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Being here now for a longer time making a lot of experiences. But it seems that ABF and an online friendship exploring it is a paradoxon. Of course its the nature of ABF itself, but I never thought that it would be nearly impossible to find a counterpart.
Of course I am aware that the struggle to find the right one in real life is huge as time tells me in here, so online seems a higher hurdle instead a smaller one :).So the question is – how possible is it to have such an online bonding experience?
I reviewed your profile and I find myself asking the same question every time I see this word:
What does “chat” mean to you?
When I see “chat”, my experience is that it means:
I want to role play the experience via text for my personal gratification.
That’s not saying that is exclusively what you want, just what the “normal” has been in my personal experience. That’s why I’m asking because “chat” does require clarity.
There’s lots of chat one can have. The usual tends to go:
“So…you have breasts. What size?…Do you want to lactate?…What do you like best about ANR/ABF?…Oh yeah…i love that too! I love to…”
And then it goes off on a diatribe of what he likes to do. That’s usually when I nope out. This usually happens 90-95% of the time. It also gets to the point where I just want to copy paste the replies because the questions are the same and not friendly getting to know you, not your breasts questions.
Again, this isn’t to say that is your intention, just what the normal I’ve experienced with those who say they want to be “friends and chat”. So I tend to just not interact because I can somewhat predict the course of that conversation and don’t always want to be in those conversations.
It isn’t impossible to have what you are looking for. Some are looking for online rp and more, but it kinda is an in person thing. There also are some details in your profile that may make it a bit harder, but that’s purely up to each person to determine.
Hopefully this jumbled perspective helps?
Thank you Foxxy Goddess for explaining what I wouldn’t have had the ability to with such accuracy!
Dear Foxy Goddess,
First of all thank you for your answer. And yes, I will clarify my wishes concerning „chat“. 🙂 Thank you for that hint.
And I can hear the deep breath „not again …“ from the other side of the chat reading the same questions over and over again. 🙂I’m not the authority for all, only my experience, so please don’t think I’m accusing. You seem like a really great person from what I’ve seen in the local chat, so I am surprised you are still searching. I hope it changes soon for you! ❤️
@foxgoddess you said that perfectly! I wish I could refer everyone who messages me asking to chat to your response. I’m not really into chatting for that exact reason. Someone on here messaged me the other day though and I have to give props because his message wasn’t the same old.
Chuf, I find it easier to chat(text) with women on here than in person. If all goes well friendship blossoms. Rarely does it go the virtual abf direction.
Occasionally, I have had the luck to meet a few of these lovely ladies. Even though I’m not ready for an ltr each meeting has been a special experience.
I hope that helps answer your question. I appreciate our friendship and your taste in music.😜@axcell – Read your interesting and niche profile. ‘Online only’ – I can see the challenge. Challenging, but not impossible to find your counterpart for chat only. I come across profiles (now and then) where folks are genuinely curious and are into chatting – long term viability is debatable though. I haven’t been in a LT – chat only situation to understand how it’ll play out.
Fetlife is an angry place and the chances of being blocked there are far higher than here.
FoxyGoddess! So well said, not the authority as you say but you hit the nail on the head for me!! X
I would say don’t expect a lot from these virtual dating sites anyways because communicating with someone virtually can be a lot more complicating than communicating with someone in person. And this is why I myself am not into the back and forth texting/instant messaging and it just seems like there are WAY to many people that are into that. Of course it may not be that easy when trying to meet people in person that are into ANR/ABF virtually, and this is why you have websites/virtual dating but, overall, I feel like the whole virtual thing just seems pointless but, that’s just my personal opinion and not everyone has the same mindset as I do regarding meeting someone online virtually. I’m just at a point where if a person reaches out to me virtually and just want to do back and forth texting all day and don’t want to communicate physically, by phone, or by video chatting well, it’s just no need for me to talk to them AT ALL, and that’s my intake.
One person’s opinion.
It’s all a matter of numbers.
I think the expectation here is to actually meet someone in person, which is difficult enough as is.
When you add the requirement of only having a virtual relationship, it simply reduces the possibilities to a relatively small chance.
In any event, Good Luck!
BlackDollFace you nailed it more then any other!!!!!!!! 😁
Thank you very much for all the answers. I completely agree that the term “chat” is quite . . blurry and a matter of interpretation.
I hope the description “erotic chat” in my profile makes things clearer 🙂
Nevertheless it really seems to be another hurdle on top for being married , online only and a country with not real ABF community. 🙂
It would be boring to reduce erotic chat just onto sexting. I guess it depends on both persons which path the would like to take.
I will see where the path will guide me 🙂
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