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I’m a bit unsure of how the men on this site intend to meet women in real life in person if the message is not respectful and appropriate… it’s pretty clear why we are on this site. It is crystal clear back and white so I’m not sure why men feel the need to initiate conversation with this in my inbox. It’s as if there is no other aspects of your personality. Lol. You will never meet me in person if you only want to start off by talking about this like really?? What I am Gathering is that A) most men don’t intend to meet and just want erotic online chat and attention or B) they don’t know how to approach and don’t understand that vulgar messages will not get an in-person meet
We can talk about all that stuff in person isn’t it a lot better that way anyway?
I have often wondered this too.
I mean, we are all here because we are into ABF/ANR. Asking me questions only about that just tells me either you aren’t comfortable initiating an actual conversation, or you have nothing else to talk about.
The “20 Questions” method is tiresome. I don’t know how long I’ve been into this. I didn’t think to mark a calender to keep track. I had kids who breastfed and I loved the sensations and would love to have it again in an inimate relationship. No, it’s not life changing or a monumental event. It’s something I really enjoy and my breasts are sensitive and I love having them get attention. No, all my partners have never been interested in my breasts or breast play and yes, it’s been a huge disappointment to me
What else is there to say about this? But these are all the exact same questions I get. No one asks me what I do for fun, what kind of relationship I’m looking for, anything about me as a person. It’s tiresome to constantly talk about just my breasts when unless someone is paying attention to them physically, I’m actually a person who is a lot more than what I carry in my bra.
I’m not a flirt or a tease, I’m here to find someone who cares about me as a person AND enjoys ANR. If all you want to talk about ANR, I’m going to get bored of you pretty fast because you are telling me you plan to offer nothing more than a mouth. I want more than that. A LOT more.
For some women, I’m sure that works. For me, it’s a huge nope. If I ask a guy to tell me about them and they give me a sentence or two about who they are and paragraphs of their love of ANR, I’m not going to be impressed and will probably stop talking to them.
So many guys here in their profiles say they want a deep, intimate connection and relationship, but the conversation they have says the exact opposite.
Idk…maybe I’m asking for too much, but I want a relationship with a human being who has interests, hobbies, and things they enjoy well outside of ANR, not a mouth. 🤷♀️
I’ve found many guys just want to know if I’m lactating
So if I’m not lactating we can’t talk?
Or I get msgs
That they’ll be in my area and can they “feed”
Stupid stupid crap
Then when I say I find your msg rude they say I’m rude and block me! Hahaha ok
I’ve found most guys are wanting to chat to fulfill voids in their relationship.Kinks have historically been shamed and ABF/ANR certainly falls into the kinks category. As such, I believe many of the good men who are looking for ABF/ANR may find it difficult to overcome that barrier and put themselves and (potentially) their reputation out there. I’ve been interested in ABF for probably at least 15 years but it wasn’t until recently that I had the courage to step toward finding what I’m looking for by joining sites like this.
And of course, their is a wide spectrum of the quality of men here just like there are users on any site. However, there are some of us that still attempt to cling to our integrity, treat women respectful and act honorably. Don’t give up on us men, many of us just don’t communicate well… But, I agree we need to do better.
And men, lead with your manners and a face pic, not of anything else. I’m still a student in this game of ANR, but I can see that the ideal is a respectful co-beneficial relationship centered on trust and ABF/ANR. You’ll never be respected if you lead with explicit photos of your member.
I’m still here, so I haven’t lost hope that there is a guy out there who actually wants a fulfilling, conmected relationship that includes ANR and can not uust tolerate me, but actually adore me and want to share their life with me. 😁
100% agree ladies!
I get sick and tired of the immediate questions of: how big are my breasts,are you having luck on here-if I was I wouldn’t be on here anymore,and guys telling me how they love to j–k off to my picture.
SERIOUSLY??What @jules says. I think a lot of men here are to fulfil voids in their relationships or marriages and have no notion of meeting.
Ladies, there are men here who are aghast and roll their eyes, when we hear stories of rudeness from males to women “right out of the gate!” (I chose not to use the word men, because a real man KNOWS how to treat a woman/lady!).
Thank you John for your response above. Succinct and well written. Some men think just because a woman enjoys and wants her breasts pleased and suckled, she is an easy target for sex!! Sometimes that may happen in the future, but many men who are disprectful to you women out there are rude, selfish individuals who ignore the “R” in an ANR. They lack common courtesy and common sense to realize the old adage, “you get more with sugar than vinegar!”
I, for one have been searching (off & on) since 2005 for an ANR. I am still hopeful that one day I can find a partner to enjoy this for life.
Ladies, my best to you in your searches. Just don’t let those who are rude, discourage you from finding a respectful, suitable partner!
John and Micheal. I much appreciate your thoughtful comments.
The ladies above have pretty much said much of what I think.
“So many guys here in their profiles say they want a deep, intimate connection and relationship, but the conversation they have says the exact opposite.”- Foxy Goddess
That quote really hit me. Seems most men think of a deep intimate connection is just the aspect of their mouth and hands upon the breasts. Such a disconnect. For me, that comes last. It’s the connection of the mind, heart and soul (and no its not just both being into ABF/ANR).
At this point, I’m so disappointed and fed up with men I’m decided to stop looking and just do me till next year.
Jules— I met a man local to me and I was not impressed, but he was nice enough. Old enough to be my father. He had the AUDACITY to tell me that he was “okay” with dry nursing for now, but his ultimate goal was to find a lactating woman, then he would be going that route. I’ve never blocked someone with more relish.
@Tami with the luck question, I generally ask that to hear their experience so far with things.
Some have met multiple partners, some none. There’s quite a few members on here that aren’t looking as well, but just enjoy the community.
I can understand the frustration of the question though
I think one thing to keep in mind is that most of these guys aren’t crazy. They wouldn’t take that approach every time if it didn’t work sometimes.
That isn’t to defend it or excuse it, but there are people out there that respond positively, or they would change their approach. The same happens on every dating ap.
I had a friend long ago that met his long time girlfriend by telling her he’d place to play with her tits.
Not the most respectful opener, but it worked.I never take an approach like that and even hesitate to mention looks for a while, but I’m not sure how well that’s serving me 😉
Pardon my typos. Auto correct loves to fight.
For me it’s only natural that conversation starts with the appeal for ABF/ANR or anything related to boobs. After all is the common ground that brings everyone here, just like in any other forum I would expect to strike a conversation about the topic at hand.
It should always be in a respectful manner of course, you are trying to get to know a stranger of course. A lot of how that conversation evolves is how the rest of natural conversation can be weaved in.
I mean, if I were in a Lego forum and I wanted to start a conversation with someone… It makes sense to ask them about their Legos.. no? And if they told me they haven’t got any friends who enjoy playing with their Legos as much as they do and I love playing with Legos, I would probably be enthusiastic commenting about their Lego sets and my Lego sets.
And of course while talking about Legos if the conversation just flows about other topics that’s when you realize you want to talk more to this person far beyond your mutual interest in Legos.
Or maybe that’s just me.
@raqueldances You are spot on. Men who are actually interested in abf/anr will approach potential partners with more respect. It may occasionally work to get a reaction by being rude, but why turn off the majority of women you’re attempting to approach? It makes no sense and is short term focused only. Shows no respect for the woman at the other end of the message.
Like Raquel I will call those men out on it and if they continue, they are blocked. The major problem is that most men on here don’t seem to be actually interested in abf anr….they want an experience, or to try it, but do not comprehend that this is actually a dating and relationship site…..we all have that common abf interest, that’s why we’re here….show us who you are as a person, why we would want to be around you, with you, why we would want to talk with you, why we should spend time interacting with you. It isn’t going to be because of your abf anr talk!
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