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First meets always seem like such an awkward thing to plan… you’ve chatted and there is a spark… what next???
I usually ask what the rest of their day is looking like and if we spark too well we usually have a mini-session at either of our places (depending on if we’re comfortable). Convo typically leads by saying “So would you like to give it a shot?”….
But it is always fair and reasonable for me to expect we scheduled to meet publicly for a casual lunch/dinner or whatever and then go our separate ways until next time. We hug, chat some more. “It’s looking late, how about we catch up some more next time”
You can’t go wrong with a coffee meetup at any given Starbucks (or any teahouse).
I prefer to meet for coffee or something without the expectation to nurse the first time, just to make sure we both feel comfortable with each other and not have that pressure lingering. Also, you just never know about people online, and It’s a safety issue for me to meet in public for the first time. You just never know till your gut or intuition has a chance to give them an all clear!
Oh I misread, I thought you said what happens DURING a first meet. This is what I get for reading first thing in the morning.
But I did mention it, a casual non-sexual meet is usually what I go for. Lunch, coffee, anything that doesn’t have the pressure of expectations or going to places that are not public.
Assuming we chat and get along well, we set up a meeting in a popular coffee house or a bagel shop. Cream cheese on the nose is a great ice breaker.😜 We talk about our expectations for this meeting. Describe our attire to aid in identification. Same for vehicle description. Is an initial hug okay? Stuff like that.
I hope that helps to answer your question.If there is a spark, I like to meet up somewhere, coffee at the beach, maybe a drink at a club or bar, then see where it leads, don’t want to force anything, it has to feel natural 😊
Like has already been said Starbucks or teahouse sure. First meeting at a club or bar is a definite NO for me. I need to make sure the woman feels safe and we can hear each other and not have to worry about some weirdo slipping a ruffie in her drink or a belligerent drunk hitting on her.
Always at a well lit public place and for God sake men always pick up the tab and remember to thank her for meeting and offer to walk her to her car, it is what a gentlemen does and also shows chivalry and concern for her safety that is also important to you.
All the best to everyone.
Thanks for sharing the tips Trey, sadly many men do need the reminders that chivalry is not dead and most women still appreciate the small gestures of true gentleman 😊
My pleasure and thank you for yours as well. Safety, comfortability, and chemistry are all most important.
Thanks to Grogman for the reminder about sharing vehicle and clothing descriptions as well.
Thank you Cheshire for posting the question. It is an important topic to discuss.👍🏻
It’s a hard one, meeting someone for a coffee with the already pre-understood notion that they want to suckle your breasts …
So many good conversations seem to stall at that first meeting and that before we even consider where to meet for any first closeness.Thank you all for your thoughts … much appreciated xx
Trey,
Thank you for reminding the men to be courteous and chivalrous. I am perfectly able to pay for my own drink or meal, but the act of picking up the tab is more important than I initially thought. I always offer to split the bill, but when a man took me up on my offer, I thought less of him and came to the conclusion that he must not think enough of me. And, both conclusions turned out to be right. Guys, make a great first impression and take care of the lady. If it becomes a relationship, splitting costs is more than acceptable.
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