30m in NJ/PA looking what everyone else is probably looking for

…or something close to it! I’m looking for someone that I can essentially be best friends with on the day to day, but also share this “kink” (or whatever word fits best) in private. Prefer ladies near my age, single, and without kids (though may want them in the future). i happen to be on the laid back side of things, and on the nerdy side- there’s more in my bio to keep this brief! thanks for taking a look!