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I disagree that men think women think the same as them. I would believe 99.5٪ of men have seen or read on the internet now that the majority of women don’t like unsolicited dick pics. I do agree that men HOPE or WISH women think as they do and do it anyway in that hope of a success with it.
Men nowadays don’t really have much experience dealing with women as people and friends. Everyone’s in their own heads since the relative collapse of the traditional families. Men are by nature narcisistic, yeah those men failed but they’re not me. I’m hot, they’re not. They’re coddled like toddlers until 18, then kicked out and told to fend for themselves, figuratively speaking. It’s not a recipe for success by any measure.
As a man that’s my understanding of it. Lizard brain and it’s base actions.
I apologize that it sounded if I meant all men. I meant it for the ones who do send dick pics
If those men are online to send those pics, they have seen most women don’t want it
My son is a young man of nowadays and has plenty of friends that are girls. He knows how to be respectful because he was taught to be respectful.
It doesn’t take a traditional family to impart those values to them. A single mother or father can easily do the same.
Regardless there ain’t no excuse for such misbehaving.
Don’t send a picture of Richard unless asked.I don’t believe they send dick pics in hopes a woman takes the bait. In this day and age, the UDP has been written about for at least a decade, if not longer. It’s well charted territory and well known the majority of women hate them.
I think honestly,it’s an action done with malice with the intention to get a reaction, preferably negative. Any engagement is better than none. At least then, you know you got to them. It’s the actions of incels, hook up artists and other misogynists. They do this kind of bs just to get a rise out of a woman because they think it’s funny. They’re bored, need some instant gratification entertainment: UDP! Perfect! It’s also good “regenge fodder” for not being able to “get a woman”.
Obviously, guys who have a modicum of decency and respect for others won’t engage in this behavior. Doesn’t matter how they were raised, family values, etc. Some guys are just these kinds of idiots, others are not. We hope we send our kids out knowing right from wrong, but if they get into darker places on the web where this type of behavior is applauded and encouraged, raising goes out the window.
There is no solution to the UDP until men are willing to actually talk to other men and try to help them find better ways to engage their emotions. Until then, women are going to be subjected to this behavior. 🤷♀️
I don’t get it. Maybe I’m in the minority but an unsolicited vag pic would put me off too. They key word really is unsolicited.
I know the site is about breastfeeding but I equally wouldn’t expect a random tit pic arriving in my inbox.Mmmm pretty interesting discussion. Why are certain body parts off limits than others? I really don’t understand that. When men see women’s breasts they get aroused. It’s a natural reaction. Sharing it unsolicited is not correct for sure but many women show their breasts unsolicited too. It certainly is a sign of femininity as the genitalia are for men. I agree that women tend to have various reactions to seeing the picture but sometimes it might be a mistake he regrets if he looses the girl as a result of it. One of my friends said that men and probably women have monkey brains when it comes to seeing breasts and sometimes can’t think clearly before acting.
Btw this reply, does not mean my inbox should be flooded by pics if you know what I mean.
I believe those numbers are quite off on the number of men who have sent unsolicited.
That aside, this is really something that leads back to upbringing. Not adult males teaching adult males. People learn their morals etc far younger. By the time they are adults….
I personally have received many unsolicited nude pictures from women, and never once sent one unless asked. And as you’d suspect i have only been asked a couple times in 20+ years on the internet.
Bad behavior is mostly due to bad parenting. Aiming blame at an entire gender as if they are broken or evil…
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Sorry if you have had to experienced this.
But it’s not because men are messed up. It’s because poorly raised boys dont behave, and eventually become men who do the same.I really do invite anyone who believes it is a nurturing issue to do some real research on incel culture, Mens Right Activism and pick up artist culture to understand that it truly isn’t a “how one was raised” issue.
https://www.splcenter.org/fighting-hate/extremist-files/ideology/male-supremacy
The main objective of the incel is to produce evidence that women are actively rejecting them to further fuel their misogyny. The UDP is a great way to do that, is encouraged and applauded by other incels and are considered proof positive women are horrible creatures who deserve to be raped, maimed and killed.
If it keeps getting subjugated to a parenting issue, it will never be resolved because that isn’t where it starts. It starts online talking to other incels and being brought into the cult like atmosphere.
My son has had to have talks with a few of his male friends who were raised by very loving, conscientious parents (ie: “raised right”), who were falling into the incel logic traps. It happens and it is easy, especially when young men feel isolated and unlovable because they have been unable to have meaningful relationships, or think friendship should automatically lead to an intimate situation.
I wish this weren’t the case, and I wish guys were just doing it to try and get a partner, but it is absolutely sexual assualt done to further hate against women and it is a male issue. Women can’t fix this problem because we are the perceived enemies.
I agree with Ms. Spicy. This “scientific study” should be done on both genders and all sexual body parts. The conclusions would then be less biased.
But Foxy incels and MRAs are a tiny minority whereas woman’s dick pick experience is widespread and common. It would have to be dedicated effort by incels to bombard women with that to archive such a notoriety it enjoys.
I wish that were true, that they are a small minority. They really aren’t. The fact that the Southern Poverty Law Center has an actual page on this says it’s not small or isolated but a much larger issue.
Either way, I’m just providing what I know. You can accept that or not. I get it isn’t something guys want to address and it’s easier to say I’m being a man hater or reactionary. I’m not, but those are the most common responses from men, other than to try and diminutize the actual problem so they can say it’s out of their control.
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