s no different than unsolicited dick pics. If there’s no consent by a viewer, it’s not really okay.When my children were small, I lived in a very conservative and religious community. When I would take them to the park, I remember all the mothers sitting there nursing their babies in the open while the older children played. I guess coming from a large family, being around nursing mothers most of my life, and spending a solid decade of my life nursing babies, I find it very sad that breasts that are the very essence of human life are so shunned and shamed.
Could there be two chats?
Or toggle images?People enjoy different things, the community is growing. Try different things, see what happens.
@flowrgardn – I remember that day in chat where you were mocked for expressing your thoughts. Around the same time, there were several female members who either deleted their profiles, or were deleted by admin for expressing similar thoughts, and when those 4 or 5 people left (or were kicked off) the site, the comments in chat were unbelievably rude and hostile. A few of the “regular” chat folks were openly mocking and laughing about finally “getting rid of the karens,” and other crass comments. Yet nothing was ever said or done about that.
@agirlwithtitties – I think you phrased it PERFECTLY. Your words: “consent is a very important concept to remember here. It’s no different than unsolicited dick pics. If there’s no consent by a viewer, it’s not really okay.” That is EXACTLY what many of the other women (and some of the men too) have been trying (and failing) to convey to Admin and to the regulars in chat. No one has EVER said topless pictures should be banned! They have merely asked to have them limited in the PUBLIC chat. But when they do, they are harassed, bullied, called “Karens,” and have even had their profiles deleted for speaking out.Personally, I am not offended by the pictures, and I don’t care how many pictures women post. I love breasts, and I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t. But this site shouldn’t cater to the desires of SOME of the members… it should be a safe, comfortable place for ALL members, no matter what. The topless pictures should be on profiles and puzzles, where people can CHOOSE to view them, not in the chat, where they pop up randomly whenever someone gets the urge to throw them out there for general viewing.
This is great
What a bunch of lunatics.
Interesting conversation, but I do admit I do not participate in the chat room. In fact this is the first time I have written something on this site besides private conversations. I “socialize” in my real life world and I hope to find someone to ADD to that real life world, not have my existence be defined by an online personna.
At the time I find a full time partner I will likely delete, or at a minimum disable my profile here as this site will have fulfilled its purpose of finding an ANR partner that I can live with, and share my life with. I have read the conversations in chat but usually ignore them and continue on my quest of finding a woman to share my life with “outside of these walls”.
That is my purpose here, not to define myself within this online society. I want to be known intimately by my partner by my real name Craig, not by my online alias “hersheyborn” that I use to sign on here, or my handle of “I Could Be Him”.
I want to be someone’s real life partner, friend, and lover. I want to roll over in bed and kiss them good morning, and suckle them lovingly, not “log on” to talk to them. I am defined by who I am as a living, breathing, loving, caring, human being, not by my personality in a chat room here. I long to escape the walls of this society, because then I will likely have found my real world love, and will suckle her with love every day and night.
And whether someone “flashes their boobs” here in a chat room will be inconsequential, because I will have found my very own woman, and breasts, to love all day and every day.
But men, please treat women here with respect, like you would your own real life friends or family, or someone you would be dating, not someone to ogle and make lewd public comments to or about. And ladies, if you act dignified, you just might get dignity in return.
That being said, just because a woman shares a picture of themselves, even bare chested, is not an invitation, or excuse, to be degrading to them. In the real world one cannot behave that way without consequences.
Here you can hide behind the anonymity of your alias, and not be accountable as the person who has friends, children, a job, a family, etc. Get out in the real world and most of these problems go away. That is where I hope to happily be, with my ANR partner lovingly by my side.
“Don’t Look Ethel”, always made me laugh when I’d hear the song. This conversation reminds me quite a bit of that.
Myself, personally couldn’t hide my boobs with clothes on, so naked in a pic really isn’t a big deal, I still get ogled all the time. I will say, I don’t particularly want to see a “wall” of them anywhere, lol. Could be an interesting wallpaper design someday though.
The chat rooms are a fun place for people to come together, or should be. Some people can join others because of their current situation/partnership can not. To each their own.
So here’s my take on this. This site is supposed to be a celebration of something we all enjoy. Not everyone enjoys it the same way. However when a women has bare breasts in their profile. You will still see it every time they talk in chat. Where as the pics are only at most a few a day. We should be embracing, and celebrating women’s bodies. I feel this is the same argument that people used on breastfeeding mothers when they are in public feeding their child. They get can u cover up im not comfortable. Or can u cover up I don’t want my husband to see. No. And they shouldn’t have to.
Also this argument that it brings out bad guys is total bs. There are plenty of d bag guys on this site that have never used that chat. As I’m sure u ladies can attest. Some women may see the pics of someone lactating,and think there is hope for me to induce. We need more positive vibes on here not less. Be good to each other.
Joe your “takes” completely miss the point. Yes, profile pictures are visible in chat, but they are small and unobtrusive in the chat. Barely noticeable and relatively easy to overlook if someone doesn’t want to see. A posted picture pops up over and over again as it’s reposted and commented on, and it’s highly visible, in spite of what people say about it only being a “sliver” until you click on it. And your comparison of a woman breastfeeding in public has nothing whatsoever to do with someone posting random boobs in the public chat. It’s not even in the same ballpark. A mother feeding her child is an essential part of life, and 99.9999% of the women who do so, do it as discreetly as possible. Yes, there are those who take offense, (rightly or wrongly) about a mother doing that in public. But you seldom see a woman drop her top and randomly hang her boobs out for all to see while she’s sitting in the middle of a crowded restaurant. There’s a big difference between the two actions.
I agree with Joe. I know I am a new user however I don’t have an issue with the pictures. Perhaps for some people who see abf/anr as non sexual or etheral it is an issue and I respect that view. However, I adore women’s bodies myself and love women having pride in their bodies and in this site’s context, their breasts.
As long as the poster owns the picture and it is of them I have no issue of them posting (but if it is a random, non consensual picture I do).
It would be great if the chat can stop nonsensical arguments, and any disrespect which reduces it to keyboarding warrioring.
We can all just have a mutual connection. It really can work xxx
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