I agree; Music can be an extremely important component to set the mood and the tone.
I personally like to listen to a lot of sensual R&B and lyrical jazz.
I have a six hour and thirty seven minute long playlist that I curated. Although I didn’t put this playlist together for sexual purposes; I love to listen to this playlist because I “hand-picked” each song to be tailored to exactly how I wanted to feel in that moment. I also organized the playlist based on how well each outro could seamlessly blend into the following song’s intro. I use to dance academically, so I’m extremely particular when it comes to the music I like to enjoy.
For me, I want to hear music that makes me want to move and groove.