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I know we’ve talked about this before, but how far will you go for abf/anr? Do you only want a partner less than an hour away or is another state ok with plans to move? I think distance is one of the biggest barriers to people finding partners and am curious about opinions. As times goes on, do you find your definition of “distance” becoming more flexible or rigid?
For me distance is only a factor till my daughter finishes High School. After then I’m open to starting a relationship anywhere also long as we have a connection and I can find a job.
The only reason distance is a factor for me is because I have found a place I actually feel at home. I don’t want to move and lose that feeling.
That being said, I understand that it is equally life-altering for the woman, so I understand if she doesn’t feel like leaving her city/state of residence.
I am currently talking with someone and she is (relatively speaking) nearby. We’ll see how it goes, because we are both in busy lives. So far, things are going well. But until we meet in person for the first time (there are a lot of things that have to fall into place for her before we do), we are taking it one day at a time.
I am retired, age 68 and an ANR newbie in Iowa. I am looking for a relationship of deep intimacy as modeled by ANR ethic. If I can meet and build a long distance relationship of sufficient power, I will relocate virtually anywhere that I can manage financially which, granted, is a limitation. I can only hope to meet a woman who will be patient and take a little risk. My intentions are good but I find people to be so fearful and suspicious.
I may consider LDR, but the next 2 years I have few things to finish where I am, so locally is my best bet or limited travel. I became very selective and will not settle down for a person where we have very little in common. Whatever happens, I am not in a hurry.
Distance has never been an issue for me. I’m fortunate enough to work remote, so if I found my ABF a-alike and her and I have a mutual desire for it, then moving is not an issue. I’ve already travelled in excess of 350 miles one way to see if things would work, and distance was not a factor in why things didn’t work out.
I work online, so I can move and travel wherever. If it means I can check out a new destination while seeing someone – cool
I think it’s important to talk about this and helpful to put out there when chatting with someone at a distance.
For the right person, I’d make anything work.Normally, to meet abf friends the max distance is 2-3 hours.
That being said I have been lucky enough to meet with abf friends on a trip out west a couple of years ago. Also when traveling to Virginia for rocket launches The last few years I’ve tried to meet abf friends during my solo “Dad’s vacay” week. This year is a loop around Lake Michigan. It should be a blast!I have an informal “no long-distance relationships” policy, at least for people that I’ve only met on-line. But parties interested in ANR/ABF are thin on the ground, and it can feel like it’s long-distance or nothing.
Heck, where I live (a sprawling, traffic-choked megalopolis) even “local” is actually long-distance enough that there’s resistance to meeting. Sigh.
When I get my private jet, though, I’m traveling to meet you all! 🥳
My limit is about 4 hours, 6 if you are super special to me.
@natasha – I’m similar. For the right person, geographical distance becomes irrelevant, although it does take me time to fully get to know the person properly before I’d take the leap of faith required for relocating to be with a partner. I’m quietly confident enough in my experienced suckling technique, and my giving nature, that I’d not disappoint a lady in that department. I’m also happy to share personal info about myself to build trust with her. I try to let go of any expectations and just let the connection grow on its own, or if it’s not meant to be then it fizzles out. Or sometimes it even results in being blocked. Whatever way it works out, I will never try to force my way into anyone’s world nor allow them to do that to me.
Id travel anywhere within Ireland. Outside of that probably not. I wont relocate as i have a young child who is in school and has a fantastic social life where we live.
I am at a juncture in my life where I would consider relocating in 2 years or so for the right person. I also don’t mind an LDR leading up to it.
Of course, if I can find my unicorn 🦄 in my backyard, then that would be grand.
I have a career I love and really don’t want to give it up.
With that being said, I’d travel up to 90 mins to find a partner. Open to short term LDR as well.
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