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I’m curious to know what makes breastfeeding so special for you? Is it a means to an end? Is it comfort? Is it to induce? Is it a connection?
For me, breastfeeding is special because I feel like I’m able to bring life, peace and comfort to a man with my body. A part of me is inside him, nurturing him and showing him feminine affection. It’s something only I can give him. Breastfeeding helps me fulfill my deep-seated need to comfort and help someone. Perhaps, that is why I’m a nurse in my profession. The act of breastfeeding helps satiate my need to be there for someone else.
I’m curious if anyone wants to share their thoughts.
Blackbird, thank you for your thought provoking post and your service to humanity through your profession. My point of view is that breastfeeding- dry or wet.. is the ultimate form of literal and figurative nurturing that a woman can do for another human …share her sustenance- both physically as well as emotionally. The power to give life thriving nutrition as well as the caring empathy of sharing her empathetic spirit with another human. I have no personal experience with any woman I have shared the intimacy of breastfeeding with sharing herself with a woman – but my current and best lover has expressed that the idea of her sharing herself with a woman in an ABF scenario has crossed her mind. To me, although I am entirely focused on her and her happiness- what is so alluring about my lover is her mind… giving… caring.. nurturing….has a love language of touch… open minded – resulting in me feeling closer to her everyday … with every text.. call… times actually together and all the life we are planning- outside the realm of ABF… but deeply rooted in that bond we formed the first time snd offered her breasts to me.
Thank you for the thoughtful response, Saxon. You seem to have found the right woman in your abf journey.
Yes Tom. I think the connection component is a very powerful element of this life and an often overlooked one also. It is KEY for many of us here. And I know that Blackbird treasures it as much as anyone. I love her heart for giving so completely and sweetly. I celebrate the way she loves to hold and embrace a dear one to nurse so deeply and selflessly. We should all seek out her kind and hold her up as our highest goal. She is so very precious. I know without a doubt that she didn’t omit that ideaat all. In fact, it is her favorite part of this life. It is omitted because in her mind it is just obvious.
I know there is not a shred of controversy here. I just loved Tom’s addition, but didn’t want any confusion about Blackbird’s beautiful heart. You are both giants among us. And you make us all so much better, sweet friends. And thank you all for your beautiful and endearing comments.
Q: what makes breastfeeding so special for you?
A: The awareness of the power exchange that comes with being nursed. Obviously a dry breastfeeding has a much different impact on the partners than wet breastfeeding. In other words, The reciprocal effects may be more pronounced in a wet breastfeeding relationship. Personally, In both instances, the feeding aspect empowers me to explore a unique power exchange of emotions . Pending on the interaction that exists between me and my partner at the time , the urge of touching and receiving this building blocks of “life” is closest to the mutual orgasmic pleasure. The ultimate goal of a sensual partnership.
It’s a profound and sacred form of intimacy between a loving man and woman, near the pinnacle of what I find romantic in the erotic realm. That a woman can provide sustenance, a nutritionally complete, warm, sweet, delicious nectar (to babies of course and primarily), but even for a man she loves, milk that even has a few other benefits both physical and psychological…all while physically connected to one another via highly sensitive parts of our respective bodies, in a primal act (consuming food), with the man’s head (logos) very close to the woman’s heart (pathos)…an act which provides the woman a sense of peace, warmth, intimacy, fulfilling her need to be a feminine nurturer, boosting her oxytocin levels greatly and bringing her erotic sensual pleasure to boot…
…there is simply nothing like it.
The romantic in me (or more so the nerd?) also finds appeal in the act of a man giving a woman his semen in return, as it is laden with a host of hormones and other substances that have been shown to give the woman many benefits:
– testosterone, which in small amounts has a large effect on women, including giving her a temporary boost in her sense of confidence, calm, and increased libido
– endorphins
– oxytocin
– serotonin
– prolactin
– estrone
– thyrotropin-releasing hormone
– FSH and LH
– 13 different prostaglandins (that have a modulating effect on neurotransmitters)
– nerve growth factor (induces ovulation)This is why one woman I’ve known for a long time refers to my cum as oxytocin potion, or just potion. For a couple of weeks after our unions she would feel amazing. Semen has even been shown to have an anti-depressant effect in women, and is it any wonder given all those feel-good hormones listed above? Testosterone alone has an amazing anti-depressant effect.
In short, call it “nature” if you don’t believe in the eminent creator God, but it is incredibly romantic to me that a man and woman are designed to give one another wonderful, regulating, assuaging gifts, literally through their fluids, but even without fluid exchange the mere act of suckling, and touching and caressing one another, kissing, and the man being inside of her, is beautiful, profound and sacred. The acts, the exchanges, what we give each other, tips us perpetually towards being bound to one another, each incomplete without the other, each weaker without the other.
Man provides a woman balance and protection, and fruitfulness from his seed, and woman provides the man literal sustenance and motherly comfort.
I think my entire life since puberty I have found the idea of a man nursing from his lover totally natural and one of the most beautiful forms of bonding there is.
Vincent, your response is so thorough and well articulated that I am at a loss for words. I find it interesting that you bring up logos as a representation of a man’s head. My understanding of the word is different and rooted in theology. Are you referring to logos as a term for logic or reasoning?
I do know what you mean when it comes to the positive effects of receiving a man’s cum. My lover’s cum has incredible effects on me. Not only does it make me feel powerful in a feminine way, but it does illicit feelings of euphoria that linger well past an orgasm. Thank you for sharing everything you did!
I’m particularly sensitive to the feeling of having provided satisfaction in a very simple, direct way. I want to believe that her needs are genuine, and that my handiwork has met them thoroughly. I need to see very obvious signs that all of the above is the case, else I really might not know. Uncertainty bothers me tremendously.
A nursing situation in many ways provides the ‘receipts’. If a lactating woman needs to nurse, there’s no way to fake that. Its plain to see that her breasts are full, and that nursing them gives her undeniable relief and enjoyment. When she then says the magic words “I’m hungry” you can be confident that this need is pressing, and that a four-course meal can provide a more genuine satisfaction than any orgasm could dream of doing. Her fully belly is itself proof of success.
In light of all this, I’ve come to particularly enjoy reciprocal feeding. Nursing is wonderful as it is, but all the better with the confidence that the milk wasn’t just given away (or given begrudgingly, heaven forbid) it has been fairly earned, that she actually enjoyed every step of the process.
Thank you for your encouraging response! I was half expecting to be criticized for writing so much, and for presuming I could share all that on a thread someone else started going off topic as I did, which I did have reservations about.
“My understanding of the word is different and rooted in theology. Are you referring to logos as a term for logic or reasoning?”
Yes in this context I meant it strictly in terms of logic and reasoning. I feel that is where a man’s mind usually resides, as opposed to feeling/experiencing. I know of Jesus being called Logos by John in 1 John, the first few verses of which I find incredibly beautiful, poetic even in translation. Unless I’m mistaken, when John refers to Him as “the Word” he was using the Greek word “logos”, and many have tied that back to Genesis where God speaks creation into existence…God speaking words that are more than mere sounds, but the ideas tied to them which were then made manifest through creation. Beyond this I don’t know much about logos.
Thank you for sharing, I’m glad to know of another woman who agrees that receiving her lover’s cum has a powerful effect on her. My woman calls it her medicine, her drug. I feel exactly the same about her. We spoil each other.
I’ve come across your profile a few times, perhaps via the jigsaw puzzles which I thoroughly enjoy. You remind me of my lover, your pics I mean and that you seem very sensual. I love that you wrote, “In a breastfeeding session I’m very giving. I love to touch, give back and scalp scratches, and stroke.” Many women here come across as cranky and almost selfish, and I know some of the reasons why that is on a site like this, but you are one of the few who seems loving and giving while also relishing being the focus of attention during suckling/nursing, and the courtship & dance of sex in general.
Great thread. Honestly I have little or nothing to add. To those on this site, women and men. If you are in a true ANR relationship I truly envy you, however I celebrate that you have found the happiness and intimacy that it offers!
Mn2535, yes, there is a base hunger that can be experienced by both parties. It is hunger that goes beyond the physical and enters into psychological and emotional. That is why uncertainty can be incredibly demoralizing. I can understand why uncertainty can be discouraging for you. When I experienced it in past abf relationships, uncertainty consumed my thoughts. Now that I’m in a loving abf relationship, HE consumes my thoughts. Now, I can focus on our mutual benefit and enjoyment which includes reciprocal feeding, as you call it.
Vincent, yet again, your response is so poetic.
Minor correction on the reference but logos is used by the apostle John in John 1:1, not 1 John. Easily mistyped. But yes, that is what I was referring to. The Word = logos. For someone who says he doesn’t know much about logos, you seem to have a thorough understanding.
I certainly agree with your woman. My lover’s cum is my medicine. It has cured me of my insecurities and hesitations. I have become free as his DNA courses through my veins. Free to embrace my desires, free to use my mind and body to please him, and free to explore my sensuality with a man who appreciates me. It seems you have been fortunate enough to find a woman who empowers you and matches your energy as you give of yourself to her.
Yes, I love to give during a breastfeeding session. I love to embrace and use my body to comfort and relax my man. He is used to a career of life and death situations and has put himself in danger many times in the name of truth and justice. Even though that career is in the past, I do believe that dire situations have a way of lingering in a man and I love that I have the opportunity to serve him by helping him to feel safe and nurtured in my arms.
I am aware of the selfishness that exists, from both men and women. I’m grateful that we have both found relationships that transcend the baselessness of such behavior.
Fix it man, I hope you do find a woman to explore abf with and establish an intimate and fulfilling relationship.
Blackbird et al, I am enjoying the exchange of positive and energy filled information here. Blackbird your lover must me very satisfied with you both physically and emotionally. I feel that way about my lover as she satisfies me on every level with a smile and for the first time in my life I have chemistry with a full grown woman… not just high esque biological function with a girl. In my experience, a woman who craves and practices ABF is extremely comfortable in every inch of her skin and finds pleasure in sharing in intimacy that is sparked initially by ABF. This comfort in her body had resulted in her being more aroused and orgasmic than all my past lovers. She literally gushes deliciously and the resultant creation of fluid puts us on this surreal realm of having so much literally and figuratively to consume
From each other. I crave her sustenance and liquid arousal and it is more powerful than any medicine, philosophy or desire I have ever craved, savored and shared. What has been your experience Blackbird with your entire intimate journey with your ABF partner?
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