That Final Word

[Latch]

Honestly, if you think about it …

An ANR is a relationship … Adult Nursing Relationship. Maybe sometimes we don’t devote enough attention to that final word … relationship.

Relationships (of any kind) take work, require effort, may form overnight but don’t form completely overnight, having growing pains, face struggles and encounter obstacles.

And much like any other relationship, when two people enter into an ANR, there is the initial excitement that tends to lead the way. But what happens when that initial feeling becomes the normal feeling? At that point, what’s there to keep things together?

Hopefully, there is a bond there … if the two people involved took the time to form a bond, make a connection with each other, deepen their attachment to each other, find what else they have in common, discover what their differences are, fall in like, perhaps fall in love and maybe more.

If there is no bond, then what you have is an action. And if the action is all that the two of you want, that’s great. Enjoy. But if you seek something that is more meaningful than just the action of breastfeeding … or perhaps just merely seeking something that would give that action more meaning, you might want to think about that final word … relationship.

What does a relationship take to begin?
What does a relationship take to work?
What does a relationship take to last?

If he or she is someone you have feelings for, even if they’re merely just initial feelings at the beginning, ask yourself these two questions:
1. Are those initial feelings something you want to see grow into deeper feelings?
2. Would you like to find out if that’s possible?

Then put everything into the relationship that you can. And always give back more than you receive.

Maybe this will help.

Take a look at that final word.

[Claire]

What a great piece of information. Well said.

[Anonymous]

Yes 💯!! Very well said. I understand some people are just seeking a suckling partner (ABF) vs ANR. Having more there than just the “action” is a beautiful thing and also rare. It’s easy to get caught up in seeking just the act of nursing or being suckle, forgetting at the time about a deeper connection.

[Grandtetons]

Well said. Thank you. Goes nicely with my entitlement post.

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