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Apologies if this is a topic already covered but I’m fairly new to this (5 years off/on experience) and would like to hear from others and get some help on how to best articulate my needs.
Often times I’ll receive messages like “I can suck/lick for hours” Immediately my brain goes to the men that literally just want to suck and lick my nipples, not properly latch. While this can be an enjoyable feeling (especially for foreplay) it doesn’t give me the same feeling as when someone is properly latched on and nursing. So I move on.
My last partner had a magnificent latch, when he was on I could feel each pull to my heart and throughout my body. It was peaceful, joyous, relaxing and the happiest I have felt in a long time.
I’ve had a few partners that just do a surface type of licking and sucking and after a while it just gets annoying to be honest. Like a build up to nothing…
Anybody else experience this? Or am I just a weirdo?
Sometimes I feel like there are 2 sets of people here, those that like breasts and those that like to nurse. Of course there are a healthy portion that are both, but I guess I’m trying to see how do I get to the ones that are heavily into the nursing aspect?I agree with your assessment. There are suckers/lickers and then there are true nursers (the proper way to latch/suckle). I think it’s just something you have to ask when talking/vetting someone if they know or understand how to suckle properly.
Sometimes you can tell off the bat by the way they communicate or you may just ask them to describe how they nurse/suckle. But even then, the latch has to be adjustable to your partner’s preferences. A latch is not a one fits all type of thing. But at least by asking to describe, you can get a feel if they truly understand or know what they are doing.
@lbclisa
Perhaps a third type: those that like breasts and like to suckle.😉
I consider myself to be of this genus.😜In my experience… when a lady lactates… it is so easy to suck it. Those breasts will leak and be full and ready to go. Also IMO some ladies who want to lactate or say they do…but haven’t or can’t put the onus on the man to do their part- better, more correctly etc- when in reality the lady is just not producing. I love both dry and wet breasts- and even more so women into having their breasts adored. I do feel that there are just as many ladies on here who can’t and don’t want to lactate but still love breast attention. I am great with it all- but any lady who blames her dry breast solely on the man… that would be like me posting I am on an ANR site and I don’t have a mouth. I appreciate your post and would love to get to know you better neighbor- Calif and AZ…
My introduction to the correct way to latch actually came from watching a 2019 A&E documentary called “Sex for Sale”,available free on demand. This program followed the exploits of four people who made their living in the sex industry. One of them was a 30 something single Mom who went by the name Lady K. After Elizabeth Vargas practically fell off the couch upon hearing from Lady Kay that ALL of her “grown men” clients were with her for her specially of Erotic Lactation. Elizabeth then asked her how she instructs her clients to properly latch. Without missing a beat, Lady Kay gave her “Play by Play” on latching….”Take as much of the breast in your mouth as you can. Do not use your teeth. Suck HARD. When you can feel the nipple near the back of your throat, we’re in a good place”. I remember being in a very good place when I first heard these words.
Words to latch by! I use her method all the time and indeed it works. I wonder if our ladies here have anything to add on latching or on suckling in general. We are all here to learn.
@joecole @lbclisa @latchon15
Lisa, you are not a weirdo…I agree with your assessment and am also frustrated by this dichotomy.
At LatchOn – I agree with your statements as well, however I have had situations where the potential contact proclaimed all the knowledge, sounded like they understood the technique, etc….and they may have…but in reality when tried they resorted to just suckling and licking, while trying to do the occasional latching on as well. Totally frustrated to be mislead this way.
@joecole ABF ANR does not require lactation. Most women on this site are not into lactation, but are fully into latching and suckling. Some of course may only want the breast attention/adoration as you mention, I have seen those profiles.Personally I have chosen not to undertake the lactation process individually; when I find a compatible partner the two of us will decide together what level we want to reach. It may or may not include lactation, it may just be latching/suckling for the closeness and bonding. But whether we reach lactation is definitely reliant on the male’s latch and availability to latch, mutual schedules, etc. If the man is not willing to undertake the number of suckling sessions to achieve that…well, that’s for partners to decide. But it is, indeed, the male suckling/latching that this hinges on and frequency of sessions.
Nurturing Bosom has a very good blog on this very subject. There have other similar forum topics. There might be something there that’s missing.
@flowrgardn @lbclisa
I agree with you both that there are those who misrepresent what they understand of suckling and latching, even when discussing it. It is obvious when physically with the person that they do not have the experience that they claim to have. It has happened to me a couple of times. It’s too bad really, because it’s better to be honest with these things. Once trust is broken, it’s hard to go back.
@joecole
I am not sure exactly what you’re saying. But providing breast milk when being regularly nursed by your partner is natural. It’s a beautiful and lasting team effort.Interesting discussion! I agree that there’s a genuine distinction between sucking and a proper latch. I think it needs to be well communicated between partners what works best for them.
While sucking can be great foreplay, a proper latch where the nipple hits the back of the throat or roof of the mouth is ideal (or so what I’ve learnt) I also read about the “straw technique” where you’re actually drawing it in your mouth and that’s when you know you’ve hit the jackpot!
I think for a proper nursing session, learning and practicing is the way to go 🙂
I suppose many adore nipple play, as I am, but as a man I suppose we’re here before all to find the one for an everyday latch of course.
I agree 💯 with you!!
I had a partner with a great latch and the connection was amazing! Unfortunately it didn’t work.
In my past I have found that I need a strong suckle to empty me. Its NOT the fact that I am not producing.
When you are inducing lactation there are many factors that differ from having a pregnancy and lactation after. Me as a pre menopausal women taking domperidone a drug with a side effect of lactation, I do not have those pregnancy hormones to assist with “letdown” and flowing milk 24/7!!
Bottom line for it all to work out you need 2 partners on the same level, same mindset of an anr. Inducing lactation is amazing and it’s journey is not just to nurse a partner but to have that partner by your side understanding and supporting the emotional & physical changes that happen.💕Every woman may have different desires and needs. The key thing is to have open conversations so everyone is on the same page.
I think coachability is key assuming the other party truly wants to suckle. We all have preferences. So long as the individual is open to feedback, the rest sorts itself out in short order. Some angles/postions may work better for some people than others.
I prefer the use of the word “suckle” or “latch” or “nurse” over “suck”
Thank you everyone for explaining this , I just recently joined this group and these are helping me understand that there is a difference between suck and latch , I didn’t know that starting out here but I am learning and want to learn more before hand , thank you all for taking the time, really enjoy the site
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