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Can we all please get a grip? When exactly did this place become a crisis management center with occasional boobs?
I swear, every time someone leaves, we’re off to the races. Someone mentions harassment, the outrage begins, and suddenly we’re having another spirited discussion about the terrible state of the site and what Michael needs to do about it. Good grief. Here we go again. 🙄
And can we talk about how casually we’re tossing around words like harassment and bullying? Those are serious words, with serious implications. Actual harassment deserves attention and action. But not every unpleasant interaction qualifies, and I think we’ve lost sight of the difference.
And poor Michael. What’s he supposed to do when someone demands action but won’t provide enough information to investigate? Read minds? Investigate the vibes? 🙄
At some point, we have to ask ourselves whether we’re genuinely interested in solving problems or just enjoying the outrage.
Look, we’re grown-ass adults on an adult website. There are going to be awkward encounters, bruised egos, and people whose personalities make you want to fling your phone into the nearest body of water. Welcome to interacting with other humans.
I’m well aware I’m not everybody’s favorite flavor of trouble around here. My opinions and shenanigans aren’t universally adored, and I can live with that. Quite happily, actually. 😘
But here’s what I can’t quite wrap my head around. Why does someone deciding this place isn’t for them require a public autopsy of everything supposedly wrong with it?
If there’s a real problem, let’s deal with it. But can we please stop confusing personal preferences with community failures?
Not everybody is going to love this place. Nobody promised you would!
For heaven’s sake, people. Take some responsibility for your own experience and stop expecting the entire site to lose its mind every time something doesn’t go your way.
And, I say all this with genuine affection and what little patience I have left. 😘
Thank you @lolamayi12345!! Hear hear!!
Especially thank you for saying Michael cannot solve it all. If we really want a safe and kind environment, its upon us all in the first place.
I think a lot of people have lost the art of communication, all we want to do is hide behind these stupid screens, no one even wants to talk on the phone anymore let alone meat in person, if someone is interested in you but the feelings not mutual here’s a novel idea just tell them I respectfully decline your interest, I think most people would consider that as a appropriate reply, if they can’t and escalate things that’s where the block button comes in for use.
Everyone here is going to have a different personality, that’s what makes us all interesting in our own ways, some people like myself enjoy saying hi to new people getting to know them building a relationship, others are more reserved and don’t like that type of interaction, and guess what neither one of them is wrong, but until you express that you have a different viewpoint or different interests than someone else, the potential for an unpleasant interaction exist, here’s a novel idea for some of you, try speaking your mind but do it in a respectful way to the person who you really don’t want to interaction with, it’s my belief that people will respect kindness a lot sooner than they will ignorance and arrogance, I’m sure there are those that are going to take issue with what I’ve dated, and guess what, I’m good with that
I think this can be applied to more than just this site. It seems like the expectation is everyone is pleased all of the time. If that doesn’t happen then we need to burn it all down. It seems that people have a huge sense of entitlement. You should make me feel comfortable at all times or you are Satan incarnate 🤣. We have coddled people way too much and it has resulted in a society incapable of coping with differences of opinion and failure. The reality is, you are not always going to get what you want. That’s how the world works. Sometimes people don’t agree with you, that doesn’t mean you should destroy them. Just because someone chooses to leave the site, doesn’t mean the site is broken.
“Meat in person”? Oh boy, I can already hear the wisecracks coming on that one, oh well it should be good for a laugh anyway
Yes ….. but I don’t just like this….. I love your response to what’s happening. I believe in mediation and negotiation, just like you, Lola. I also believe in de-escalation instead of being responsible for making a situation much worse. If someone says something nasty to me, I don’t tell the world. I just block them. It’s pretty simple. If I think this person is being nasty to several people, I might let Michael know so he can monitor the situation. It’s pretty simple actually.
Here’s my two cents if people for some reason don’t like the site or the way it works or their results then LEAVE no harsh words or criticism just delete your account and GO! I personally think Michael does an amazing job and has helped me several times when some douche knuckles have come on to the site and sent unrequested trouser monkey pictures and they figure because this is a breast centered site that automatically we are looking for sex or meat pickle pictures. Anywho there are glitches in everything these days and if people are that unhappy with the site just GO instead of trashing the way it works and the people on it.
We all come here for an enjoyable time and to share in our joy of ABF/ANR. When this stops feeling like a break from the hellfire that is our current world people need to start reassessing why they’re here.. we can’t control how others act, only ourselves. In short, don’t interact with those who give you reason to not be having a fun time.
Now can someone give me a hand off of this soapbox, it’s a bit higher than I thought!
When something happened to me in a totally different scenario that I didn’t like I was told “It wouldn’t have happened if you weren’t there.” If one feels harassed or mistreated on this site just leave.
No body want to be grown ass they like complaining and chaos they feed off it
Just my personal opinion but perhaps there’s a lot of jumping to label harassment because it gives some people the “cause” or reason for an outcome they don’t like. This person ghosted me? Must be because she’s being flooded with DM’s. Someone blocked me? Must be because they misunderstood something I said. A woman suddenly left the site even though we clicked? Must be because she’s being harassed. And so on and so forth. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that even if things appear to be going well, it doesn’t actually mean they’re interested. So it’s easier to find another reason to blame.
Is that a bad thing? Honestly, I don’t know. If it helps you cope with the outcome, I guess I don’t see a problem with it besides it possibly becoming irritating to hear about constantly. It might show a lack of maturity or become an issue in other ways further down the line but maybe not so much in the present lol.
If that’s even what’s happening but idk. Just throwing my 2 cents. Thanks again for another fun read and sorry to hear about your dwindling patience. There has been an increase in unsettling vibes lately imo but maybe that’ll all go away on 11/13. 🤷🏽♂️
(And to be clear, I’m not saying everyone who puts a label on an outcome is coping every time. They’re right about the harassment and whatever else happens too. I only mean that’s not the case every single time.)
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