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I doubt that the men sending these types of messages will read this post. If seems that. The majority of us taking part in the forums are serious about their intent.
But I would still like to know the reason behind sending these messages. I’m sure I’m not the only person on here that. States in my profile that I’m not interested in long distance or penpals. If I were to actually chat with every long distance guy that dropped into my messages I wouldn’t have time for the basic things I have to do day to day.
Do men not understand that women are getting quite a few messages every day and don’t simply have time to waste on messages that are 99% likely to not go anywhere, except for maybe being asked for nudes?
I don’t think the men on here are experiencing the same issue, if you are I’d like to know your thoughts on these messages. And if you have any insight on the issue I’m posting about please do shed some light on it.
Considering there are 20x the number of men, I’m sure most of the men really do t expect to get a reply. They are throwing their 2 cents in and saying if I do this enough, one will bite.
Well one reason could be that you misspelled pen pals as penals in your profile. Also I must point out the irony of your taking time away from “the basic things I have to do day to day” to post this and asked for responses that have nothing to do with your meeting someone for abf/anr, that you assumedly will read and thus take more time away from “the basic things I have to do day to day”. Sorry it’s not much but it’s all the insight I had.
People aren’t reading profiles, period. No one is obligated to reply to a messages, either. Once you see their profile isn’t consistent with what you are looking for no need reply. Delete!
I’ve found some people live in their phones and don’t mind shooting their shot. They’re goal is to cast a wide net and hope to get a reply from someone. There is no intent to meet, just get pics and chat. Again, no need to engage if it’s not your thing.
I understand the frustration. I feel this way about ‘Wish I was closer’ messages.
@LadyOceana, I get those messages frequently as well, and it’s equally annoying. I just think ” okay, why in the hell did you feel the need to tell me?”
@Nickchrome. I seriously do not have time to sit around messaging every Tom, Dick, and Harry that drops into inbox. There is no irony to making a simple post in a forum. Wasting my day messaging random men that are looking for nudes, sexting, or someone to entertain their bored asses is not the same as posting in a forum and coming back to reply when I have time to do so. Obviously you knew what I ment with my typo for penpals since you felt the need to point it out; so I’m quite certain the rest of the men on here understood what I ment also. So the issue is that they either lack respect when reading profiles, or they are just to lazy to be bothered with reading them.
People who are being ironic usually don’t see the irony. Let me try to help. The irony wasn’t in you posting, rather what was in the post. There really ISN’T much difference in looking at messages and posting here ASKING for replies that you WILL waste time reading. You could get hundreds of replies, some from men wasting your time. It is also pretty ironic that you had no answer for Bella3. Perhaps because her logic is unassailable. You are not obligated to answer any one. If they’re not what your looking for delete. You can even block them so you don’t have to waste more time on them. Wouldn’t that be fun?! Please don’t say you don’t have time for that, in your first post your complaint was about “chatting” with them. in your response to me about “messaging” them. Please don’t change it now. Probably the most ironic thing is you don’t want answers, you must have thought of what Bella3 said(hat’s off to Bella3),You just want to be churlish. Lastly kudos on correcting the spelling of penpals in your profile. Come to think of it also somewhat ironic. As is the fact that you originally spelled it penals, or perhaps that was just funny. Cheers.
@Nickchrome I don’t have anything against what Bella had to say, and I don’t know why you think I do. Chatting messaging same thing, what else would you call it? Did you copy my entire profile? Would you like to critique every little thing I changed? I have made changes to my profile at least 10 times in the year and a half-ish since I joined the site. Do typos happen, yes, does autocorrect get things wrong, yes. I don’t know what your problem is and why it is such a big fucking deal for you. I asked for insight on the behavior, that was it. But you’re being a dick about it, and nitpicking everything I type. Whatever floats your boat though, go right ahead with the nitpicking.
I did not say you had anything against Bell3’s post, that’s not what irony means. I said it was ironic you chose not to answer her as hers pointed out the flaws in and answered your “complaint”. You need look no further. Also I did not “critique every little thing you changed” quite the opposite, I congratulated you on making the spelling change, and only one not “every little”. Only read your profile once. That was enough. My “problem” is mostly churlish people. I find it ironic(yes again) that you don’t see the point is to be ironic. And churlishness. And language Elizabeth, language.
Hhhmmmhhhh??? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
I have also written in my profile that I don’t honestly think people read profiles.
There are the guys and recently girls looking for wank material which gets soooooo boring after a while!!!
I must admit that I do chat to people further afield if they are fun and we click in conversation. Usually people who pop in chat n give me a run for my money in terms of banter!!!
Being able to chat/message/whatever to people all over the world feels special to me and who has too many friends?? I talk to men and women from the other ends of the world n it’s fab!!!
However, I suppose my time isn’t as strict atm due to being poorly and bored at home, I’m also not looking to meet anyone until I’m feeling better sooooo I have a different perspective than people working and wanting to have a serious relationship, therefore I can understand your frustration……. Especially if the guy is a hottie, just your cup of tea and seems to want the same type of relationship as you……but then you see he lives 5000 miles away!!! Bummer!!! 🥺
Anyhoooooo that’s my 2P’s worth!! Good luck and best wishes to you all in your searches 🥰🥰🥰
I would probably be more inclined to chat with random people if I were home a lot, but I am currently working 12 hours a day 5 days a week. I would normally be at work right now, but we had a piece of equipment break down and that stopped us in our tracks. I have also noticed I’m in general just not as social as I used to be. I don’t know what changed, but I was far more outgoing and up for chatting with just about anyone until about 8 years ago. It is what it is I guess.
Wow seems at times there’s a lot of upset ladies ,
To many messages , to much chat, to far away, not into exact same thing, etc etc 🤷🏻♂️
It’s the internet , no doubt there’s an equal percentage of women who aren’t serious also.
I’d say it’s better getting some attention than getting none, No doubt they’d be complaining if they didn’t.
As others have said previously a reply isn’t a must & delete & block if so desired.Any one up for a Chat – Also I live along way away.
🤣😂🤣 Let’s lighten up & be thankful we have this site warts & all.Elizabeth, I totally understand….. you’re working so hard n things don’t sound like they’re running too smoothly…… A partner to enjoy soothing ABF after a stressful day would be blissful!!! I feel like that when the pain is so bad!! Sooo guys who are unavailable to give that would start to get a little annoying. I’ve also stopped replying to all my messages as a a simple message saying “Hi” from someone the other side of the world can just feel like whhaaaatt???
I know lots of other members who feel exactly the same….. no effort can feel insulting so I just wanted to say you’re not alone in your thoughts hun ❤️🥰
I’m sure your Prince Charming is out there!! Don’t give up!! XxThank you Suzie, you’re spot on. I never said I reply to the messages, so I don’t know why people would assume I do. Every time I log in to the site I get a message from some guy that sees I’m online. Just because I’m logged in doesn’t mean I want to chat. I sometimes log in before bed and do puzzles as part of my wind down time. Man or woman, if they’re not going to put effort into a message why bother with sending it anyway?
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