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I’ve had a search through previous forum posts but couldn’t see anything on the inclusion of ABF / ANR within an online dating profile…so I made this one.
I’m a single British guy, mid 40s, kids in late teens so now focusing on what I want out of life.
Have any guys here tried including ABF or ANR within their online dating profiles. If so what was the result, good or bad?
For the ladies I wonder how you think in general ladies may react to ABF or ANR being stated in a guy’s online dating profile. I’m thinking ladies not necessarily aware or thinking deeply about ABR / ANR. Could it promote some inquisitiveness?
I’m very tempted to test it out to see what occurs. Nothing ventured and all that 😉✊🏻
Great question Clowey, I think the experienced people can answer better than me.
Hmm hard to answer for sure seeing as it’s something I am into but if I saw it on a profile and wasn’t into it it might make me shy away? 🤷♀️ But if it’s something you need in a relationship worth giving it a shot?
Thanks for replies. Ah let’s try it, what’s the worst that can happen 😆
I put it up on a profile on another site and at first got a bit of abuse mostly from other women tbh. These women felt I was turning something as natural as breastfeeding into something sleazy and sexual and how women already find it hard to feed in public without been gawked at and women like me contributed to that. Men on the other hand were mostly inquisitive and more positive about it.
That really good insight, thanks you juicy.
I expect women may be looking to weed out guys looking for a quick night of lust so may view ABF in a profile with suspicion. Of course, we know ABF and sex are separate but to the uninitiated it could just be seen as a kink.
I once tried referencing my interest in ANR in my “conventional” dating site profile. Nothing terrible happened, but no one picked up on it either.
I would say that if you have no intention of dating a woman who “doesn’t get it” when it comes to ANR and you already have an established profile on a non-ANR site, you have nothing to lose except what you pay to keep your membership active. But why bother when there are plenty of online avenues to pursue an ANR partner. I just cancelled the expiring membership in my “mainstream” dating site. I did so because I know with certainly that I am only interested in women who embrace the ANR lifestyle.
Definitely food for thought Vincent, thanks.
I suppose compatibility with a partner covers a number a facets, particularly as we mature and get to know ourselves, that list can become more unequivocal. ABF is on the list but not sure it’s number one. Aspects like personal interests (travel, music, food) or outlook alignment are critical. Maybe ABF is one I might let slip if I met someone who tick all other boxes 😬😵💫I reached out to someone because he had ANR in his profile. We were not compatible for other reasons, but it was nice not having to have a conversation about ANR. I put on my own profile once and ended up removing it. I received a lot of messages from men that were obviously lying about their interest or history with ANR/ABF. I got a lot of messages from men that were 200+ miles away. I also got a lot of messages asking me what ANR is, I do not want to repeatedly answer a question that a quick Google search can answer. As far as sites geared towards people that are looking for ANR/ABF, this is the only one I like. The fees on other sites are fucking ridiculous, the content is garbage, and the members leave a lot to be desired. I can have every Tom, Dick, and Harry gawking and messaging me for free on fetlife, no need to pay 25 dollars a month for it on a site focused on one thing. I know I’m more of an exception, but I prefer to get info on ANR/ABF and sexual compatibility out of the way asap. Mismatched labidos and sexual needs are a deal breaker for me. They are a deal breaker for most people, though most people will not admit it.
Great post Elizabeth. That’s exactly the perspective I was after. I expect most responses I’d receive would be to ask wtf is ABF or asking if I’m a perv 😂 Hopefully a couple of half decent responses may get through?!
Perhaps it comes with wisdom but I actually agree on your point regards ABF / ANR and libido. Life’s too short to tiptoe through the tulips sometimes, better to have those chats or innuendos early to guage compatibility 😉
A long time ago I mentioned it on okcupid and I got messages from multiple women saying they’d never be interested in it. I’ve had more luck on Fetlife.
Back in the good-old-days of on-line dating, when the sites had genuinely-useful search tools instead of cosmic-void swipe-a-thons, I would occasionally (and wistfully) search for “ANR”, “ABF” and so on.
Typical result: Maybe two to seven people in the entire US, all far away, as normal. But oh, how wonderful a thought that there might be a girl-next-door pining for attention to her lovely, sensitive breasts, looking for someone like me!
I never dared mention my own interest in a profile. I have appearances to keep up in my community! Haha!
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