Introducing muggles to ANR – how did it go?

[Anonymous]

Due to my personal circumstances – emigrating at the end of January to a place where online ANR community simply doesn’t exist, I’ve been thinking about my future options.

1. Try to forget about this need altogether – this doesn’t feel healthy in the long term. Not sure suppressing parts of yourself leads to anything good.

2. Introduce a romantic partner to ANR and hope it resonates with them. Counting on the nursing drive being universal and primal enough to exist in a proportion of women worldwide, even if they don’t know the lingo, online platforms etc.

This is where my question comes in – what are your experiences of being and ambassador for this practice? I know it often pops up organically around the time of breastfeeding babies for many couples. What about starting from scratch? Have you had any luck introducing ANR to a total muggle?

[Anonymous]

Hi,
I think you should be bold and go for it if it feels right. Meaning there are many people out there who are into ANR who don’t know that it’s a “thing” and would love it as much as we do. Or they have never tried it and would love it once introduced to it but not have it demanded.

Cases in point.

I have a make friend obsessed with ANR and large breasts. He found his current love on a vanilla site. He tried it with her and she loves it. They are both very happy and in love.

I brought it up after a second date with man I met on a vanilla site and he was thrilled to know that what he’s always loved has a name and that other people are into it as much as he is. We nursed a lot but the relationship didn’t work out in the long term due to differing lifestyle choices. I learned that to be bold is ok and to trust my instincts is always right.

I sensed this guy was a breast man and he has a caring personality to match. I thought, why not ask him. What’s the worst he could say? I’m a freak or weird. Then he’s not for me anyway. Cause it will come out some day. You cannot hide who.yiunare and what you need forever. It’s also a very dishonest way to approach a relationship and will most likely doom it fail in the long run.

When you’re with someone you can tell if they love Thier breasts touched, played with or otherwise adored in many ways. Listen to your inner voice. It should be easy and will flow, no pun intended.

Trust your instinct is my advice and don’t settle. There’s someone out there for everyone.

Much luck and love to us all who are looking. ❤️

[Anonymous]

Thank you for such a thoughtful answer Lily. It cut to the heart of the matter, pointing me back to the obvious – there are no “options”, plural. There’s only one way forward and that’s honesty. I can’t suppress my needs, I can’t tailor a curtailed persona for my partners sake. A mirror example – the idea that she could have some core desires which she decided to bury for the fear of being misunderstood – that’s a horrifying image. Why would I have a double standard for myself on the matter? Communication, communication, going on intuition and a pinch of luck – I’m again looking forward to the search, even if I have to do without the lingo and online tools. Good luck to you too!

[Anonymous]

Life is too short not to try to get what you need and love. 😘 Be honest, be open minded and find someone open minded. I know you’ll find a woman who you will introduce to Heaven. And she’ll never want to go back to life without it. I guarantee. That’s what happened to me 😊

[Cassidy]

Hi,

I just want to add that what Water Lily says matches my experience as a guy, too. Most of my relationships have been with “vanilla” people, but the course those relationships have taken has been down to the two of us and what we’ve worked out together. There have been some relationships where I haven’t felt the bond moving in this direction and haven’t broached the subject, and they have still been good relationships. But the ones where I’ve felt most deeply for the other person, the ones where we’ve been the easiest with one another, I have needed to share it – and it’s almost always been taken well.

Not everybody has been into it, but I have never been rejected for it. There have been certain close, nurturing relationships where it’s happened quite naturally, others where we’ve discussed it and negotiated something which would feel good for both of us. But in my experience the core of an ANR is the relationship: every one’s different, and nursing is, to me, a way of expressing something deep and powerful about affection and care and a shared need for one another. As much as I love nursing, those emotions are what come first: I’m not even sure I can do it properly – not wholeheartedly – without them.

So my own rule is to play things by ear, but not to be afraid to bring it up in the early days of a relationship (and I think it’s good to bring it up then: I’d feel a bit too vulnerable disclosing it on a second date, but it’s important to share while we’re still learning about one another). In my experience it tends to come up not in conversations about babies but when there are already certain emotions underpinning the relationship – or at least the potential for those emotions: in close, safe moments between the two of you.

Which is all a bit sappy and perhaps not very practical. But it can be done, is what I’m trying to say, and trust that the people you want to share it with are people who won’t be afraid to hear it: there’s clearly a reason you like them that much in the first place. Negotiation, communication, respect, openness, teamwork and caring – it’s what this whole thing is about, and what all this comes down to. And patience and openheartedness, until you find someone who you’re right for and who is right for you. And yes, good luck. ❤️

[Anonymous]

Thank you for such an uplifting message Cassidy. It makes me realise that looking for ANR in ANR corners of the internet is only one approach. Perhaps it’s even more backwards than simply building an honest, nurturing relationship in the first place. In that environment breastfeeding or nursing offers itself as just another way of expressing feelings that are already present and waiting for their way out into the world. I can imagine breastfeeding brought up too early could be interpreted as a more quirky “boob guy fetish”.

If I could plant some seeds for fate, the current plan would be this: find a woman whom I can fall in love with, if she’s responsive to breastplay – even better. The rest should be downhill, no need for strange internet forums 😅

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