Where do you meet?

I would suggest a social meet first to get to know one another and if everything lines up arrange a meet. Hotel rooms are not expensive. Have fun and stay safe.

i find it weird that as a man im expected to accommodate. i dont feel comfortable letting strangers in my house either. i prefer a neutral setting like a hotel but you can bet i am expected to foot the bill for that.

luckily i have met some wonderful women who offer to split the costs of hotel rooms.

gender norms for some things still exist you see.

if i have a good feeling about someone and we have chatted online a bit, then i like to meet local and walk around and talk. then if i am comfortable i will take them to my place.

The wisest option is to meet somewhere public, like the park or a coffee bar. There you can talk face to face in a relaxed setting, maybe chat over a (non-alcoholic) drink, to judge each other’s body language and responses. If they seem genuine, you can arrange to meet a few more times, before taking the step of either going to a hotel or meeting in your (or their) home. If you sense any ‘red flags’ during your public meets, you can choose to end it there and then – they can do no harm so long as they don’t know where you live.

The important thing is to always play it safe. You should let a friend or relative know where you are going, perhaps arrange for them to call you at a certain time, to make sure everything is fine. Remember, not all people we chat with online are who they say they are, or they might have some bad habits that would otherwise put you off. Never simply dive straight in with a complete stranger – sometimes it can have very unpleasant results.