New to ABF/ANR

[IslandDreamer]

Hello all. Just making a post here since I’m new and approved now. My husband and I started diving into the world of ABF just over a week ago. I have nursed our kids in the past but thats been almost 2 decades ago. ABF never really crossed our minds at that time and it just kinda came up with some fantasy talk. After some googling we realized its a whole thing.

So im trying to induce lactation or relactation i guess in my case. We manage to get 2-3 suckling sessions in per day during the week and i have been using a tens for stimulation every 2-3 hours pretty consistently during the week. The weekend is a little harder to stay on a good schedule but I figure we do what we can. I did start dom this past Monday night (starting at 1×3) and my wearable pump arrived so yesterday was the first day using it.

We have both noticed my breasts feel fuller and i get tingling/tightness if I don’t do some stimulation for too long. I did also get a small spot of yellow thick liquid yesterday from one breast after pumping and today after my power pump I had 1-3 small yellow thick drops from both breasts. After searching im guessing this is the ducts clearing out and totally normal?

A few other questions we had: positions? We have been doing on our sides with his bottom arm out on the bed under me. Sometimes though i feel like my ribs are digging into his arm or his arm digging into my ribs is more accurate lol. Any suggestions?

Also. Once you are making milk, curious minds want to know: what are you doing with your pumped milk? Saving for partner, dumping, donating? Obviously probably depends how much you pump too I’m sure.

[Vinman]

On the position thing, I recently began using my massage table for sucking for a woman with 40J breasts, with great success. Have her lay face up on the table and place a folding chair on one side. Adjust the table height to about 32 inches. At this height her breast will go right into your mouth and you can literally sit there and suckle for hours with no fatigue. My newest wrinkle on this setup is to add a second chair to the other side of the table so that she doesn’t have to turn around on the table when it comes time to switch breasts. Your guy just switches chairs. A simple folding card table type chair will do.

Let’s face it, nothing beats the bed for total relaxation, stress relief, intimacy and any other “feel goods” you can imagine. But personally, I find it a bit frustrating at times to get perfectly lined up in bed without being an inch or so off. Eventually this problem resolves itself, but then you have the upper breast vs lower breast thing to deal with. I’ve usually switched sides of the bed so that the lower breast is now the upper. I’ve found staying with the upper breast easier to breathe that way as well.

My 40J girl and I have tried both the massage table and the bed. The massage table is always her choice. I might add that if your focus is on suckling to induce, I’d say the massage table is the best way to fly. You have an effortless perfect latch at all times plus much greater stamina by virtue of being seated.

Try it, with a chair on each side. You’ll find it to be “da bomb” position. Let’s have some feedback here after you try it.

[Grogman 🚀🍑💙🏔️]

Laying side by side is rather nice as you know.
It’s hard to go wrong with the head on the lap method. Add a pillow or two if needed. I like it because it is nice to open an eyelid to see her relaxed smiling face looking down at me. 🤗

[Anonymous]

I used to like lying on the bed when I had a partner, naked, to maximise skin contact and affection 💞 lots of cuddling, stroking, kissing his head gently as he suckled, feeling each other’s breath on the skin. Blissful 🥰

Once you’re lactating, your breasts should produce enough milk for the times you feed him, so unless he’s away at your usual time, you feel too full and uncomfortable, or you want to increase supply, there should be no need to pump.

[IslandDreamer]

Thanks for the replies. We have lost some momentum the past week with a bunch of things going on but we are getting back on track now! I upped my dom to 2×3 starting today and ordered goats rue. We have figured out some good pillow placement and we are excited to resume the journey.

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