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I’ve seen some posts specifically about whether hucow falls under abf/anr, but I’m wondering if people generally classify abf/anr as a kink? There may be an older post pertaining to this, and if so, sorry for the repition.
To you is it a preference like having favorite positions or does it fall under something else? Like all things, I’m sure it’s a spectrum. Curious to see if people feel there’s a power dynamic involved as well. If you do view it as a kink, is it the only one you indulge or is it one of many/tied to others?
For me, it’s an act of submission and mostly falls under the kink header. It’s tied into other kinks I have, which is how my boyfriend introduced it. At times it’s simply intimate and more romantic, so my answer to my question is “it depends.” If there was a Kinsey scale with 10 being 100% pure kink, I’d put myself at about 8.5.
I think some of the struggle to find partners is rooted in the different ways we view/approach this lifestyle. Thanks for indulging my curiosity and, as always, don’t yuck someone’s yum!😊
I think it’s definitely one of those activities that blurs the line between kink and simple pleasure. The intimacy of it can be intense, but I think it gets pushed toward the kink side of the spectrum by people who just find it odd that an adult man or woman would want to nurse from a woman and actually ENJOY breast milk, if she’s also lactating. Personally, I’ve never considered it very kinky . . certainly not in comparison with BDSM in its many flavors . . but instead view as a wonderful addition to whatever other intimacy the couple shares.
To the broad swathes of ordinary, relatively-sheltered people, ABF/ANR is most definitely a kink, and a dubious one at that.
There is definitely a “dynamic” associated with it, but a quite fluid one (haha) that takes many forms. For some it’s just foreplay, some want their mommies, some want to possess and objectify their partners in this context, and I’d guess some are just in the middle or “switch”.
It’s a preference and a kink for me.
I’m not willing to be in a long term relationship without ANR/ABF being a part of it, the same way I wouldn’t be in a relationship without cuddling, sex, date nights, and all of the other “normal” stuff relationships encompass.
I would say 50% of the time there is sexual contact leading up to or immediately following nursing, and I do enjoy erotic lactation in many forms. This is why I am not interested in a platonic nursing partner, I want it all or nothing.
I have expressed it as a kink before. Although many times its meant as a convenient & general term to express an interest an outside the normal vanilla behaviors. I view it as one of many expressions of connection between partners. On a personal note, I also see it as a way to express my feminity & submissive nature. It’s not something, as well as other sexual acts, I can do casually and need a relationship. As someone else wrote, I want all or nothing. I need the symbiosis of heart, mind and soul to be able to trust, respect, & honor him as well as myself.
Honestly, if the intent is for sexual gratification, I would classify it as a kink. If it is to connect and bond with someone in a non-sexual way, it isn’t. There’s no “wrong way” to this, I believe. It’s whatever consenting people what to do.
I don’t class it as a kink because it’s not always a sexual thing for me. I mean it is sometimes, but sometimes it’s the most peaceful, relaxing and nurturing thing in the world.
It can be both kink and not a kink. I suppose it depends on the people involved, situation etc…
Breastfeeding is very erotic experience for me. Often, further enjoyable activities ensue.
It is also the single most relaxing and nurturing activity that I have experienced.
Jessa it is also an act of submission for me. Normally, I prefer to direct activity in the boudoir. When breastfeeding I’m in a position of vulnerability. There’s just her and I without a care in the world.
I had never heard of Hucow until recently. I watched a porn video, and in that particular instance, it was purely a kink. There was nothing having to do with ANR about it.
On the other hand, if the two involved are connecting through it, and it satisfies them both, it is not a kink any more than an ANR without it.
Personally, I would not have a problem with Hucow sexuality if my (future) partner wants it, nor would I object to it being a part of our normal bonding experience.
Truly, I believe it depends upon the couple involved.
Not a kink for me. It is a lifestyle for me, sexual and non-sexual. So, I don’t compare this to kinks.
I am here for a long term relationship and abf/anr is the lifestyle that the relationship will be based on, but not the only driving point, like I expect a lot of things to drive the relationship in general. Things that make the connection and bond strong, such as good communication and things in common (hobbies, activities, and such) and of course, the mutual love for intimacy while cuddling and breastfeeding. It is for me not a kink at all, even though it is highly erotic.About hucow – not sure really how to classify this as it is not exactly my thing. But, per my observation, I don’t think this is as extreme as the videos are pointing out, well, I hope it is not. Lol ..anyway, it looks to me more of a fantasy where you become an animal that is very primal and can breastfeed and breed without a social constructs surrounding it. It definitely is a fantasy of lots of us to not to care what society thinks of us, just be wild and be primal for a moment, but I think hucow is more of a fixation on the breastfeeding/breeding, so it maybe is that need to be submissive which is part of the BDSM. I am no psychologist, sounds like I am over analyzing here, haha….
Abf/anr is about nurturing and creation of the bond, it is not a kink in my opinion, but rather a way to connect. People fantasize about it, too, yes, but I am not one of those people. I was in a relationship with ANR aspect and the connection is beautiful.
Kink, for me, although I’m willing to respect boundaries for it to become a non kink event.
@grogman. Understandable. It’s the mindset one is in. 🤗
I agree that it can be perceived as a kink but for me it’s natural. It should common although it is not currently. For me it’s the ultimate act of surrender and love. anr is biblical, in history, in third world countries, Roman and Grecian times, the list goes on! There isn’t any harm or negative side to this. I will agree my knowledge of kinks can fit in a thimble ( which was expanded since coming here to fill my thimble) but some of the things I’ve learned were degrading, painful, maybe even hurtful mentally! Anr is not any of that. It’s beautiful and connecting! It’s mental, physical and spiritual.
The Hucow , the images someone shared with me on here was a stall of sorts and a milking machine ( like for animals) That terrified me and did not seem very caring. For me personally it wouldn’t be a good fit.
They great thing is that between 2 consenting adults, it’s what you need it to be for you! Just make sure you feel safe and comfortable no matter what the situation!A deliberate distinction should be made between nursing strictly for its own sake, and nursing as foreplay. There of course can be an overlap between the two, and in practice one can suddenly and unexpectedly become the other.
In the case of the former, from the perspective of a suckler even if given that the breast is sexually attractive regardless, and there are ancillary fetishes in lactation for instance, nursing is still not necessarily a sexual act. It could become one of course, but it is possible for the aforementioned scenario to take place and remain platonic, and therefore avoid the kink factor altogether. I can confirm this from personal experience.
And as of the latter I’d imagine that for some the breast itself is a kink/fetish, and any sort of breast-play would fall under its purview or that of a dozen others. If so, then ANR would certainly be a kink.
But the more interesting topic of conversation would be the former. Imagine the following scenario- both parties intend to wet-nurse platonically, let’s say for bonding and relaxation. There is a degree of mutual attraction between the two, and in the process of nursing one or both may be aroused. Is this a kink?
There is a degree of mutual attraction between the two, and in the process of nursing one or both may be aroused. Is this a kink?
No, that’s called a hapy accident, I believe.
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