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I’m wondering how I can make a woman feel the most comfortable nursing, especially for a first session.
I’m new, so how would you instruct one on how to properly latch?
Second, what are some other things you would tell a newbie to help make the process smoother or make the woman feel relaxed, comfortable, and allow her to really enjoy the moment best?
I want to ensure I’m gentlemanly about the whole process.
ThanksWanting to be a gentleman is an excellent choice.
Don’t expect anything upon the first meeting. This is a meeting to see if each other is a psycho or an axe murderer.😜
Latching technique can vary. There are some early forum posts to help out with that.
I hope that helps you out.Oh yeah, there are quite a few nice women on here. Message them once, twice, then if no reply stop and move along. Pestering doesn’t endear oneself with a potential abf partner.
Thanks! I’m asking cus I met a nice woman on here and we’re planning to meet. Obviously I’m talking to her but was wondering if there were general things I may need to know about the process or the act of nursing 🙂
Hey Tom,
Welcome to the site. This is a PSA on breast basics and proper latching: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DQj-Mn0c370&list=PLwDqfKDXInXjl2qVMume0KsaKdQxhmA9B
Though it highlights how an infant nurses, it basically applies to adults nevertheless. The rest is how well you and your companion communicate before, during and after you bond in this way, such that your techniques will hopefully bloom as time goes by.
There are so many occasions while nursing that a continual stream of beautiful things are said…… without ever having murmured a word.
Warm regards,
Ethereal SkiesThank you, Ethereal Skies! I really appreciate it 🙂
Hey tom. Welcome to abfheaven. Well done you finding someone so soon. Some people.take years to find someone for this. I agree with Grog and ES and dont have much to add.
I would however stop periodically and check that shes ok and not in pain.
Good luck with it, breath, relax and enjoy the moment.
Nursing can deplete oils and a natural humectant layer around a woman’s nipple. This mostly depends on frequency of nursing and her biology. Adding to what Juicy’ said it’s a good idea to apply nipple cream between long breaks in nursing sessions.
A lanolin cream is often good for this but its dried layer can ‘drag on clothes’ when she moves. A friend of mine recommends this when clothing is soon to be worn:
Organic Nipple ButterWow I never thought of that. See, these are the things I need to know haha and thank you all, I appreciate all the help
And yeah I feel grateful somebody was willing to share this experience with me so soon. It’ll be a brief weekend visit but I’m excited to try 🙂
Here are a few other links to try with more specific instruction. Read through the comments below, they have some good pointers:
Good luck, hope it goes well.
Tom, check out my blog post here https://abfheaven.com/wolfradish-video-review/#comments
There is a video discussion on proper latching, plus links to other useful videos in the comments.
Thank you so much😊
I found this somewhere, not sure where now but seems relevant.
THE LATCH!!
When reading posts in the ABF/ANR community or researching lactation, you’ll likely come across the word “latch” fairly often. Latch is the term used to describe the technique of sealing the lips and tongue over the nipple and areola in order to suckle milk. Latching is relatively simple in practice (almost everyone is born knowing how to do it); however, incorrect latch among adults is quite common and can reduce the effectiveness of the breast’s natural ability produce and express milk, and in some cases, prevent lactation altogether.
Perhaps the most common misconception is that milk comes from the nipple. In fact, milk must first be moved from the mammary glands, through the milk ducts, to small milk sinuses beneath the nipple and areola. This process is stimulated by the hormone oxytocin. Proper suckling technique easily expresses milk from a filled sinus–the problem is creating the proper stimulation to release oxytocin and begin the process. Many adults are accustomed to nipple-sucking as a form of foreplay, but this stimulation is different from the more engaged suckling needed to prompt the release of oxytocin and production of milk.
To latch correctly, the lips must be sealed against the areola, rather than just around the nipple. The recipient should try to fit as much of the breast into the mouth as is comfortable. Rolling the tongue back will pull the nipple and a portion of the areola back onto the tongue and press it against the roof of the mouth–this motion squeezes the milk sinuses behind the nipple, coaxing milk into the mouth. Minimum suction is needed because the recipient does not really “suck” milk from the breast so much as swallow any milk that has been pressed out of the sinuses. Suckling is accomplished by a pulsation of rhythmic sucking, moderate squeezing of the nipple and a portion of the areola by the tongue, and occasional swallowing. Sucking harder and squeezing roughly will not only get you nowhere, but can actually damage the milk ducts. If you’re trying to increase production, remember to continue suckling for a few minutes after the breast has emptied, which indicates to the milk ducts that they need to meet higher demand.As a couple becomes experienced with adult nursing, suckling becomes rhythmic and relaxed. When suckled properly, women often experience bouts of uterine contractions (much like the ones that occur during orgasm) as a result of the intense hormone release – reward your partner accordingly! Each partner should be sure that the other is comfortable, and speak up if any discomfort or pain occurs. It can sometimes take time for the recipient to latch on without too much interference from the teeth. It is also totally normal for a “hickey” to form above/around the nipple after suckling, especially if the suckling partner has facial hair. I personally enjoyed the extra stimulation my partner provided by lightly, rhythmically squeezing my breast while suckling–not sure if it will actually accelerate the induction process, but it feels great!
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