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Why do some men try to move our communication off of this website? It seems to happen fairly early on upon meeting.
Because a simple conversation can take days. Just like email. Messegener apps make it much easier
Amen to that and if both individuals are comfortable then you can also use video call feature as well.
It is more convenient to use an app especially Snapchat which (as far as I know) you can verify you’re a real person.
Quite often I talk to someone who turns out to catfish or turn out to be a scammer thanks to taking it to other apps.
Lotus that is a common complaint by women. Many find it tiresome to constantly be hounded to go off site. Men pushing to get what they want rather than respecting a woman’s need for safety and security. The comments above raise some issues of why they might do so, but I agree with you, safety and security first. If they cannot be patient, then they are not worth your time.
Thanks Flowrgardn, That how I feel about it too. Thanks for putting it so well.
@flowrgardn for what it is worth, I agree and I don’t look to hound women off the site or try to get any more personal than some alternative platform that we still use aliases on anyway (no phone numbers). And I only really take it there if we have a good rapport and are local enough.
I don’t know what it is truly like for women but I can imagine especially with how common it is for guys to be out of state (or even out of country) that asking to take it to other apps does get aggravating. But I know for myself I had at least five different “women” turn out to be scammers posing as women and it was thanks to keeping the conversations as non-invasive as I could that I figured them out. For my sake and also to avoid getting too personal with them and violating their boundaries.
I would hope more guys try to be respecting of that privacy (or maybe they just want to save nudes in their apps) but knowing I saved myself the money (and possibly my well being, early on I was led to possibly being robbed but I managed to sus out my “partner”) by navigating conversations off-site carefully, there is a personal benefit in suggesting to take it to another app.
But that’s just me.
But a lot of convos stay here and I respect it.
I just find it so bizarre.
So bizarre that this, among other things some women complain about on here, are not an issue on literally any other site such as, kink dating/networking sites, apps such as Tinder or Bumble, or vanilla dating sites like Match etc.
Literally no one on those site or apps have had a problem with moving conversation to Snapchat, Telegram. It’s just so much more convenient. There are better privacy options on those apps, you are able to block people.
BreastFanatic….there is a block function on this site as well, and if someone gets really out of line they are removed. It feels safer here than on generic sites. This is a niche site, not a generic dating site, so many women feel the need to be more careful or cautious, and rightly so.
@Exerienced ABF I understand your points. That would be frustrating as well. It sounds like you are not pushing to go off site too early, and try to be cognizant of a woman’s comfort level, need for safety and security. personally, I do not go off site until I feel comfortable with someone, feel like I know them. Too many men push for it early on. There are also friends I just connect with on here too and our conversations stay here.
Were those spammers on here or another site; if on here, did you turn them in to Michael? They should be removed.
When someone wanted to move the conversation off site within the first few interactions, I was very leery as typically their secret goal was phone sex.
On the flip side, once rapport was built, I wanted a live voice conversation because in five minutes I would know if there was any chance of a future.
The voice messaging here is a really nice middle ground.
A good man is willing to take things at your pace and always respect you and your boundaries and needs with no pressure.
I want to thank everyone for their responses. It gives me more of an idea why it happens and the pros and cons of staying on this site and moving to another venue. I find everyone here very helpful and friendly. Thank you.
I gave examples of websites beyond generic dating sites. What makes it different here?
An app like Snapchat allows you to delete messages and images after they have been read. It also tells you if someone has saved or screenshotted anything you’ve sent them.
I would argue that is far more secure than a wordpress website.
The reason for moving to apps is less sinister than you think… It’s for greater convenience and privacy.
If someone wanted to rush to sex chat there is nothing stopping them from doing it on here.
There is something that will stop them from sex chat here, by not engaging with them, just block them immediately, party over.
I suspect that for the people that are inconsiderate is that if they are offsite communicating with someone most sites will not boot them off the site, they aren’t really concern once you go off site because you made the decision to go off site with that person. so it’s up to you to vet that person carefully, what happens off site isn’t their responsibility to police.
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