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if they don’t respond, they’re not interesting in keeping the conversation going. there’s nothing you can do but move on.
You always have to remember that there are far more of us guys active and looking on here then there are women. So as a result you can typically guarantee if you get a reply from a woman she is likely chatting to several other guys as well at the same time. Nothing wrong with that of course as expect I’d be the same if being bombarded with messages by women!
On the picture front nothing you can do there. When I’m actively looking I stick a pic in my media and so if I get a read and no reply then I just accept it and move on. Much rather that than someone wasting my time with replies when they have no interest.
“instances of inequality”
This is your first mistake, honestly. Framing your experiences as “inequalities” comes with it the implication you’ve been “wronged” by a dishonest actor. But let’s take a look at what really happened:
“we agreed to exchange pics. She never sends hers, but gets mine”
Mistake number 2. If you’re not OK with a ghost running away with your picture, don’t send your picture until you get one. Simple as that. You gotta set boundaries, or you’ll be walked all over. This is not a male vs. female thing, this is a Planet of the Apes “welcome to Earth” thing.
“ghosts for 2 days. When I message asking”
Mistake number 3… you’ve been ghosted. Take what remains of your dignity and patience, and move on. You already have overwhelming evidence this is not the person for you. Any further engagement is going to be your own fault, at this point.
“she blocks me”
Welcome to abfheaven.com. You’re going to fit right in here. “Room for one more…”
“woman received a hello welcome to the site, and automatically blocks”
Who are you, the welcome wagon? Why are you sending welcome massages to women you don’t know, was she in your area? Did she match your critera? Had she even filled out her profile yet?
“Do you find being a guy doesn’t work,”
I like being a guy. It works for me fine, and I’m not even tall and I do just fine. I can’t say I agree with your sentiment there.
“bad guy If he looks attractive.”
Sorry about that 😉
“And do you have any positive suggestions ?”
Man up! You can do it. And don’t blame women or anyone else for your problems. Don’t sink to that level.
Found The One,
Okay, understandable but, I will say this, if you’re looking to go back and forth with me on this post sorry, I’m not going to argue/debate with you, I do not feel like going back and forth with anyone on this website and first of all, while you want to be a smarta$$ and worry about what post I’m posting under maybe you should also mention to the other women above that commented on this post that they shouldn’t have commented their thoughts either since they are women as well and that this post is for males only. It seems like you only wanted to pick on me when you can clearly see that there was other women who commented as well. And, another thing, yea, I’ve made several posts asking for women to only respond BUT, YET, I STILL GET MALES commenting and leaving unnecessary things under my posts so, maybe you should also see why you have males doing that as well you know, when a woman makes posts and only asks for other women to respond but, yet, they get males responding under their posts instead?? Can you also see about that??? Because I’m confused. I’m starting to think that you had nothing else better to do so you come on here and find a post to comment under but, before you do that you want to find someone and at them over something that really has nothing to do with you. Now, I understand that you are asking what you are asking with all due respect but, please understand that I will not go back and forth with you on this website, I’m not about to argue/debate with anyone PERIOD. So, please keep that same energy with the other women as well that commented on this post and to other women that will possibly post underneath this post as well. And once again, just like you’re asking me why I commented under a men only post maybe you should also look around for males that comment under women’s posts because what they do is unwanted as well, just saying. You made your point so here’s mine. And I can go and make a women’s only posts right now and watch and see if there would be males commenting under my women’s only posts because I’ve had that happen to me in the past, I even had to reach out to Michael the administrator to have the comments removed from some of my posts. So please consider all of this what I am saying to you and once again, I’m not about to go back and forth with you or anyone else on this website.
“Respectfully Submitted”
Thank you for your reply. If I could make it so, I would stop the lack of respect that you and other women unfortunately receive here, and everywhere.
“And do you have any positive suggestions ?”
I thought of 1 more positive suggestion: avoid “drama baiting” your post titles, profile etc with demands of exclusivity. You know: “men only, women only, conservatives only, christians only, sheep only,” or whichever “only” you’re looking to vicariously bounce some antagonism off of.
When you do that, you’re effectively announcing to a room of emotional teenagers that you, the substitute teacher, dare one of these naughty little children to step over your imaginary line of presumed civil authority! Hah, what a riot that is.
If you really want some positive advice, don’t sink to that level. Don’t emulate the antagonistic behaviors you observe here. You’ll just end up one of the damned. They’re “lifers” they never figure it out. You don’t wanna end up like that.
Jeff,
Having read all of the comments here, I am quite surprised that no one has mentioned anything about a number of issues in your profile relating purely to spelling and grammar. I’m going to make just one recommendation here. Reposition or simply take out the entire opening paragraph and delete the dashes. No reason to begin with an immediate reference to pictures. The part about where you travel for work cam be placed further down in your profile.
Once that is done, I would start with what you wrote below the dashes. But I would ask a friend to go over it with the proverbial “fine tooth comb”. I will leave it at that. Think of your profile statement as a job application of sorts. Mistakes in spelling & word usage can make all the difference in getting a response.
Best of luck to you!
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