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I was chatting with someone yesterday, being friendly, sent another couple photos. His response was upset that my bra was still “on” in that photo. I tried to explain to him like “hey, you’re being rude demanding a no bra photo.” He persisted. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, thought maybe he didn’t realize his blunt behavior was rude, so I asked if he was on the spectrum. I’m in the mental health field, and am medicated for ADHD—no stigma there. He was ultimately blocked before he responded to the question because I decided being objectified and feeling disrespected when I voiced my feelings wasn’t worth my time/energy. Two sides of every story. So ladies, would you block someone who was rude and demanding to you, even if they were autistic? Or should people with neurodivergence get a free pass to be jerks and post about it for sympathy?
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Lemme go get some Dr Pepper & popcorn 🍿
So ladies, would you block someone who was rude and demanding to you, even if they were autistic? HEĹLZ TO THE YES.
Or should people with neurodivergence get a free pass to be jerks and post about it for sympathy? HELLZ TO THE NO
Rude & demanding is a no no. Period. Doesn’t matter what issues, problems, or didn’t get the daily dose of caffeine. I’ve blocked plenty but never asked if they was on the spectrum, ND, or tighty whites was twisted. Doesn’t matter. Rude is a no go
I’ll own that it was an ill-timed question…but considering he didn’t even answer, I would think he’d know his answer didn’t matter but his previous behavior did.
When I saw his thread seeking sympathy…and getting it!! looks like it was I who dodged the bullet.
GIRLLLLLL the stories I could share! Lol. My block finger is strong! 😂
You do what you need to!You don’t owe anyone pictures of your body regardless of any issues they have. I have a son with aspergers and yes they can come across as rise and pushy, but they still know that they need to back up when asked and by the time they are adults, they will try to be respectful when told they are being to pushy.
No free passI’m so glad you came forward. There’s always (at least) two sides to a story and that’s why I had refrained from commenting anything on the other thread. It already hit me as very impolite to post that in the same forum he had met the person he was complaining about so good for you for standing up and clearing the air.
Yep most definitely two sides to the story! Thank you for telling yours. You have the right to block someone for any reason you feel. I think some people need to assess the way they message women on here. They seem to think they are entitled to see more.
Someone on the spectrum would not but me off but someone rude and disrespectful most definitely would!
I block anyone who refuses to take accountability for their bad behavior. That’s a huge red flag. Being ND or not is not an excuse as we all are taught how to treat one another, or should have been, and if they haven’t been, there are plenty of resources out there to help one out. There’s no excuse for being a crappy person.
Hahaha he didn’t mention that!!!
Spectrum or not
Rude is rude
And if he crossed your boundaries that’s your choice to block!!It’s pretty common that they leave out the parts that make them look not so good.
I assume if they got blocked, there’s a good reason it happened. Coming to the forum to get sympathy is really kinda sad. If you need that, you need to learn how to properly deal with rejection and how to modify your own behavior to avoid it in the future.
It’s so unfortunate to be met with such terrible energy! I’m so sorry you experienced that, you never deserve that! I’ve had to block people for horrible behavior (entitlement to the point of verbal abuse/insults when I didn’t give them what they wanted). Neurodivergence is no excuse for disrespect (I’m ND myself and make sure I am as considerate as possible to others, & I also have zero tolerance for disrespect of any kind). I hope you find good connections with people who value and respect you fully! XO ❤️
I block people for much, much less. My give a damn is busted.
I also have ADHD and one of my kids is on the spectrum. I can sometimes get the impression that someone else may have it or be on the spectrum, but I wouldn’t necessarily ask them that straightaway. People on the spectrum and I sometimes rub each other up the wrong way, nobody’s fault, just one of those things.
Personally, if I suspect someone might have a lack of social skills, I tend to cut them a little slack and make it clear that it’s presumptuous to expect someone to post pictures of themselves with their breasts out. Then if they persist I will block them, but I think you were perfectly reasonable to block someone who made you feel uncomfortable and I understand why you were angry that he had misrepresented you.
I apologise for saying what I said based on the limited information I had at the time. I only drew that conclusion because he left out relevant information.
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