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I’ve discovered that ANR has allowed me to tap into a part of my sexuality that I don’t really use/interface with often. Maybe it’s cause i’m in a male dominated industry for work, but I generally present myself as more masculine/tom boy cause it’s a default and I don’t want to bring attention to myself.
That being said, one of my hurdles (having never actually had a physical ABF/ANR relationship) is that right now I view this as a sexual thing and as such personally i’ve explored a few more kinks with it. To say it has been eye opening is an understatement, and I think one of the things i’m having trouble with (from a personal standpoint) is disassociating myself from sexual aspect and leaning into the nurturing/loving/non-sexual aspect of it (e.g. not about sexual gratification, focus on providing loving care for a potential partner).
The times I’ve nursed before, I wouldn’t say that either I nor any of my previous nursing partners were ever being particularly dominant or submissive. Though I suppose the sort of ‘atmosphere’ I’ve been looking for is one of relaxed contentedness and satisfaction. Normally I wouldn’t consider that in itself a real kink, but maybe it is.
Serious question- at what point does a generic preference become a kink?
Simply finding breasts attractive is no kink, its just a fact of life. The nursing itself of course could easily be considered a kink or fetish, granted. But in simply liking a relaxed atmosphere while doing so, I wouldn’t think so. Arranging a nice comfy couch to use, likewise, is just a matter of being practical. Deliberately arranging for the nursing session to be in the evening, after a big dinner for a more mellow experience is maybe starting to cross a line. And then, the hypothetical step further of getting off not just on the nursing itself but also the warm full belly on which I rest my head while nursing… right about there is where I would say we’re clearly in kink territory.
I wouldn’t claim I am kinky. I don’t crave bondage or much power play the majority of the time though I have ventured into it and enjoy it.
ANR/ABF does fold and transition into other play for me. When I’m feeling dominant (the majority of the time), I like how ABF can objectify the female. It’s just about her breasts and playing with them. I haven’t gotten to try it but the idea of milking sounds exciting.
I’ve also had a couple of submissive experiences where I was put in a role of obeying commands like how to suckle her, my partner using her breasts to tease me, make me beg, etc or even in a reward aspect. Even a denial aspect, something along the lines of “I won’t let you have sex with me but you can only suckle my breasts.”
I’m single currently but I’m not worried about not being able to enjoy ABF again. I like ABF as a spice to intimacy and showing love. To answer your question, it’s more a lifestyle than a kink. Casual suckles on the couch on a lazy weekend or as foreplay/aftercare, even before bed is where I enjoy it the most.
It’s more about the emotional and bonding benefits for me than it is sexual though it has a sexual nature that shouldn’t be ignored.
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