The Online Identity Paradox

[The Milk Lad]

There is a Japanese phrase that states every person has 3 faces, the one they show to the world, the one they show to friends and family, and the dark one they keep to themselves..

When we engage through the world on the Internet I believe we unwillingly create something that may already have a name but I call it the online identity paradox.
Similar to the way the Japanese think we have 3, I theorize that when we engage online we become two separate entities.

We know who we are, we know what we are, how funny and good looking, how people are drawn to our aura and energy. It’s truly invigorating meeting a new person. Especially one we are instantly interested in because of the VISUAL stimulation. The first contact our sight. We can see them, hear them, smell them, their voice, their energy. Even the smallest word we hear them speak has so much life to it, because we can interact with them. We are not robots.

Talking or attempting to “feel out” someone online, you will never grasp the true marvel of who that person really is. I’ve said for years, I hate texting it’s not personal enough .
If I receive a message from the most beautifu woman in the world I won’t know it, because she’s using her online persona.
We aren’t truly interacting with that person, just their online entity. “Hey handsome” doesn’t feel the same coming from a cold hard plastic screen. She can’t smell my Versace cologne, she can’t see my slim toned body, she can’t hear my soft voice, not see my endearing brown eyes, I can’t even be myself around her and just show her how stimulating it can be to talk to her because it’s just a message on a stupid little phone.

Besides that person can be good maneuvering his online identity, like through social engineering right? He goes through your profile , he gets an idea of what you want to hear and you decide to meet up. He or she uses you and they leave, bam they did a one night stand. My theory is they are good at them Online because they don’t get a lot of attention in person. They are more powerful through their online identity.

She could post a profile picture right? Well online entities dont look like their in real life selfs, it’s a fact.
You take a picture on your phone it’s neither the same dimensions nor field of view as the human eye. Humans look different in picture than in person. Not to the point you don’t recognize them but to the point you can imagine the crazy hand gestures their doing to get a good angle picture.
Photogenics… I have ignored gorgeous women with awesome personalities all my life just because they don’t know how to take a good picture.
I am one of those people, I have done photography professionally for over 5 years but I can’t get a good picture of myself. Ever. Even the ones I have been told are fine, when I meet people on person “you’re so fine in person” “you look different in person” or at the grocery store when the cute girls who ignore me on tinder stare at me in the grocery stores. Find themselves in my aisles a little too much.

We can sit here and pretend we can feel people out or texting people hiding behind our little phones we are gaining a perception of reality but we really stray farther from it. Some of you are actually terrible at it and pick the wrong people and blame the pack. Or ignore the right one because of a misplaced sense of authentication.

Good luck

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