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“Interesting,yogi says tell the truth. I personally think this is a good example of chasing the carrot. Women on this site want a guy to tell the truth and want sympathy when they are led into false beliefs but don’t give the same sympathy to men when a guy isn’t 6 feet, isn’t local, or send you a pic and you don’t find him attractive.”
It is not the same thing. It is Lying versus Preferences.
“Let’s ask the other question that no one is asking,why did you pick the guy in the first place? You picked him because you thought he was the best out of all the guys. Guys lie because women can’t handle the truth .. simple”
According to that, Women are picking a man on false pretences. Therefore they did not truly choose that person but chose a false representation.
The truth is some cannot handle the simple truth that most people do not want a man or woman based on a falsification. Many women disqualify men on that they are not single. That is the simple truth. To further the simple truth is that those who lie are manipulators & cowards. Either have the balls or tatas to be upfront or stop fucking complaining and whining
Openlatchkiss
It does go both ways where women misrepresent as well. That has to be acknowledged.
However, victim (the one being lied to) blaming is not the answer. Maybe I’m wrong but that’s how I read your answer.
Jessa, you are so right about this. It’s honestly really sad that they’re so deeply in denial and so lost, running away from themselves. It doesn’t make it okay that they’re lying to others, but I find it difficult to be angry with them when I understand what’s really going on. I just hope they heal.
A choice made dependent upon lies is not a choice
I agree Rachy J. It’s not that I don’t feel for those that feel as they need to lie. So many reasons & situations. But that doesn’t justify it nor excuse projection of responsibility on another
@openlatchkiss You’ve proven my point, as well as several other women’s points on here. Throwing phrases together with nonsensical assumptions does not make a point.
It appears that you have adopted a victim blaming acceptance; one wonders why.
@terri and @rachyj Good and valid points you’ve raised.
It’s clear that this issue and concern applies for men and women, the poster simply happened to be female and posted their complaint about married/attached men contacting her, which truly is obnoxious. The opposite, if it happens, would also be obnoxious. The real point of this debate is people not being forthright and upfront about their actual status and what they’re looking for. This is a dating and relationship site.
Both women and men need to be up front and forthright.
@Jeff. Guys lie for many more reasons than the possibility that a woman can’t handle the truth. Isn’t that blaming the woman for the man’s lying behavior…come on now, really? Isn’t it time to become accountable and stop blaming bad behaviors on others? Lying has more to do with a lack of integrity…and using any means to get what you want.
And this post is not about the issue of people selecting someone else due to their personal preferences or criteria…which can also, feel hurtful if one is not selected, granted. This post is about lying and misrepresenting your marital/attached status in order to get what you want from someone, without any regard for how that impacts everyone.
@flowergardn.
Thank you for reiterating the initial intent of the post to keep us on track. And I agree with you 100%, it can happen to both men and women…and it is equally harmful.
” Guys lie because women can’t handle the truth .. simple”
Such few words needed to make it seem it’s China’s national day.
Men and women with a lack of integrity and personal honor system lie. Lying and purposefully deceiving comes from within. It’s a poor excuse to blame a personal choice on the receiving end of the lie.
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