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As a young man who has always desired an ANR I grow increasingly tired that my age is a problem for so many people.
I understand that everyone is entitled to their preferences and that’s completely fine, it just seems that no one is looking for a younger man to share this dynamic with. I’m serious about this and I have a lot to offer but I never get a chance due to my age.I would be interested to learn if anyone else of similar age to me is experiencing the same problem, and why so many women prefer much older guys for abf or an anr.
It makes me wonder, is there a “minimum” age for this type of dynamic? I have noticed there are plenty of mature women on here, but I very rarely see any women close to me in age. Another question for the ladies. At what age did Abf become important to you? I would be interested to know.
Hi Adam,
It’s difficult so take a deep breath.
The chances of finding a right partner seem slim no matter what age or gender.
The journey through might teach you a lot about life and human nature. As anything else in life, it’s about having the right intention and letting go of the outcome. Doesn’t guarantee any results but makes the situation more easy to deal with.
Everyone has had their own experiences. Age can be biological, chronological, psychological and emotional.
When I was in grad school, Biological age was defined by the lengths of telomeres at the ends of chromosomes. This definition might have been further refined, so I am not completely sure.
Chronological is per our time or birth date. The other 2 seem obvious.
There maybe inherent biases caused by perceived past experiences driving this dynamic. There may also be other perceptions. Again none of the perceptions are necessarily true but maybe driven by our internalization and processing of things that happen to us, what we hear, see, experience. Basically driving our judgement about others. Also we perceive things as safe or harmful and react accordingly. Some of the software for this we inherit, some we learn through experiences. The issue is that we process everything that occurs to us personally. In reality, the cause, the actions and reactions maybe completely unrelated. If one or more experiences follow the same pattern then we form a judgment. We humans spend most of our lives judging, good, bad, right, wrong, safe, unsafe, comfortable, nurturing etc.
Hence the initial use of the word bias. When young men contact me I am unsure if they are looking for titillation or are indeed genuinely curious, interested, respectful, honorable. It takes a lot of discernment which is difficult in an online setting for men of any age. One thing I have noticed is that no matter the age of the man, it quickly becomes physical, how big are your breasts, how big are your nipples, can I see them? So one wonders, is this person contacting me because he is window shopping, or is he doing it for the purpose of instant arousal and self gratification. Unfortunately a large percentage of people still do that and more often they think it’s fine because some women don’t mind being the object of such desires. For those looking for something deeper it is all a time and energy drain.
I am unsure why younger women are not into this. I hope they become interested.
I think you know from our previous conversations over messages, that although you seem more mature than most men I speak to who are double your age, I still can’t get past the fact that you’re younger than my stepson and only a couple of years older than my older daughter 🙈
Although I do have a preference for younger men, due to being young at heart, if someone is biologically young enough to be my child, that’s a step too far for me I’m afraid.
I was about 40 when I first considered adult breastfeeding, once my children were teenagers. I don’t know if that’s a common thing with many women who are into this, or just me personally. I don’t know, but I suspect many younger women might be interested in exploring it as a kink, but many won’t want to put in the time, effort and dedication required to embrace it as a lifestyle.
I hope someone will give you a chance because from talking to you for the past few months, you seem like a really lovely guy, who would make an excellent partner x
Adam, don’t give up hope. The right lady is out there for you. I’ve chatted with a number of fine ladies in their twenties. Some are on your side of the Atlantic. Perseverance is key. Don’t give up the ship! Good luck!
I’m 27.
So similar in age.
I can see your angle however it’s just a thing where you just have to hope and wish and be the best of your self and someone will accord and connect with you expand your searches and someone will choose you , someone will come around it’s not easy and it’s hard trust me I know but it’s never the end.
Someone will come around and accept you for exactly who you are.
Choose a woman who chooses you!
Don’t lose faith.
God speed.
Gotta remember this is still a type of relationship rather it’s just consensual suckling or if it becomes a full on romantic relationship it’s still a relationship. Some people dont want someone too young for whatever reason maybe because they have kids and having someone too young reminds them of their kids. Other times people just arent attracted to someone too young because they dont wanna get those weird looks in public. I’m sure there girls younger that are into this however I’m 35 and I just recently found out ABF/ANR was a actual thing I’ve always been into breasts and had a lactating experience once I think that’s when I got really into lactating porn at that point I realized this kink is legit. Reddit put me hip to this site. I havent had luck here either but its really cool to be in a place where others love the same thing I do. Keep your head uo big dawg.
Age is a tough one. For me, it comes down to a few things:
1) My oldest child is 26. Honestly, it makes me feel weird and like a creep to be with someone who is my son’s age, or close to it;
2) I want someone who is independent and established. While a lot of 20+ yr olds certainly can be, many are still finding their way in the world;
3) I can usually relate to younger people, but younger people can’t often relate to me just due to life experiences and that creates a connection block.
But this is just me. Not all women are against young men.
Thanks everyone for their input on this discussion I appreciate your points of view.
I get that it would feel weird if I was younger than the womans son. I guess its just interesting that most people who are aware of abf/anr tend to be older than my generation.
Don’t worry, you’ll be old before you know it. Enjoy being young while you have the chance
You’re right I don’t want to wish my life away but in terms of abf I do haha
As for the “why,” left unguided most try to make standard/vanilla relationships work first in life, which can easily consume decades. There’s also a lot of cultural validation in achieving vanilla success, and that’s where the bulk of your peers are currently: “still pending” in the pipeline, being provided with toys n’ memes.
Beyond that it can also take time to establish the personal power and inner security one needs to engage in an alternative lifestyle that goes against the tyrannical grain of “what would the neighbors think.”
Being ahead of the curve is sadly a form of exile.
I’m close to your age and it’s hard for younger women to find younger men too. I’m not sure why other women my age aren’t into it, but it doesn’t seem like too many younger guys are into it either. A desire for abf must just come from experience. Distance is a super big problem though, so it could just be your area.
Exactly,Baker! In those early years, most women are being herded along with the masses down an presumed pathway of sexual fulfilment.
In my 20s, I was very confused and resigned to my fate of not particularly liking the standard vanilla intimacy on offer. Fortunately, I got divorced from a man that had never loved me when I was in my early 30s. A man who shrugged, literally, at my attempts to “communicate” that sex just wasn’t setting off any fireworks. Communicate is no more than a mantra to deaf ears.
I consciously had a mindset of, right, done it everybody else’s way, and it didn’t work. I’ll be damned if I don’t make use of my freedom now I’ve regained it.
I still didn’t know ABF was a thing. I wish I could be reunited with the man that first gave it a name. Until then, I assumed I were an odd ball.
What can I do to alert the little ones behind me, that oranges are not the only fruit? To ask them to query the disparity between the number of sex toys for every part of the human body, versus the clumsy, unimaginative ones for breasts and nipples?
That breasts aren’t just a distraction to preserve technical virginity, or prevent an unplanned pregnancy? To be boxed away once neither of these are an issue.
I’ve been reading a (rather disappointing) book. The Sex Lives of African Women.
Which might have been called Gender Ideology For the 20th century African Woman.The 20 plus “first hand experiences” have got everything. Including fisting. Yet, despite the fact that some of the most delicious looking boobs are on African women, and the fact that every other experience chronicled there is lesbian, bisexual or queer, I haven’t come across a single story with a protagonist who mentions breast centricity.
Younger ladies are being conditioned to above the waist blindness. They are anticipating pleasure in a fixed way. Many will find it, the lucky bitches! 🤬 And the search they never knew awaited them be over. The minority, like me,will skirt around the issue. Changing the topic deftly. Or talking tall about something else.
If they encounter a young man their age spending too much time up top, that isn’t something they would want to brag about with their mates.
It’s twisted. I wish something could fix it.
Outside of this community, I would live in dread of ending up in another non-stimulating relationship.
Adam, all I can suggest is, be as unapologetic about your desire for extended adult nursing as the average Joe would be about eating p*ssy. Or any other activity that makes him sound like a garden variety lothario.
When you, and the other men that love, rather than grope, breasts are nestled into the bosom of some lucky quivering woman, and your eyes have rolled so far up, that only a sliver of the whites are visible between your droopy eyelids, THEN, you are mother nature’s undisputed badass! Wear that t-shirt like a boss. You are God’s gift. Let those that have eyes see! 👏🏾
Don’t limit yourself to meeting people for ABF/ANR to places like this. While this is a good place to meet someone who is actively searching for ABF/ANR. If you’re in a relationship talk to your partner about ABF/ANR; maybe she hasn’t considered it and you can introduce her a whole new world of possibilities. Two of the last three women that I dated, I introduced to ABF/ANR and they both loved it. I met one on Facebook Dating and the other on Badoo. Now, not every woman you meet will be interested in it; but if you don’t talk with someone about it then you will never know.
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