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Any Ladies on here that had trouble getting their bf/hubby to participate in abf? What worked to get them hooked? ๐ค xx Milky๐ฅ๐
I know you asked for feedback from the ladies, but thought it may be helpful to get some male feedback too.
Men need directness. They arenโt great at reading subtle signs. My suggestion would be talk to him about it when you arenโt in a moment of passion and be very direct about your desire for him to suckle you properly ie not just breast play. Then pick a moment when youโre alone together say watching tv or chilling listening to music, and lay his head in your lap, expose your breasts and offer your nipple to his mouth. Take the lead and guide him, and tell him directly how good it feels for you. If he genuinely cares about you he will want to please you, so tell him how wonderful it feels to be suckled. Your expression of pleasure will make it pleasurable for him.
You canโt in my experience. I divorced him!
@annaanna80 – did you have the direct approach with your ex? If he responded negatively to a direct approach then yes you had a fundamental incompatibility that would always be present and then your divorce was probably the best move for both.
It does show how strong your desire for ABF / ANR is.
Or find someone else that loves to do it as much as you love them suckling. I agree with Anna ๐คฃ. I guess we are in the right place
I introduced abf into my relationship. It took months of communication and trial and error to figure out what worked for us. We have been doing this for ten months and I still feel we are continuing to decide what schedule works for us as a couple. I have been 100% into this since I discovered abf. He has grown to enjoy it. He says his favorite part of it is how we have become closer as a couple. I feel like I will probably always enjoy and crave it more than him but Iโm amazed how far we have come since we started. And I still hold out hope that one day he will need it as much as I do. It has taken patience but over time it has gotten better and better.
@winter – happy you and your partner found a happy outcome from careful and considerate communication. Your relationship will get stronger and stronger with ABF included.
@Greg Thankyou so very much. All experience and advice accepted! Appreciate it xx Milky
@Lulani, I am hoping I can convert him across to ANR. ๐
@Winter…. omg thankyou for your response, you give me hope! What worked in the early days? xx Milky
@milkyocean When we first started it was mostly sexual in nature. So it wouldnโt last as long as Iโd hope. Then I asked him about trying in the morning as well as night. At first he would be so relaxed and tired heโd fall asleep after a few minutes. Now we try for three times a day. Each lasts 15-30 minutes, usually, unless he falls to sleep. I rub his face, shoulders and back when he suckles, he loves that and Iโve noticed heโll stay on longer if I am massaging him. Itโs taken a lot of patience and communication to get as far as we have come. I still hold out hope he will fall in love with abf but I donโt think his desires and needs will ever be as deep as mine.
@winter thanks for sharing lovely.
Update… things unfortunately did not go as planned. At first I thought I was getting somewhere, when I asked him to suck my breasts during foreplay, suck them longer and with my whole areolas in his mouth…. which was awesome. But nothing since ๐. I tried booking him in, by asking direct for sex 2 days later, he made excuses as to why he couldnt. This has affected me more than I thought. I feel regected, not good enough, amoungst other things. So lucky ive been at work heaps recently… but when im home all i can think about is ABF and how im missing out.
A positive from that one night was that my breasts instantly responded and produced more milk. So I will continue to work on producing, keeping the milk there, and maybe one day, I might get to enjoy the erotic, sensual, and amazing experience of a ANR.
Thankyou so very much to all that have contacted me here and in my messages. It has been wonderful to be accepted. Love Xx Milky ๐ฅ๐๐@milkyocean Donโt fret. There are plenty of men interested in abf/anr. It would be nice if your BF would come over to be enlightened. You have a deep interest in abf, he obviously doesnโt. If it is that important to you, then a change in relationship seems to be in order. Only you can decide that. Take care snd I wish the best for you.๐ค
I read your update post to all your new friends and realized I could share some information from podcast or things I’ve been reading in my journey. As you stated your hubby is conservative but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t share any kink. Some men don’t see breastmilk as being for them or as a way to connect with their partner. However in India and Mongolia, breastmilk is given to whole families to drink; but anyway.
If definitely has to start with the conversation and not letting kink shaming sink in. Offer him any opportunity to discuss what he likes in the bedroom or would like to explore. Share how nursing makes you feel and the benefits in a relationship. Discuss safety for you and the baby (this is your third pregnancy; I assume you know the risks). Make him aware you can produce enough for him and baby post partum; its not just the baby’s milk.
Ms. Elle X on YouTube and The D/S effect Podcast (same person) discusses introducing your vanilla partner to the “kinky buffet” that podcast is from April 2021. How can newbies discover their Kinks? https://youtu.be/TpoVX5MQDL0
She is VERY much about the BDSM lifestyle but what she is saying can be useful.
I have other podcast but I can’t locate them currently.It all starts with the conversation and going slow. After the conversation, start with breast play, transition to him just having him licking or kissing the nipples (he doesn’t sound ready for milk) let him get comfortable at that before encouraging the full suckle. Make him aware milk is present and can be expressed during nipple play.
Having come from a conservative home, for whatever it is you think everyone knows what’s happening in your home/bed. Encourage it’s a safe space for exploration (him and you), what happens in the bedroom is between the two of you, period.
I wish you all the best!
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