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Well, once again, I have received an unsolicited dick pic from a male member (pun intended). If I could cut and paste it off the message thread I would post it here for you all to gaze upon. The member has been removed (Thanks Michael), but this has gotten me to do a little research about the psychology behind the sending of unsolicited dick pics. Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and a place for everything and sometimes a photo op for the genitals can be a welcomed aspect of texting/sexting. But it’s a different case entirely when they are unsolicited.
So, here’s on to the science of it:
47% of men in the research sample (of over 1000 men) have sent dick pics either on dating apps or in private texting. I personally have an entire photo album of them I have collected over the years, 98% of them were unsolicited. I will someday publish them in a coffee table book, complete with names, ages, addresses and professional affiliations.
Men send unsolicited dick pics to get a variety of reactions; disgust, fear or intimidation. A dick pic is sent as a means of control and seeking power over a woman.
Men use dick picks as sexual titillation: A form of flirtation, or a 4 year old version of “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours” with the hope of getting a similar photo of the woman’s sexual bits returned in due course.
Dick pics are an early rejection protection: If he shows you his package and you don’t run for the hills, ghost or reject him, he will have less anxiety about moving forward in the flirtation, and reduce the chance of getting rejected further down the road when you both drop your jeans.
Men who have exhibitionist tendencies tend to be aroused by the prospect of women being coerced into seeing their genitals (really, fellas?).
Another reason includes the sense of pride in knowing their penis is able to generate such strong reactions in their targeted recipients. Fetishes regarding insults to the size or appearance of their genitals, and arousal to reactions of disgust are being solicited.
Some men simply use them as a means of communicating their sexual interest in a potential partner. Whatever happened to the use of words to communicate?
The bottom line though, social scientists who studied this behavior have concluded that the use of UNSOLICITED dick pics is in fact a form of sexual harassment and abuse and should never be tolerated by a woman or community. What do you all think?
God love the poor man who once sent me a dick pic here. Lets just say he deleted his profile ponto when i dramatically informed him how unbelievably tiny it was compared to all the other men here and all the ones i experienced in the flesh. Ah good times 😂🤣
Is that 47% figure for men admitting to sending one not from match.com rather than the scientific paper? As an open survey on a site like match isn’t going to get a reliable sample. If the actual figure was that high then the Michael would be banning every other guy who signs up on here!
Juicyboobies that is a great way to handle it. I hope you gave him a complex!
“The bottom line though, social scientists who studied this behavior have concluded that the use of UNSOLICITED dick pics is in fact a form of sexual harassment and abuse and should never be tolerated by a woman or community. What do you all think?”
I agree.Not the Match.com survey. The research is from:
The Journal of Sex Research, Volume 5, 2022
Abstract
Given that the sharing of genital images – colloquially known as “dick pics” – has become a widespread phenomenon, the purpose of the present study was to explore men’s motivations for sending unsolicited images of their genitalia. A secondary purpose was to investigate the personality and sexuality characteristics of men who send dick pics relative to those who do not. 1,087 men completed an online survey, which included a demographic questionnaire and measures of narcissism, exhibitionism, erotophilia-erotophobia, and sexism. Also included was a measure developed specifically for the current study exploring the motivations behind sending unsolicited genital pictures as well as reactions senders hoped to elicit from their recipients. We determined that the most frequently reported motivational category for sending genital images was a transactional mindset (i.e., motivated by hopes of receiving images in return), while the most commonly desired reaction from recipients was that of sexual excitement. Further, we determined that men who reported having sent unsolicited dick pics demonstrated higher levels of narcissism and endorsed greater ambivalent and hostile sexism than their non-sending counterparts. This study is among the first to provide empirical evidence into the motivations and personality characteristics of men who send unsolicited dick pics.Oh the age old Q. I dont like unsolicited dick pics. It’s a turn off really. I find often if they are sending that instead of using conversation their intelligence is lower. I dont ask for them and rarely consent if asked to relieving one. I’d rather be shown character, wit, sarcasm, like mindedness, manners, sensuality, ability to hold a convo. Physically id rather see a face, hands and arms. If a man wants to express his sexual interest, then titalate the mind through words. Women’s biggest sex organ is her mind. If you don’t stimulate that, then it’s a lost cause
After establishing a basic commonality and further interest beond friendship, only 3 things I want to know. 1. disease free? 2. average size? 3. uncircumcised? All 3 can be verbally communicated. I love to see & experience the real thing in real life but it’s not in a picture.
Yes unsolicited dick pics is a form of sexual harassment
Lol! Virtual high five 😂🤣
When people have sent them to me, I’ve always thought it was a sign of low emotional intelligence. Sexual attraction and arousal are generally visual for the typical male brain, but I think it’s pretty common knowledge that’s not the case for women. Maybe it’s confusing for some people because some women have a photo of their boobs as their profile picture, but this site is based on breastfeeding, so there is the difference.
The only times I have ever sent a dick pic was on request by the woman I was involved with at the time. I have no need to be so juvenile as to send one unsolicited.
To be honest, I am in agreement with Jessa but from a male perspective. I wan the woman to enjoy my natural extention in person and experience it first-hand. I like being able to show her that I know what to do with it and how.
“Maybe it’s confusing for some people because some women have a photo of their boobs as their profile picture, but this site is based on breastfeeding, so there is the difference.”
I think this is a big factor in how men act in general here. I’m sure there are a lot of reasons why, but the pictures, and the whole idea of this website, seems to lead many men to feel like they can act however they want. Crazy.
Funny and scary information.
Definitely harassment and a power play.Definitely harassment and a power play. I’ve always considered men who do it to have lower intelligence as well.
@juicyboobies now that is an idea….I think the analysis is a bit wrong. Men believe that women think the same as men. And they’d be overjoyed to get unsolicited nudes in their inbox alongside messages such as wanna fuck and I’d fuck you so bad. Hence they think sending the same to a woman will provide the same delightful reaction it would to them.
Now there are definitely malicious dick pics for sure. But I don’t think majority of them are. They however are still sexual harassment all the same. Men should do better.
@ Johan
I agree with you. I think many men expect a woman’s needs to be the same as their own, and when sending an unsolicited pic they expect a woman to be as delighted by it as they would be to receive a nude pic of her. Yet, being unable to get out of their own heads and self-interest mindset, they are not sensitive to or respectful of how a woman is different from themselves. This actually does go back to the research that identified that men who do this have higher scores on the narcissism personality traits.
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