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My (20M) partner (27F) told me from the start she just wants to nurse no sex. She told me she had a suckler (34M) who kept pushing for sex which is a deal breaker so I don’t even though I want it. She works 2 jobs and currently not interested in dating and will only host her place. I am single but have a fwb. my ANR partner started FB stalking and saw her pic with me, then questioned me like am I really single? I’m just another liar, Is she nursing you too? Why did you hide this from me? I am single and if my partner doesn’t want sex then of course I look elsewhere, what her problem?
Can you really cheat on an ANR partner if your not dating? Is ANR exclusive? She wants me to end things with her but she doesn’t want to have sex with me WTF?
It’s all about communication. You both need to be honest with each other from the outset. I do think it’s unfair of her expect you to be celibate but maybe you should have told her the situation. Also FB stalking is not cool! Sorry you had a bad experience.
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Completely agree about communication on this. From the onset she said she wasn’t interested in anything sexual and if you knew you may want that with someone else I think discussing it upfront would have been the best solution. She’s certainly in the wrong for FB stalking and accusing you instead of having an open dialogue and understanding what’s going on. I hope you two are able to talk together and work things out by listening and trying to understand each other.
Bud, I understand your viewpoint. That being said, you didnt disclose your FWB. I think what she is asking is unfair, as she dosent want sex. But a communication breakdown happened. Discuss it. Its better to be a open book, then try and hide it. Does the FWB know that your doing ANR? Communication is key.
This is all very confusing to Jif…If I have this straight the ANR is platonic non-sexual; in other words, a friend. I do not think it is fair of her to be upset about the FWB. But You might have discussed that with her. I am always cautious about the homewrecker status—> I do not want to be overly familiar with another woman’s man (be they boyfriend, ANR partner or husband). Possibly she felt thrust into the homewrecker role unwittingly. Still not an excuse to FB stalk and throw a fit. If her feelings were changing toward you to be of a romantic nature (as is easy to imagine these type of things happening)…She should have had a discussion about the platonic status of the ANR. She should have told you.
It is possible she did not realize the extent of her feelings toward you until she realized you were with this other woman. In any case that is way more complicated than I personally would choose to make this all.
My ABF partner is 30 years younger than me. Our relationship does happen to include sex, so I made him aware of my long term relationship of 8 years and my open lifestyle. He is ok with it because he’s the only one I have a nursing relationship with. Full disclosure was the key.
Full disclosure is the key so does your 8 year relationship partner know about your ANR partner and is okay with that? I take it this ANR partner is around my age.
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