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Hey guys please keep me honest and let me know if I’m being petulant, but I find it astonishing the amount of messages I’ve sent with no replies, not even to say their not interested. I check the site a couple times a day and almost always see their profiles on the Recent Visitors list. Is it a case that I’m being impatient if I’ve sent a message 2 weeks ago and have not received a response even though said recipients have been online for most of that period?
I guess my frustration stems from the fact I was always taught to be polite and give people their due courtesy, so I’m not sure if I’m asking too much to receive a message from someone saying their not interested – if for nothing else then for closure.
I’m just keen to know if I’m the only one who feels this way.
I’m in the same position. Messages sent (not just on this site) going unanswered. Eventually, I receive a reply. For some reason, some women post up an “urgency to be suckled” but maybe don’t check messages or ……… I cannot explain it.
You are being unreasonable and acting entitled. The women on the site owe us nothing… They likely get 100’s of messages just because they are women on-line. Think of how much time it would take them to respond to every damn message and friend request they get. Weeding through the obscene ones and the ridiculous ones and the ones that don’t even write in complete sentences. You may think you are owed a response because you were polite and normal-sounding in your message– but that still doesn’t set you apart from the vast majority of messages. Women will respond to the messages they WANT to respond to. Period. Full Stop. They don’t owe you a response and they aren’t being thoughtless or rude by not responding. If they didn’t respond to your message– then you have your response.
Thank you Divad Narr!😁
I agree with Divad.
You are not entitled to a reply, nor is it being impolite or discourteous.
“No thanks” may invite a “Why not me?” response, which may turn into verbal abuse. Yeah, you might not be like that but many others are.
You don’t need closure because there was no conversation in the first place.
Remember there’s a pandemic at the moment. People may not be looking to meet and they’re putting this on the backburner. If you’re getting very frustrated then take a break from all this and come back once some normality returns to the world. There’s more to life than this 🙂
I for one am overwhelmed with messages. Not being able to respond to them all causes me to feel awful and really stressed. I’ve stopped using websites in the past as I’d hate for people to think I’m ignorant and rude. I also worry that guys messaging will feel their message wasn’t good enough to answer, when that’s sooo not the case.
Sorry if I’ve caused anyone to feel this way xoxoDuly noted from most everyone, especially the ladies for giving us their perspective.
What a kind and sweet posting Debbilicious.
” ) Frank
I feel bad when I don’t reply straight away to people but at the same time I don’t sit online everyday either. Am interested in abf/anr alot but I am on the fence about meeting people right now because of the current social crisis which some people get other are like just brake the rules it’s fine kinda thing. Am here to build a bond and not just someone expecting me to have milk the minute they message and thinking that’s totally okay with calling me mummy. I do understand some people like that others don’t. I do get overloaded with those types of messages and am the first one to admit if I’ve already said no thanks in the first place am more than likely not going to reply to a similar question from the same person because I don’t want to get upset or argue with someone.
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