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If you are messaged by someone older or younger than yourself, do you always assume they are into age-play?
This happens to me quite often. If I message a woman who is older than me, sometimes not even significantly older, I’m turned down because they assume I’m looking for a “mommy”.
Can ANR/ABF exist between two partners with an age difference without this connotation?
The answer to the first is a never ever.
The second is most definitely.Here’s a question. How did you know the reason they turned you down was because of the assumed Mommy/Babyboy dynamic?
They stated in their reply that they are older than me and not interested in a “mother dynamic”.
Okay, so while age play isn’t assumed, the reality for some of us women is that we don’t want to nurse someone we’re actually old enough to have given birth to.
I want the accompanying relationship alongside nursing and that just wouldn’t be comfortable for me with someone young enough to be my child. No judgements on you or your age, I just have personal preferences of enjoying a partner who is closer to my age.
would like to say that is not the rule, but it seems to me with younger men who contacted me, it was hard to find a few that did not want it, or that there was not some difference on lifestyles, if younger in this region many people live with their parents, or have more bonds with them than they would be if they were older. I was at first very open to younger and now I have seen they tend to have a hook up culture and be less consistent on communication, so I am considering I will have to pass on because it seems to be the rule.
Answer to first question is no.
It’s about feeling the connection. It can happen with any age difference. But there are more possibilities when age difference is less.I stand with Welshie. Its not because i assume role play, its because i want that connection too and i prefer someone who is at the same stage in life.i also have two kids ( boys) and i dont want to be in abf/anr with someone their age. Just doesnt feel comfortable.
Its not that a man cant be younger, that for sure is a possibility. But not someone young enough to be my son.@welshie @dairydaisy you are both talking about age preferences, which is fine.
I’m asking about the assumption that someone is looking to be mothered if they message an older woman. For example, a woman in her 30s assumed I was looking for age play purely because I’m slightly younger than her, even though I myself am in my 30s.
Age play. I never assume. It’s something that’s built up on..not automatically.
It’s odd that she would jump to age play with you 2 being s few years apart. Unless something was said in the realm of age play. Like “telling her how you’d love to lay in her lap and be cared for” this can be precieved as age play.
It’s all in the context of what you said prior too.
Yeah that does seem a bit weird if you’re that close in age tbh.
I can definitively say that age doesn’t have to affect the dynamics of an ANR. In a truly bonding, long-term connection, it’s simply about two (or more) like-minded adults sharing something magical together, where things like age or physique make no difference.
In my own nursing relationship, I was in my mid-30s, while my partner was in her 50s. But that didn’t bother either of us. I never saw her like a surrogate parent, nor did she see me as a surrogate child or a mere play-boy. We accepted each other as equals – two adults looking to explore the realms of dry suckling together. We certainly grew very close from the maternal instincts that flowed between us, and had our relationship not come to an end, it could well have developed into a long-term connection, and perhaps not limited to nursing alone.
My partner is 53yrs old and I am 74. Big age difference, but we enjoy the closeness abf brings and when we are together, we never even think about our age. My oldest son is close in age to him, but again I don’t think about it. We have been together now for 4.5yrs and still going strong. We have a very good sexual relationship, eventhough some might say I am too old for it (which neither or us think that). So I think that Abf/ANr relationship can exists with a big age difference. When we first got together, I have refused him a number of times, but he was insistent, telling me that age just a number and I also thought, you can’t help how old you are, what’s inside that matters.
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