Platonic suckling with a woman, sexual with a man.

[Anonymous]

I’m a straight woman and ANR has always been sexual for me with men. I’ve never had any desire to explore anything sexual with a woman and I can’t imagine ANR being platonic with a man.

I have issues as a result of my mother’s narcissistic abuse of me, which makes it difficult for me to trust women in general and even have female friends. Recently I’ve been wondering if suckling on another woman’s breasts could help me to heal from that abuse, by being nurtured and sharing an affectionate, platonic connection with another woman.

I’m wondering if this is a common thing in this community and I would be interested in hearing people’s thoughts on this, as well as any experiences anyone has with this.

[Edward]

Hi Rachy,

I am very sorry to hear that you have that kind of trauma. I don’t think I’ve previously come across a woman seeking an ANR with a woman as a therapeutic means of healing trauma caused by another woman in the past. However, I can certainly see why the idea would occur to you, especially given that the trauma relates to your mother. If you explore it, I hope you find it a healing experience.

As to the more general part of what you said, a woman finding an ANR platonic with another woman, but inescapably sexual with a man, is definitely common. I have known lots of women who felt that way over the years.

If you aren’t sexually attracted to women at all, then it’s easy to see how you could share the nurturing and caring aspects of ANR with a woman without it involving arousal or desire. In an ANR between a man and a woman, most people of both sexes find that it more difficult, if not impossible, to separate those aspects completely. Some people can, especially those who don’t generally experience desire outside a deeply committed relationship, but for most it’s very hard to separate the nurturing from the sexual between the sexes.

[Anonymous]

Ahh ok, thankyou for your reply. That’s interesting to know. I know it’s common for women to suckle with both sexes, but I’ve only heard of it being either sexual or platonic for those women I know of, not platonic with one and sexual with another. I’m obviously not as weird as I thought I was 🤪😂

[~btrfly~ 🦋]

I am the same way, which is why I seek it with a woman. I want the platonic dynamic and the Hopefully forever friendship that comes with it. I prefer the touch of a woman. It tends to be gentler, more affectionate and guininely more sincere then a man. Most us woman are emotional creatures where men are physical. With anr, I crave the emotional side of it because it’s very emotional for me. I am a motherly type person so..all my energy is cuddles, snuggles and embracing, suckling and love.

I do hope you find what ever it is your seeking. And begin your process of healing 🥰

[Anonymous]

Thanks for your reply. That’s an interesting perspective, as I tend to think of men as generally more affectionate than women, but I realise that’s probably just my perception, due to my issues with my mother.

[Anonymous]

Rachy and butterfly. I think you’re both wonderful 😊 hugs and positive thoughts your way.

[Grogman 🚀🍑💙🏔️]

Breastfeeding isn’t necessarily always sexual for me. Having a friendship which involves Breastfeeding is just that. Setting up ground rules is a key step. Since I find the activity of suckling erotic, we discuss my response to stimuli and how to handle the situation when it arises. It seems once past the initial “she’s letting me suckle” moment, we settle down into a nice comfortable relaxing embrace.
Whether together on a settee or on a blanket in the park, being with each other enjoying the experience is what is important.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I agree, I’m just wondering how common it is for a straight woman to find it sexually arousing with a man but nurturing and comforting with a woman.

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