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This may have been talked about previously but is worth bringing up again, in my opinion.
Kink in relation to ABF. Similar to a post made by June asking what other kinks people have, how do your other kinks work with ANR? Does the Dominant/submissive role change within your dynamic? Are you able to mesh nursing in with a different kink; someone mentioned dollification (similar to objectification in my mind?) Do experienced people find that ANR is a lifestyle rather than a kink similar to the way D/s would consider full protocol 24/7 lifestyle?
I believe people learn from getting input from other people – that old saying, “Monkey see, monkey do” so this could be an important dialogue for someone else within this community be them new or trying to redefine what ANR means to them.
Based on my personal experience ABF can be an incredible turn on that ignites both partners sexual desires. This can lead anywhere the partners want and agree upon. It is an added bonus to vanilla ABF which is not to say that vanilla ABF is bad. I happen to love that too
Everyone wants to put labels on everything. What should a label matter when you’re engaged with a partner doing what you both desire. Damn it ! Just do it. Jeezuz, we’re all off the freaking’ rails !
First, the idea that there is only a d/s dynamic needs to stop, I don’t know why so many in the kink/fetish community feel the need to pigeon hole people into the dom, sub, or switch category.
I am very much a dominant when it comes to my everyday life, in and outside of my home. But domination doesn’t frequently take place in the bedroom, I’m not a sub in the bedroom, I’m very much a sensualist. Some of my kinks are integrated into nursing depending on the kink. I have a lingerie and clothing fetish, so that flows into nursing easily with nursing bras and easy access/nursing shirts, dresses, and nightgowns. Role play is another kink that easily integrates with nursing if two people are into it.
For some people anr/abf is it’s own lifestyle with no added components of titles or roles.
First, I never said there was only a D/s dynamic. It was one example of many different dynamics. Second, people label everything. It’s helpful to have labels and a vocabulary. There’s a whole other discussion post about the difference between ANR and ABF where other users are defining each for what it means to them. Language and vocabulary have a purpose. If your situation works without labels, all the more power to you and yours. I simply wanted to have a discussion here with the mass majority that coincided with a conversation I was having in private with a friend.
I assure you, I’m not trying to pigeon hole anyone and I’m firmly on my rails.Well-worded question and equally commendable response Rose.
Abf is nice in and of itself. Not having had a long term anr, it would be hard for me to discuss it as a lifestyle.
I/we have incorporated some kinks into abf sessions. Rope play and Hucow have been the ones I’ve experienced. Flogging looks interesting. Most of the time “standard eroticism” follows or intertwines with breastfeeding sessions.
I hope this helps answer your question.Nice response Rose.
To your question, which seemed clear to me, I think ABF can be either a kink or a lifestyle. Many seem to differentiate between ABF and ANR with ABF being more what could be called a kink, as it can be one off, or vary in frequency in a given relationship. ANR seems to be more often used when a woman has milk and the ABF is taking place so regularly that she will begin to literally need him to nurse as her supply is so much that she can become engorged and painful if he doesn’t relieve her.
Then of course there are people who don’t like to call it a kink. And therefore ALL ABF is a lifestyle I guess? Or whatever you choose to call it.
How does it integrate with other kinks? I would say that depends on whether it’s a kink or a lifestyle,lol. A kink you can choose to do seperately or in conjungtion, if it works, so not neccessarily a need to make it mesh unless you want to.
A lifestyle, like D/s well I think that would have to mesh. I can see many ways to make D/s, as JUST AN EXAMPLE, work with ABF OR ANR.
I also don’t think D/s has to be a full protocol 24/7 lifestyle. It’s up to you and what works/turns you on. But that’s an other story and this answer is already WAY to long.Disclaimer for the overly sensitive: The above is based on my opinions, experiences, and general stuff I read on here other sites and from women involved in ABF/ANR that I may OR may not have been involved with. No claims are made that these statements are true for everyone, OR anyone, or that they apply to everyone OR anyone or as to the veracity of the statements. The statements are NOT legally binding on me, you, everyone OR anyone. Be aware you can do and think as you please and, as always, YMMV.
Oh and please feel free to LOL.
Thank you Nick and I’m sure people appreciate your disclaimer!
What I took away from your response was that ANR/ABF is completely customizable based on the parties. I definitely agree. Being that it is so customizable, I think finding a partner who aligns with your wants and desires is extremely important, more so than just finding anyone who is close by. Because this is such a niche community/kink/lifestyle, do you think people are having to alter their wants or needs in terms of ANR when they find someone nearby who doesn’t necessarily fit all of their wanted characteristics? Do you think ANR can cause people, who have pre-established roles in a relationship, to have to redefine roles? For example, if you are submissive and start nursing, can that change a dynamic? If you’re a pet and desire less servitude and more sensualism?
No worries Rose. I hope people appreciate the disclaimer and the spirit of keeping it light and at least L if not OL.
I think the answers to your questions are a definite yes and no, lol.
I would guess some people will have to alter their kink/lifestyle/etc if ABF/ANR is there primary thing and whomever they meet isn’t into their other k/l/e, if they want to, like anytime you meet someone who isn’t into your thing.
I would say you can probably make ABF/ANR work with other kinks/lifestyles/etc even if sometimes you have to be creative. To use D/s as an example I have heard people who see the the women being suckled as either Dominant, submissive or, of course neither depending on the energy she brings and that of the suckler(?). I heard sub because of the nurturing, giving factor amd Dom because of the same thing/mommy kink. I can see where the energy can go either way or just neutral for both partners, even the mommy kink doesn’t have to be Dom. Unless they both want it. I guess, not my thing. I think ABF/ANR always brings a more sensual energy, softer energy even if you’re incorporating D/s. Did any of that make sense?In my experience, the lactation as a sub is something that is done to the submissive, forced upon, and if necessary restrained while doing it. The sub/slave could desire it or not; in the confines of a Consensual Non-Consenting (CNC) relationship. I believe the ANR/ABF could be adapted to that, but it seems much more mutually desired, nurturing, and sensual than that of a D/s relationship.
My last relationship was a BFR. The woman I was going out with discovered how much I loved to kiss and suck on her breasts and we were off to the races. She had been in one before and so she had experience. She was dry and let me suckle to my hearts content, it gave me a great sense of well being. It got to the point where she would move my head to her other nipple when she wanted to and I was happy to let her be in control, after all I was doing what I wanted to do. Her favorite position was on the sofa, scrunched down, with her legs spread and me between her legs. She could move my head easily. She loved to watch TV like that, she said the TV distracted her so that the sensations of my tongue built up until she couldn’t stand it anymore and we went into the bedroom.
One day she took my head and said, lick my pussy and pushed my head down. After a little she pulled my head up and put it on her breast, so I would lick her breasts with her pussy juices.
Maybe not very kinky, but kinky enough for me.it is nice to have open discussions in chat or forums on this site. I would not really define or call them kinks, since kinks have a negative association. I think of it more as what 2 people enjoy doing together, which some people may say more like lifestyle. I also agree that it is nice to find someone that is compatible or shares the same interests in that sense, or maybe open to trying it to see if they like it for themselves if they have not tried it before. One of them could be role-play, not as in mother/infant, but could be unlimited in terms of the character pairs you want to play, pilot/flight attendant for example. Also, maybe for some, nursing in nature or public places.
I don’t really know how to explain it, but since I’ve been nursing my husband I’ve discovered a submissive side I really wasn’t aware of. We’ve always been pretty well matched in the bedroom and in life. I’m a pretty successful person with many irons in the fire at all times but lately I find myself wanting to submit to him in the bedroom. I like it when he tells me what to do and some of that is even spilling into our daily lives. It’s strange but I like it.
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