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What does everyone think of age preferences?
Would you meet someone much older or younger than yourself?
The same age or slightly older, but that my preference in a partner generally
I’m generally open on age as long as there’s mutual attraction and the age difference isn’t made out to be weird. Though I have a lower limit at 25 years old.
I don’t think the feeling is mutual though. I feel when I message someone older they instantly assume I have some sort of mummy or older woman fetish.
Age has never worked in my favour, especially being into ANR/ABF since my early 20s. The line I heard the most was ‘I prefer someone more mature and experienced’.
I do get some people want someone who has similar interests or life experience as them, and age can define that.
I think the problem is a lot of younger men give older women backhanded comments like they look attractive “for an older woman” or something along the lines of that which reaffirms their preferences.
To answer OPs question I don’t have much age preference within reason. I would like someone with at least some level of maturity so I the youngest I’m willing to meet is someone in their late 20s.
I’m on the younger side of this forum so ideally my age or older. I’ve always been attracted to older women, around mid 30s to 40s. A long-term LTR probably wouldn’t work with someone of that much of an age gap but an encounter regardless would be incredible.
@harris929
I get that, I just find it rather unfair to be tarred under the same brush as someone else who makes those comments. Especially if my initial message doesn’t imply anything of the sort.
Being older myself, I have found it’s not uncommon to get age related concerns. It’s a fact for some women, and men, that age is an issue. I look at it as a positive, because it helps sort out those who feel this way hopefully sooner than later.
From my end, I always try and see if there is any common ground and interest rather than making general assumptions about anyone.
The most memorable connections in my life (and the most breast skilled) have been older partners. However, I also found that partners close to my age (if I could find a mature one) had a lack of baggage that made an encounter refreshing.
For me, I think it comes down to values and traits. I look for the following:
Mature mindset (responsible, thoughtful, communicates)
Gentleness and tenderness
Derives pleasure from giving
Openness to new information and changing behavior based on that
Shared interests
Consistency and respect
Balance and honesty (not forcing anything but not flaking either)
Thinking about a woman’s body in a mutually attractive way (e.g. if I don’t like being called a dirty girl, then don’t keep calling me a dirty girl just because that’s what turns you on).
Meaningful time use (nursing requires carving out time in busy schedules)
Not being afraid of intimate feelings or being “close”Unfortunately people will always have some sort of prejudice.
But is that down to mainly meeting older partners? Do you think that would still be true if you had an equal number of younger and older partners?
Since the older partners came first, I think those encounters showed me what energy and experiences I enjoyed, which allowed me to find the same clues successfully in younger partners.
I’ve always been very selective so I can’t say, had the ages been reversed, if it would have been a similar approach or not.For me it depends on if I’m looking for a long term relationship or just a nursing partner.
If looking for an ltr around my age makes sense in terms of seasons in life and compatibility generally speaking.
Of looking for a nursing partner strictly my preference has been for younger.For me, as I am looking for a LTR ultimately, I do want someone close to my age as we have more in common, mutual interests, life experiences, etc. And, in my personal experience I feel more nurtured and cared for by an older man rather than younger men.
based on past experience, I have only had relationship with younger women. for a long-term relationship/marriage, since I am older and I haven’t ruled out completely having kids for the rest of my life, younger would be preferred.
I think this is a great discussion with some real honesty. I am an older man. I can totally understand and accept that a much younger woman would not want a romantic relationship with me. However, when it comes to ABF/ANR an older person may have an advantage because people tend to soften as they age. They become less judgmental/dismissive, they don’t insist on always having their preferences met, and they put great value on human contact and human affection. Perhaps this is overly-existentialist but older people are more aware of death and thus they are very focused on enjoying what the present brings and grateful for all expressions of love. That’s my philosophy anyway.
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