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Lately, I have been receiving a couple of messages from men who are requesting to be drive by sucklers.
For me, this isn’t anything close to what I want.
I am curious. Who out there would be ok with this and who would not be and for what reasons. There is no right/ wrong answer. Just personal preference.
Drive by sucklers definition to me. Anybody who does not live in the same state, country or region, wanting to “stop by” with the intention of nursing and usually never seeing each other again. Because these ppl are “out on business” …for whatever reason.
It is about as close to a one night stand as one can get.
Your thoughts?
Oh oh waiting to read the replys
I think you definition of drive suckling by implies a 1 time thing.i don’t think most men want a 1 time suckling. I can’t speak for all but the bond and commitment doesn’t come to meeting one time. If a guy travels out of state and wants to meet you despite partaking in everything that state has to offer, you would think they would hope to meet you again. Imagine if a job flew you out of your state to interview you , would you think you are special even if you didn’t get the job?
They wouldn’t waste their time to fly you out so I doubt many men would waste their time just to see you once ? But I could be wrong
Oh my goodness thank you for making this a topic! I get so frustrated when people hit me up, clearly not reading my profile, for a one and done encounter.
I would like to think I make it clear I am looking for a PARTNER, not a hook up. Bringing milk in takes consistency and time. None of which involves a “drive by”.
It can be exhausting finding weeding through those kind of messages for someone who chooses quality over quantity.
Btrfly, did these gentlemen tell you they never wanted to see you again?
I’ve received many msgs that say I’ll by in your area. Never a nice let’s meet, let’s see if we connect first with a few msgs etc. lots of lame request to suckle, nurse, breast feed
I could understand more of I had posted for an advertisement!!
Lame silly guys out there!! You know who you are!! 🤷♀️✌️@Jeff. I don’t want to be a convienience. I want to be the reason he comes to visit. Not work. And no. He did not. And his business was an hour away for a conference which brings him here 2x a year. I am not giving my heart away for maybe 2 visits.
Hmm I’d only be for it if I travel to that area regularly enough to make it worthwhile for both parties.The other person would of course have to be ok with meeting once in awhile.
There’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults meeting and sharing a wonderful experience with each other. It just happens coincides with a trip.
It is something I have done before. It was great to meet after a day of driving. We had a great time. It was very nice to relax with great company. They were my friends before we met for a “drive by” and they are still my friends.🤗If it isn’t your cup of tea, so be it. To each their own. Macht nicht as we used to say.
I get this all of the time, either “going to be in town” or married and “she doesn’t like it” These drive by, non invested sucklers are just looking to get their own needs met irrespective of their partners needs.
For me it’s the emotional connection that makes me love nursing so the drive bys are a hard no and the one time sessions make me feel awful.
Also to reiterate what Jules said and this goes for most messages I receive, there is rarely a let’s meet, let’s see if we connect first with a few msgs etc…
Of course there are women that are just looking for sucklers and don’t want that connection, that’s cool for them, you do you boo. I support you getting your needs met, this is just my view point.
It definitely doesn’t work for me… Breastfeeding for me is something so special, it only happens after a bond created through everyday life. From the exchange of messages to the connection that is created. I need to have a minimum of feelings to feel comfortable breastfeeding someone. Many people opt for casual, which I have nothing to do with it, it’s each one’s style, but that doesn’t work for me. The worst thing is that they don’t even bother to read your profile, and see that you’ve made it clear. I respect everyone’s lifestyle. Another really annoying thing is people who send friend requests just for the photos they want to see. They don’t play a message with you, they’re not interested in knowing who you are. They want friendship just for the curiosity of seeing their photos… Here on the site I have very few friends, but they are people that our thoughts are aligned with, because we know each other and talk. They’re not curious…lol. That’s my opinion
@ Grogman. I think you missed the whole point of the post.
These are complete strangers.
No words exchanged other then them saying:
“hey I see you are where I am going” . I’m there for 1 night and 1 night alone. I have the hotel. U just need to show up.
No other communication is implied or wanted. They just want to suck and leave.
With no intent of anymore
The scenario you presented is a friendship. Which is VERY different then what I am asking about.
@Grogman – yeah, this is different. This is some perosn who has never messaged you, never chatted with you, someone you had no idea existed till they sent a message saying they will be in the area and would like a “session”. (“Session”, to me, infers that this is a transactional type of meeting. All business, nothing personal.)
I don’t understand this myself, but then again, I’m not into things with strangers, though many are. My thought is, if you are trying to do a “Me: World ABF Tour”, maybe you should offer something a bit more than the experience. A meal, an hourly rate, a task that needs doing around the house, something other than “I’m near you, can I suck?”
Like btrfly, I’m not a convenience item. I’m not an object to be used. I’m not just waiting for a rando mouth. To be approached as a commodity and nothing else because someone else has an urge is dehumanizing to me and not at all appreciated. You want to spend time with me, then spend time with me.
I’m kinda with Grog’s theory, though the friendship quality isn’t there for me. I think using a guy strictly for his lips or suckle quality could be beneficial in a snap. Though too, my being polyamorous, I already have two or three I deal with on a regular basis, so squeezing one in on a fly-by might present a scheduling problem.
That’s it… exactly that.
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